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When you were young, did your family move a lot?


Was it your parents' jobs or family situations that created the need to move a lot?

It's been said that moving when young either makes or breaks a person. Some grow and thrive while doing so, while others just try to survive. How did moving so much affect you as a person?

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Yes! I grew up in a military family on bases and military towns across the world. As a teenager, often changing schools was a challenge, as well as losing friends, which is so important during those transitional years. In hindsight, I'm now very grateful for those experiences. I feel they contributed to my becoming a very open minded and adaptive person.

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No.

I assume everyone who moved around either had (a) parents in the military or (b) were wanted by the police.

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We moved a decent amount when we weren't sitting in chairs.

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It didn't happen to me, but I certainly knew people whose employers continuously moved them around the country like the proverbial "pawns on a chessboard". I had a co-worker with kids who was moved 3 times in 2 years, supposedly because one of the "higher-ups" overheard her say something very uncomplimentary at a company function.

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Yes. My family moved a lot due to dad being a power plant engineer. Things were always changing at whatever power plant he was working at, whether it be downsizing, or the company went under, or they got bought out, things like that. Rarely did I ever live anywhere longer than 5 years at a time. In some cases, we'd move out just a year after getting there, or 2-3 years later.

It was really hard to make lasting friends, and was hard emotionally on all of us. There's something about watching your life disappear into dozens of cardboard boxes on a moving van, having to say goodbye to a town or house you've gotten attached to, and never seeing any of it again. Plus, with each move, you end up "losing" stuff to storage, and often treasures you had as a kid, you rarely ever see again unless you deliberately go digging, or are cleaning out the garage once every few years with a dumpster in the driveway. You end up feeling like a tree that's almost constantly being uprooted and replanted into more and more uncomfortable pots, and it gets harder each time.

But the worst part can sometimes involve culture shock, particularly if you're a kid going to a new school. I hated going to new schools, especially if they operated under a system that was so radically different from the previous school.

It's because of all that, I've never really felt at home anywhere, nor have I really felt like I belonged anywhere. Even in states with nice people, I just never was able to form lasting attachments to the places I lived.

Just once, I'd like to live in some place I can stand and not have to go anywhere for 10 years for any reason. It's why I refuses to ever marry anybody in the armed services or an engineer. I don't want to go through that shit again.

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NOPE...NOT ONCE...I MOVED INTO MY GRANDMOTHERS HOUSE WHEN I WAS 11...OTHER THAN THAT...NO MOVES.

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Not really.

4 moves total while I was in my parent's home.

One while I was a baby - didn't even know it happened.

Then three that I know of.

Seems pretty stable to me.

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