It's very hard for me to sympathize with someone who dies from a drug overdose.
Because at the end of the day, they did that to themselves. They have no one else to blame for their troubles. It's a choice.
shareI remember someone who technically died of a drug overdose, but it's not what you would expect. There was someone I hated for 2 years because of how mean, disrespectful, and cruel they had been to me and others online. However, 2 years after our [indirect] online flame war, the asshole died of a stroke, which is odd, because the person in question was in their early 40s. However, there were a lot of factors playing into this, and after looking over all of them, I think there was no one to really blame but the person in question for their demise. I'll give you the factors playing in:
- This person was overweight and lived a sedentary lifestyle.
- They were forced to stay indoors due to extreme outdoor allergies (and their other symptoms point strongly at this being a form of undiagnosed Lupus).
- This person had extreme Menorrhagia (look it up, I'd prefer not to explain here).
- In an attempt to self-treat the above condition, they made the mistake of not wearing one, but two patches designed to stop one from having babies. (This person was never gonna have kids anyway, so it wasn't an issue for them).
- A blood clot formed in their sinuses, traveled into their brain, and got lodged in a vessel deep in the brain, and there wasn't much the doctors could do other than control the seizures and keep the patient comfortable, as well as try to treat the other two strokes that followed.
Something tells me this person was responsible for their own demise, if they were too stupid to realize the dangers of their own personal condition, as well as wearing medical patches that pumped twice as much chemicals into their bodies that ran the risk of thrombosis.
But then again, I don't feel much sympathy for people who like to throw their weight around websites, kick people out on a whim, and then lie about why to the rest of the community. Or worse, have attack dogs for friends who torment their "enemies."
You guys think the above person got what they deserved?
He may have unconsciously created the scenario he wanted. I think clinical depression may belong in your diagnosis of his pathologies; so, yes, he got what he deserved. I infer from what you say that he was socially isolated (and someone who lives online IS socially isolated), so there was no chance that a friend could have intervened and gotten him the therapy he apparently needed. The result was inevitable.
shareWell, this person was married, and her husband and best friend lived in the same house as her. So this person was partially isolated. The only reason the community liked them was because they made modifications for an old game program. That and this person used to be nice, heavily involved in the online community for the game, and had a good sense of humor...until they got power-mad on their own website.
shareIt sounds like a very dysfunctional trio with a combined emotional IQ of zero. I am sorry she tried to make you a victim.
shareNo.
Does this sound like a happy, productive, person connected to life?
They sound like a person with no feeling of power and that made them a bully. That's not choosing to be a bully when you have a world full of options.
Here's a dumb but true example: Imagine you stub your two or smash your "funny bone" or a branch falls and hits you in the head, etc and someone right at that moment asks you what you think of world peace and babies! What would your answer be? Probably "WTF!!" or something crude.
That would be completely understandable.
Now, a chronic illness is like a stubbed toe that never ends. It induces fear, which can lead to false anger, because you know the rest of your life will be all about feeling this stubbed toe.
If you know someone is sick, show compassion. It will be your turn one day unless you're lucking enough to just drop dead in your sleep.
This person was a liar, a manipulator, and a narcissist, that preyed on people who had troubled pasts, used what people said in the past against them, lied about others to make themselves look like innocent victims, stole artwork from others, turned entire communities against their enemies, and persecuted those who tried to expose them for their true self.
They even went so far as to make fun of a brain tumor one of their victims had, and caused heart problems in another person who was caught up in the fights. They even locked their own best friends out of the website they helped to create, and threw out other people who were supposed to be their best friends when they thought that person had betrayed them. They were so petty, they even threw out people just because they were friends with some of their enemies. Does that sound like someone who's an innocent victim to you?
I get it, but trust me, people with mental problems are not nice.
I have known lots of therapists who quit or get depressed because they think people want help and will be grateful. That's almost never the case. People are like dogs when they're under stress, abused, etc, they may attack.
It takes a LOT to be nice and think nice thoughts about someone in that state.
I knew a guy who had AIDS, back before there was treatment, and a nurse was taking his blood. He picked up the needle and poked her with it, just for the hell of it. Very handsome guy and you'd never guess.
I think I get what you're saying, and it made me get a better picture on this person. I mean, this person had many things that a lot of people would be envious of, such as a loving husband, a bff that actually lived in there with them (kind of like a family of young adults), a nice mom, an entire community of gamers that were awed by their talent in modding, best friends on their very own website that they all helped build, a slightly smaller niche community that almost worshiped this person....and yet it wasn't enough.
I guess being forced (by a medical condition) to live like a hermit in a hot, sweaty state kinda changes a person.
I'm not sure for certain if this person had any mental issues, though it is very possible they had depression and narcissistic personality disorder. Their behavior and actions suggest both.
When this jerk threw me out, they just assumed I would be like the others and cry and disappear into the web. The asshole had no idea what kind of sleeping dragon they awoke....at all.
Who in their right mind even takes online stuff that seriously?!?!?! Damn! Some people just need to go outside and go for a walk or something!!
The day I let someone typing at me have that king of control over me, I hope a Bradley tank falls on me or something.
Eh. Possibly. Difficult to make that judgment not having any personal contact.
shareI would prefer not to have had personal contact with this person back when they were alive. Maybe before 2016, they were more agreeable, but because I wasn't into modding, I wasn't worthy of this webmaster's time or energy. They kinda had a clique hidden amongst the crowd of lurkers, if you know what I mean.
shareIt's crazy how some people go completely over the edge with things that have little or no bearing on life in the real world.
shareThe sad part is, this jerk's best friends are still alive, and the one time I made a peep online, they all went ballistic, complete with nuclear, weapons-grade swearing and threats. But then again, they're just mad because they were served a small portion of their just-desserts a year before their master croaked.
shareI couldn't agree more!
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