films that equate infidelity with romance

It appears no one has mentioned the importance of the war as an influence on one's moral compass. As westerners it is easy to miss this, and even during the war the US especially was spared from most of the ugliness that WWII wrought on Europe and North Africa. Having both sets of my grandparents survive through the war with their respective families was no small feat. It was a "different time".

I know if I was in a position where the threat of danger and death was part of my every day, I might not worry to much about keeping up appearances. Life is especially fleeting during time of war, and it is awfully hard for me to have any negative feelings about Katharine engaging in her affair.

I did not see this film as an "infidelity = romance" sort of thing. That would be like calling Kill Bill a chick flick because the film's top billed stars are all female.

Savoir, c'est pouvoir

One's morals should not be obtained from a novel or a book. That is taught from childhood on. But sometimes people do marry the wrong person, in fact, very often it happens..see the divorce rate...not counting the people in loveless, nonsexual marriage. It happens very often and statistics show that in tense and stressful times two people may be thrust together and temptation happens. A war is a perfect example of that kind of stress.

I had an affair with someone married who's wife lied to him about her career as a flight attendant she would do groundwork if he married her. They had broken up many times before marriage for that one reason, she neglected him. We met by chance at a time I was going through multiple back surgeries through a mutual friend and felt an instant attraction. We tried to stay apart living about 100 miles apart, but the more unhappy he was the more he contacted me. When she started flying internationally and was gone even more, that drove him to me and I loved him despite the circumstances. He was such a selfless man who treated me like a princess, not the monetary way, but with how he cared for me. Making me breakfast in bed while I slept and watching over me, and I took excellent care of him and his tender feelings.

It was a very emotional time and we could have written a book about it. He gave her an ultimatum, quit flying or he was leaving, she refused after making him that promise before marriage and not consulting him about her career choices. He left her and she went ballistic being the brat that she was (I met and talked with her at length and she blamed him).

We didn't make it due to her constant calling and interfering for 18 months and she agreed to stop flying and have children (he was 40 already, I was 38). I couldn't have children because of my spine issues so he left me after counseling when a counselor told him we couldn't adopt an older child....she was so wrong. She just didn't like that he had been married so she tried to break us up. His wife did not take him back for several more years as a punishment, they never had kids, and he went on to cheat more on her after they did get back together. He just never really loved anyone else enough to leave her again and we lived farther apart then.

So you see, sometimes things happen in life...it isn't all black and white. I have never loved another man or even met one like him since, he was irreplaceable. I knew several people that happened to and they ended up together for decades. They married too young to begin with. They met a soul mate finally and it is romantic compared with the lust one confuses for love when young.

Movies are reflections sometimes of imperfections in us. You can not judge the quality of a movie based on your morals or don't go see it to begin with. You can read the reviews prior, but to come on here and put down a movie because it offends you is ludicrous. Judge the movie on it's merits and this one is a well made, almost perfectly acted movie and I doubt many of us will be in that situation...ever.



"Sometimes you have to know when to put a cork in it."
~Frasier

One man's wife is another man's mistress.

"Same Time, Next Year" is another one...

Don't forget Lady Chatterley's Lover-- all three versions of it... A man cheating on his crippled wife with her employer would be totally unacceptable...yet we root for Connie when she does it..

A boy's best friend is his mother.
- Psycho (1960)

No,it is the same degree of moral depravity.
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Falling in Love with Meryl Streep and DeNiro is beautiful and portrays more realistic circumstances of an actual affaire: two married (not unhappily)strangers who meet in the train. The outlook or outcome of the movie is very interesting.. they both make courageous and risky decisionsfor the sake of being true to themselves and their feelings... how falling in love with someone changes everything... but does not have a happily ever after finale on purpose... I think it is a grown-up movie about relationships and places love over conventional morality. I think the movie's title is clever.

The Great Gatsby.

I just saw this for the first time, and found the story pretty despicable.


Mirror inspector is a job I could really see myself doing.