Ever experience love at first sight?
I did once. I seen her walk by at morning break and I was in awe. I didn't get to meet her until the next week. We hit off immediately. She was one of a kind: great personality and so pretty.
shareI did once. I seen her walk by at morning break and I was in awe. I didn't get to meet her until the next week. We hit off immediately. She was one of a kind: great personality and so pretty.
shareYes, but it's toxic. You don't know anything about the person, you are idealizing a fictional character. Most likely she isn't single, and potentially out of your league altogether. And for the next 20 years, you will compare every woman to the idea you had in your head, and they will never match up to your expectation. It's a concept known as being "alpha widowed", but it doesn't just happen to women. The difference is that average women are typically able to secure casual sex from this caliber of partner, making her think that's her "level".
shareIn my case, she and I went on a date about two weeks after we met. However, we didn't go on a 2nd date until a month or so later then we started dating regularly.
Mine wasn't even single, and she showed up in my actual house. My mom ran an assisted living from our home, and this girl was doing community service there, because her friend stole or something. Every time she spoke to me, I would melt, and I tried to tell myself it was inappropriate and not to pay attention to her, but my mind was completely hijacked. I will probably never feel that way again.
shareDid you try and establish a friendship? Yeah, mine wasn't single either. That was a benefit because I just could just sit back and get to know her without any expectations. When she became single then it became like you said mind was hijacked.
shareNo, I ran away. The advice I always got was the "friend zone" is a place you don't want to be. I didn't have any history of being friends with girls, I was always trying to screw. This was a new and uncomfortable experience, not having all the power, not being in control of my "state". I was embarrassed, and afraid of having my heart crushed, so I ran.
I could probably handle being friends now that I've matured, but there's an aspect of not wanting that caliber of girl to "settle" for someone like me. I get judged harshly by society, so they would be setting themselves up for hardship. Their family would be worried, their friends would criticise, their community would judge, so I completely rule it out.
YES...YES I HAVE.
shareWho?? Samoanjoes?? π€ I mean he tells good jokes you know??
shareThey were both in a thrift store, one was looking for VHS movies and the other was looking for books on puns.
Their bloodshot eyes met and it was that moment that they knew, they hated each other. No wait, I meant the other emotion.
I picture this scenario using The OFFICE Method with the close up facial expressions like they used to do
shareLeave my name out of it.
Signed, million man.
A total visual reading experience.
shareLet me guess, you both reached for a copy of Hitch and the next thing you both knew, you were getting hitched in the meet-cute of this century lol
shareNo, but my dad did :) It's worked out great for him and mom ever since.
What's nice to know is that it actually does happen in real life, but it's super-rare. Most people work their way into love through a close friendship and getting to know each other through dating, usually with one having the love goal in mind to start with, and the other one slowly figures things out.
Yes, with approximately five lead singers of various musical groups between 6th and 9th grades. Not with anyone in person.
shareNo, more so, it's kind of as Glenn CLose speaks of in "Fatal Attraction"...
Some people - there is an instant spark when you start talking to one another. You can feel the attraction right away.
So yeah, plenty of that.
But love at first sight? Nah. Maybe only with my dog.
It's hard to confirm because nothing ever came of it and I didn't pursue, but yes I felt something very like what I can only assume is love at first sight, and I've only felt it once with one person and never again.
shareWhat stopped you from pursuing it?
shareWe were both in really transitional places in our lives at the time. I was just about to move out for the first time and start university, he was about to go back overseas, life got hectic and we lost touch. He did influence me to travel though, and I fell in love with it, so he gave me two pretty valuable things.
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