yep. I get it, and fully back what you are saying, and thank you for replying.
I think everyone agrees don't pick on children, it's kind of common sense adult/parenting knowledge.... which some parents still don't follow... just like laws. Laws are great and work well for most people, we understand laws are setup by us to help us all get along, but laws don't always work.
By that I mean we have LAWS against crimes, yet crimes still happen. I don't want to depend upon laws to protect my fragile psyche against some bad people who WILL break these laws by calling me names. Nor do I want us to HAVE TO setup laws that repress free speech. if someone wants to call me a dickhead, I fully support his right to do so. In that case, it is on me to have thick skin and not let this name calling bother me. 10% what happens to you, 90% how you react.
With "sticks and stones" going by the wayside, we've opened up a generation of thin skinned people, who will now chase down LAWS to protect them from bad people... that will never work, because bad people will always happen, laws or not.
This was the reasoning behind my post: WE need to deal with it, not put it on others. We're becoming unrealistically sensitive (because bad people will happen, laws or not) and becoming triggered cry babies over our spilled milk.
Oh! There's a RELATED phrase that applies also: "Don't cry over spilled milk"
Which means stop standing there fretting over it, clean it up, and move on.
We've become milk cryers now! :)
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sslssg (34211)
2 years ago
Perhaps there is too much crying over little things. But society has always swung on a pendulum and this will change at some point as well. You seem to think that it's people should have thicker skin.
I ask you, why do people think that they are entitled to say nasty things about others. Haven't you ever heard the old saying "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all" ?
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123Guy (7262)
2 years ago
I know that saying well.
Can we agree that regardless of how we WISH people acted in society, it doesn't act that way?
Personally, I blame horrid parenting for ALL OF IT, crime too, but that is a whole other barrel of worms discussion to go there.
So, if people DO say bad things to us (because they will), should we just stand there and take it, mentally absorb it and let it hurt us? Because they are not acting like we WISH they would?
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sslssg (34211)
2 years ago
Can you just turn off your feelings? Has no one ever said anything to you that hurt? Really, what I see happening today, and maybe it has gone too far, maybe it hasn't, is just that people are calling out people who say shitty things. If you can't walk up to someone and slap them (unless you are Will Smith), then why should you be allowed to verbally slap someone? Emotional pain can hurt just as much as physical.
If you think that people have really moved the line on what is and isn't acceptable to say, I will agree with that. The line has moved. Younger generations than mine don't seem to see the same things as funny. Are they wrong? Are we wrong? I don't know. I really, really try not to say anything to hurt people, because I don't want to hurt people. If you are upset that you can't say things that will hurt people then I don't know what else I can say to you.
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123Guy (7262)
2 years ago
this isn't about me at all. I don't WANT to say things to hurt people, I want people to know they don't have to be hurt. they've grown up with out "sticks and stones", and learned to whole heartedly accept people saying bad things as having the ability to hurt them.
We will never stop people being jerks, but WE can reduce their jerk intention abilities to affect us.
Also, as a side effect, thanks to internet and awful parenting, people ARE being more vocal.
"Sticks and stones will break your bones, but words DON'T HAVE TO hurt you."
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sslssg (34211)
2 years ago
I grew up with that saying, and you know what? Words still hurt. Yeah, maybe not from a stranger on the internet, but words have always and will always hurt. The pen is mightier than the sword is another idiom that implies the same thing.
The words themselves don't have to hurt, but the intent behind them sure can.
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