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Do you think I am mean and horrible in here?

posted 7 months ago by TheMan18 (13188)
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NO OFFENSE TO ANYONE, and of course, sorry for any inconvenience and I hold no grudges even if (well, can't please everyone, but don't worry, I won't criticize and perform "defense attacks" here, I am as a nearly 38 year old white Russian/English male nowadays tend to be WAY beyond that, no matter who is genuinely guilty, and I do admit I was out of line sometimes) but am I like that at all? Hopefully not, but if I do or did come across that way, I do of course apologize.

And of course, I do agree with basics and sorry for the tantrums including also occasional broaching of difficult subjects in other areas whereas still seeing and recognizing general, you know, but I try not to be too mad and angry these days at all.

And folks, please don't say or think I treat everyone or even some folks here like "sh!t", its not true at all. Or state that I am wrong or deserve to be ridiculed if I complain others "bully me", it can be like this on rare occasion, but also keep in mind, besides two wrongs never equalling a right - THERE IS such as thing known as "EFFECTIVELY handling a SITUATION". And I never was into teasings when I even was a kid, I am much LESS into it now as an ADULT. And sorry if I also demonstrated examples of what I would call a "provocation phobia" - but don't worry, its not as awful, "insane" or anything as I under less than perfect circumstances MAY have made it out to be. And with the subject of you know who as you know who including from points of view of LAW generally, I ALSO agree and understand. But I had some in other cases moments of shy guy embarrassments, in other SLIGHT uncertainty, in others an overall desire for SATISFYING conclusions mixed with a semi-indulgent communication STYLE (easier that way on my conscience, and not to TELL others "what to do" EITHER) and SOME things I discovered often went against what I believed or thought was the actual case for DECADES - but then again, none of us FULLY know the world and humanity ANYWAYS, and INTERNET just makes it more visible in today's day and age than TV and newspapers did say 30 years ago, except for devoted folks but not just that but anyways...

And yes I am into films a LOT as well and I sometimes get TAKEN (not fully unlike that 2008 Liam Neeson flick, lol) by tropes and stuff featured in them. But I can see why others may NOT be and just speak of MATTERS in general not just from negative culprit attitude or one that's... oh well, but no unnecessarily bad defense from me either, even as a sensitive and an impressionable MAN (yes, folks, I AM male too).

But anyways, hope its now and for others alright and ALSO - with YEARS passing, even if it all remains online, I am sure it WON'T matter all that much. Time heals, as they say, oh well. Regards, Alex, The Man 18. :)

[–] db20db (17756) 7 months ago

Nope! That bad rap belongs to me. 😁

[–] TheMan18 (13188) 7 months ago

I will DEFINITELY try to take it a lot easier from now on folks. And yes English is indeed my SECOND language, first one is Russian. And I definitely try not to be but in life and especially online, I often couldn't help but pretend both wantonly and naturally that I am smart, and maybe I am to a degree, but not Nobel Peace level genius etc.

And I even have a bizarre habit of "arguing" with folks even when I AGREE - as in, you are right BUT, and I used to think this but oh my God this is why its REALLY like that etc, sort of way, sometimes even for years. I am also a little - a lot actually at times, HYPE and POP CULTURE sensitive, yes, I even had conflicts or near conflicts over MUSIC especially modern POP music reasons, but its all behind me now.

And I won't ever force myself on anyone as in to get along if they don't want to, even if I feel the "beef" wasn't really worth it. But its cool now too. In few years time, I am sure it will be even better too.

[–] TheMan18 (13188) 7 months ago

On a perhaps lesser, or not, but slightly different, but still very much RELATED note...

Do you think that me in here, or elsewhere (online communities) let alone IN REAL LIFE...

A lot of my say queries on various issues related to human LAWS, s*xual*ty, cinema and various related tropes, morality, human attitudes of VARIOUS kinds (not just well known ones but also slightly various examples), me being perhaps a little too into stuff like wanting a satisfying narrative, me sometimes QUESTIONING things (and in past, I was much more fierce on that front and sometimes asked provocative and potentially unpopular stuff i.e. what if we had no laws, but then for some matters, I looked at their other aspects too, and things that surprised me, ALSO, for some reason, I often ended up more affected by them when I saw them in FILM than were I to hear of it in real life, but then again, cinema often allowed me to indulge in DISTANCE and curiosity, and sometimes escapist if still disturbing "fun" of an adult variety - and MOST films are BATHED in those controversial, disturbing etc elements, that I ended up being taken into them for decades) etc...

Am I always wrong, bad, terrible on those front, and if I may POTENTIALLY HAVE been like it in the past, is it OK to move on from it for now, and no one will get too wrong an impression let alone do something awful in reality - HOPE AS HELL NOT of course.

P.S. My RECENT social fear has become related to movie downloads and potential modern piracy, SOME folks, see your PMs for details, but maybe nothing too much to worry about either?

[–] StoneKeeper (28408) 7 months ago

I say or think you treat everyone or even some folks here like "sh!t", its true. I state that you are wrong or deserve to be ridiculed if you complain others "bully you".

*Sorry, I really don’t like being told what to say or think. I’m a non-conformist/anarchist.

If I can say the true bottom of my heart though; I enjoy when you post about movies but the rest of your rents I don’t care for. But when I don’t see you for a while and then I see a post from you I think to myself “oh! Glad he’s still here.” Does this make sense to you? I can write it incoherently if it can help

[–] ShogunofYonkers (78608) 7 months ago

No, not at all. You seem like a thoughtful and decent guy. But as has been pointed out you over-write your posts to the point of tedium. Your OP here did not require five paragraphs. Just try to edit your posts, otherwise it’s a gigantic word salad that nobody can chew through.

I post this with peace and love buddy.

[–] TheMan18 (13188) 6 months ago

People also sometimes asked me (it was over a decade ago folks but don't worry) if "seeing other people's angry reactions really do show plenty of evidence that people for example don't appreciate being deceived" (I would add to the last word - and messed about with, and wanting to indulge me, and being demanded to reply in terms of saying something AND in a certain "way", and have me say make bad provocative jokes sometimes for no valid reason, AND force them or even encourage them to say change their opinion like liking or disliking a certain musical artist or a movie or even not be too mad and angry if they dislike but see some merit to them, and made fun of and even, like in my case, revel in relative ambiguity from time to time etc) and while again I respect and understand what that or those fellows (or fellas) were saying, the answer is - yes and no.

Well, mostly YES, plus, MOST of that stuff I knew ANYWAYS even long BEFORE I joined ANY internet community. And there may WELL be evidence of it overall but sometimes emotionally, I may steer into different direction or it could be that situation wise I still feel down and unsatisfied regardless of how much "guilty" I was in ANY case, and in one particular case, I was actually brooding over stuff that happened months or even years ago but it was as much a matter of personal regret as it was about "Oh why did the situation turn out like THIS etc" and I wasn't ALWAYS thinking about it all in direct ways.

And I often engaged in pseudo talk even way back then, 18 or so years ago. And in the end for example, I still thought about my enjoyment for the music of Mylene Farmer and as much as it may SEEMED this way, it was WAY beyond "me stating an opinion that isn't mine" and I also VALUED my tastes and interests. Same or similar for films or say themes (including ONE example of "uncertainty" and sorry IF I ended up being a little arrogant and getting carried away in the process, and its not just because of someone being

[–] TheMan18 (13188) 6 months ago

"attractive" ALONE like that EITHER and how I even as a "man" (whatever THAT means ALONE in this life!) aren't as "afraid" of some examples than others, but folks may not always choose, again, to INDULGE me here EITHER) and it was also because I COULDN'T HELP IT, not to mention, English not being my first language, and in my life at home outside of school, work and social interactions etc I was often being a FANTASIST as much as I MAY be a nice and legal law abiding citizen overall, and sorry if I WONDERED about things including the desire to EXPLORE but not incite or promote ANY stereotypes like that or even wondering why they may exist IN THE FIRST PLACE as much as they may indeed, but no worries, and I often talked about stuff that happened in the past or in movies etc.

But its all alright folks and don't worry any of you and others please, thank you all.