How to make a bad first impression?
Show up late.
shareSplit the bill on a blind date😆
shareThis is tough, because if you're not splitting, then somebody is making a bad first impression, and if you're the same sex, what's the rule? I feel presumptuous paying for the whole tab or letting someone pick it up if I've never met them before.
shareIm hetero and always grabbed the bill when i was unmarried and dating girls
You do raise an interesting point but i would still grab the check even if i was dating a guy...i think its a classy move and shows you care
Also, over-tipping the waitress is a nice thing to do
Im in the habit of paying AND over-tipping...it has served me well
But insisting on paying is such a power move, and to me comes across as desperate and sort of insulting. It's way too old fashioned. It's like saying let me establish upfront that we are not equals.
shareYou make a fair point here, i cant really argue as it does seem a 'power move...'
But i never really expected 'action' from a lady when i drove her to a nice dinner...
This is a tough one Pete...
I just feel like the guy should pay and on same sex dates i would still take the check...
The person that got treated could buy ice cream later or a few rounds of drinks...
And after a moment of introspection i sort of get your point...grabbing the check does seem a little bossy and braggy...still, I will always prefer to pay
Im not a great person but i do enjoy making others happy when i can
Not a big deal today as women are making more money than men in some cases.
shareI feel like the guy should always pay How...
Many years ago (i was in my early 20s) some girl i was out with grabbed the check and told me to pony up like 20 bucks or something!
She wanted to pay for her meal!!
I took this as a sign...never called her again
The man should pay...gotta be a gent and this nutty girl tried to take that from me
I thought that was really weird
Whoever asked the other out should pay.
Thus, if a woman asked a man on a dinner date, she is paying.
Disagree Amigo
Maybe im just old...maybe im wrong and being a sexist pig:/
If so, i am sorry
I dont mean to be a macho pig guy
I just think that the man should always pay for drinks, dinner, movie tickets, whatever...i always held the door open, fetched cocktails and walked on the streetside during a romantic stroll...
I think its nice to be sweet and thoughtful with the ladies...they seem to enjoy the polite Gent treatment
This makes the most sense to me but it inadvertently backfired on me once.
My girlfriend & I lived across the hall from each other in the same apartment building and worked for the same company. We had a nice arrangement going on while maintaining a certain measure of mutual independence.
During one week end off, she told me she wanted to take me to a popular Chinese buffet. About half-way through our day, I realized I wasn't hungry enough for that so I suggested going to a likewise popular burger joint. This was in the late spring, a beautiful day and my choice had a nice outdoor terrace where we ate. We had done Dutch before so I blindly assumed we were doing it again. She seemed to be enjoying the experience until several hours later when the facade dropped and I caught it with both barrels. I was temporarily bewildered. She had felt "humiliated" while I thought I had saved her some money.
She had been secretly fuming, stressing for hours when I'm certain all the other people there that afternoon had just noticed a man and woman having lunch together but paying separately, no big deal.
Yeah in a back and forth situation like that, while still dating, it's best to clarify before sitting down.
But hey I thought women were supposed to be the ones who communicate instead of burying feelings and fuming!