What do you think was the overall message of the movie?
I personally think it's that you aren't supposed to be with your "soulmate" your entire life. You are meant to be with certain people at certain points in your life. And just because someone destroys you, it doesn't mean it was a mistake, or not worth it, or that you never should have been with them. Many people find the ending depressing but I found it quite hopeful.
That hipster people are finicky, pretentious and REALLY annoying.
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To me the film always meant that, no matter what your views on love, whether it exists or not, and in this case Summer believing it didn't, that when you just know and meet the right one (which she did in the end), that nature takes over. When it's the REAL thing, i believe someone, no matter how busy, how many excuses, how opposed they are to it, they will go for it.
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- Don't get consumed by a relationship/be too clingy.
- Focus on yourself at all times. That goes for self-improvement, getting better, having interests, etc.
- There are many more fish in the sea.
That love isn't forced. Summer basically revealed this at her last appearance in the film when Tom asked her how she just up and got married after leaving him in the dust as she refused to make them official. (Throughout the movie it's obvious that Tom began to feel strongly about Summer rather quickly. He began to come off as overly anxious to make them official after just knowing that him and Summer liked similar things.) She then explained to Tom how she fell in love with someone else by saying "it just happened." Also, at the very end of the movie, Tom realizes that love (or anything else) isn't meant to be or destined but its simply just coincidence. Again, it just happens; Love isn't forced.
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That people suck and life goes on.
There's ALWAYS money in the banana stand!
The overall message is to proceed into new relationships with caution.
NO relationship should take the amount of arm twisting work that it did for the one in this movie - the writing was on the wall the entire time that she just wasn't that into him.
Many people (including myself) have landed in Toms position and the key is to bail out before you get too emotionally involved and ultimately end up like Tom did.
In my less experienced 20's I too would have run into a relationship with Summer, based on my attraction to her and mutual music interest.
Now in my early 30's? I would be GONE after one date of listening to her standpoint on love and especially after all her "nothing serious" hints. I wouldn't try to change her mind nor would I spend more than 5 minutes trying to understand her viewpoint - I'd just go looking for the next candidate.
ADDENDUM - Don't date individuals that are clearly not into you as much as you are into them. You'll thank me when you've avoided a broken heart and all the bs that goes with it.