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I can accept it being hard to get laid, I can’t accept girls consistently choosing ugly/inadequate men


I realize the disproportionate amount of attention women get and how it impacts dating, I’m realistic. What I can’t handle is how they invariably choose men with no rewarding attributes, over and over. Some of them are abusive men they have difficulty leaving, but that’s a separate category of mentally weak women with psychological problems.

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If you're a winner you can just grab them by the pussy. - The Donald

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Well maybe those ugly men have something you lack - CONFIDENCE.

Girls always like confidence in men. You don't really need to be asshole to get one. (Even though,assholes will get plenty of girls unfortunately). Just confidence.

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I think your title says it all - sounds like all you are looking for is sex/getting laid. What a turn off.

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Not anymore than any other guy. That’s all dating is is a mating game, even marriage doesn’t last anymore. If you’re implying I wear my libido on my sleeve I don’t, I’m pretty good at appearing genuinely interested.

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Perhaps you should try being instead of appearing.

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I mean I am obviously genuinely interested most of the time in a relationship ultimately, I guess I just said getting laid because that’s the common trope. This really applies to both.

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But I never hear you say you would like to find someone special to have a relationship with. You just complain about how phony women are and how they choose men you feel are inferior to you.

I don't know where you hang out, but perhaps you are looking in the wrong places.

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I’m pretty good at appearing genuinely interested.


Now you just sound like a troll.

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Why are you so concerned with everybody else?

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I’m only concerned because it effects me

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It could be it's not their looks that attracts them. It could be their personalities, their sense of humor, some talent they have that few men possess, or something as simple as lots of money. I could think of quite a few ugly famous men in Hollywood that were able to get plenty of chicks because of their fame and fortunes; but even for them, it might still boil down to personality.

But I will tell you a fun secret, MovieBuff :D. I watched a psychological experiment done on a group of adults on tv, where they had an equal number of men and women. One of the most delightful findings that came out of it was; most people choose a soulmate who is similar in attractiveness to them (and this is totally subconscious, mind you).

Let's say, on a scale of 1-10 (10 being a super-hot sex god(dess), and 1 being "so ugly I want to stab my eyes out"), you can honestly rate most people on our planet as a 6, or in that general area: average in attractiveness. They aren't ugly or beautiful; just something in between, and are okay to look at. In fact, being super-gorgeous or hideously ugly is surprisingly rare among humans, if you think about it.

Now, let's say, there's a guy who's....oh...a 6.5. He's average-looking, pretty much. Chances are very high he's gonna end up with someone who ranges between a 7 and a 5, similar to him. It's the same for women too. It is super-rare to have a gorgeous woman fall for a very ugly man, or vice versa.

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That’s simply not true, I see attractive women with average/ugly dudes all the time. They’re the majority in fact.

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There's another secret: those women wouldn't look so great without their makeup on.

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I account for all of these factors. I consistently see genuinely attractive women with average/ugly dudes.

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ARE YOU BISEXUAL?...IF NOT YOUR RATINGS OF MEN ARE FLAWED AS YOU ARENT ATTRACTED TO MEN.

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Maybe where you see ugly others see beauty.

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That's almost poetic.

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That’s simply not true, I see attractive women with average/ugly dudes all the time. They’re the majority in fact.

Visual attractiveness is much less important to women than to men.

Of course, it matters, but women are gonna prioritize other elements. A self-confident, intelligent, successful, aggressive (but not violent) male is gonna be successful with women even if he's not a cutie.

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Visual attractiveness is much less important to women than to men.


Bullshit.

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That's been proven and widely documented in gender studies and social psychology.

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I think Charlotte is saying visual attractiveness is of greater importance to her.

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I think she's saying that's bovine excrement.

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😀👍

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Not greater necessarily, just great.

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Show us the studies lad.

I can tell you from my POV and my life’s experience that looks matter to women.

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They do but not always. I was at the beach once and watched strangely matched couples all day. There were smoking hot women with dumpy guys everywhere. On the way back upstairs at the hotel we saw a sign for a dentist convention.

So sometimes it doesn’t matter. 😄

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IM ASSUMING YOU ARE STRAIGHT.SO YOU FIND A LARGE QUANTITY OF WOMEN ATTRACTIVE...JUDGING GUYS IS OUTSIDE OF YOUR EXPERTISE...YOU WOULD HAVE TO BE INTO DUDES TO PROPERLY GAUGE A MAN'S SEXUAL/ROMANTIC APPEAL...ALSO THIS WHOLE TOPIC IS BASED ON LOOKS AND NOTHING ELSE...FLAWED FROM THE JUMP.

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Dude, when you see George Constanza, walking with Pamela Anderson all day something’s up. Also my wife said the same thing.

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THAT IS AN OPINION...I FIND PAMELA ANDERSON TO BE DISGUSTING...HOWEVER I THINK JASON ALEXANDER IS A DECENT LOOKING MAN WHEN NOT IN GEORGE COSTANZA GUISE.


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How do you know he’s decent looking?

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ITS MY OPINION.ATTRACTION AND BEAUTY ARE SUBJECTIVE.😉

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Show us the studies lad.

Here you have one, it took one minute to search in google

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6437035/

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Lol I don’t have to the proof is in the pudding. Women everywhere w ugly slobs.

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You're a straight man, which makes you a poor judge of other men's atrractiveness.

If you had a gay friend, AND you were willing to listen to him, then you could get an expert opinion!

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Bullshit lol, I can tell if a guy is attractive or not. What kind of horse shit logic is that?

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I watched a psychological experiment done on a group of adults on tv, where they had an equal number of men and women. One of the most delightful findings that came out of it was; most people choose a soulmate who is similar in attractiveness to them (and this is totally subconscious, mind you).

That used to be the case, but it has changed last years because of internet dating. And it's becoming a BIG problem.

With internet dating becoming mainstream, for example, girls that are a 5 have become used to bang guys that are a 10. Not because these chicks are suddenly attractive, but because very attractive guys are... well, guys, which means they're willing to fuck everything that moves. In a nutshell, these guys are fucking the full catalog. So, where's the problem? Those chicks think that, since they're used to fuck guys that are a 10... they must be a 10, isn't it? And nope, they're far from it.

Most people used to choose a soulmate who is similar in attractiveness to them, which is a good strategy to create a long lasting relationship. But because of internet dating, many women are getting the wrong idea about their level of attractiveness. At the end of the day, sex is a market. And inaccurate info is a fucking market killer.

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Then perhaps people should remove the internet from the equation when it comes to dating.

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You don’t get it, it doesn’t just affect internet dating it has impacted all dating.

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Why do you think I don't use the internet to date? I did it on IMVU and was severely disappointed twice. We all get unrealistic expectations of people. I'm just wondering why you believe that women have this power over men? Or that you have failed at life if you can't have someone to stick your dipstick into every other week? There's more to life than sex, you know. If you measure your life based on how often you have sex, you're going to be forever disappointed.

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I didn’t say you didn’t use the internet to date? And if you don’t see the power and extreme advantages women have over men you are just being obtuse.

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There are many reasons I've never talked men into sleeping with me. For one thing, I don't do in pre-marital intercourse. I'm not a big fan of STD's, unplanned pregnancies, or making the mistake of trying to use sex to hook a guy in, and then he treats me like crap in the morning because I behaved like a slut the night before. Or he sees me as "easy." I'm not that kind of woman. Or worse, the guy is a Sex Brat and throws a tantrum and makes mean accusations when someone like me turns them down. The quieter ones I've seen just leave the girl and never talk to her again when he can't convince her in a subtle way to sleep with him after a few dates. Such guys are not worth getting involved with.

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I'm just wondering why you believe that women have this power over men? Or that you have failed at life if you can't have someone to stick your dipstick into every other week? There's more to life than sex, you know. If you measure your life based on how often you have sex, you're going to be forever disappointed.
...I don't do in pre-marital intercourse. I'm not a big fan of STD's, unplanned pregnancies, or making the mistake of trying to use sex to hook a guy in, and then he treats me like crap in the morning because I behaved like a slut the night before. Or he sees me as "easy." I'm not that kind of woman. Or worse, the guy is a Sex Brat and throws a tantrum and makes mean accusations when someone like me turns them down. The quieter ones I've seen just leave the girl and never talk to her again when he can't convince her in a subtle way to sleep with him after a few dates.
Not all of us are prudes or asexual the way you are.
I don't think there's anything wrong with a man--or a woman--wanting to hook up with a stranger, as long as both parties consent and know what they are getting into.
The advise I would give the OP is to look for women who are looking for the same thing he is and be sure there is no misunderstanding between him and whoever he attempts to seduce. And online dating should, if anything, make it easier for guys looking for hookups to meet like-minded women.
This isn't rocket science, people.

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Key word should, unfortunately it’s just the opposite. The ratios are terrible, there are millions of guys trying to do the same thing and not nearly as many girls interested in simply hooking up, most want a relationship.

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Key word should, unfortunately it’s just the opposite. The ratios are terrible, there are millions of guys trying to do the same thing and not nearly as many girls interested in simply hooking up, most want a relationship.

Key word should, unfortunately it’s just the opposite. The ratios are terrible, there are millions of guys trying to do the same thing and not nearly as many girls interested in simply hooking up, most want a relationship.
Answer us this: are you only interested in getting laid? It's okay if you are, just say so.
And if so, you should be able to find a woman who wants the same. Failing that, there's always getting a hooker.

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I agree with you. Casual sex is OK as long as both parties go into it with open eyes and hopefully take the necessary precautions to prevent pregnancy and STD's.

But I still don't think that is what the majority of women are looking for and guys that make it obvious that is all they want are a turn off.

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I am not asexual. Don't ever assume I am. I know my ways are seen as "outdated" by today's society, but it's better than the alternative. I have issues with just sleeping around with anybody, getting STD's, unplanned pregnancies, seen as a slut, sex losing meaning, the relationships based around them are doomed to fail, etc.

And for the record, "asexual" normally refers to organisms that can reproduce without help from a sexual partner. I don't know how the LGBT community managed to twist it into something as stupid as that, but it is full of contradictions and the term makes no sense to those of us who were born before the stupid "gender revolution" that took place a few years ago.

And to be fair, if I'm husband-hunting, I'm not gonna hook up with a whiner like the OP.

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I am not asexual....And for the record, "asexual" normally refers to organisms that can reproduce without help from a sexual partner.
I have heard of that definition of asexual. However, I don't know how else to describe someone with little to no sexual urges or desires, as you seem to be. You've indicated on this thread and in other messages that you are in your thirties and never been married and you have now revealed that you don't believe in sex outside of marriage.
That tells us you are a 30-plus-year-old virgin.
Which in turn means that you either suppress your urges(which is never healthy) or you aren't very sexual to begin with.
I have issues with just sleeping around with anybody, getting STD's, unplanned pregnancies, seen as a slut, sex losing meaning, the relationships based around them are doomed to fail, etc.
And you haven't by now met a guy who shares your views?

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Exactly! 100% that is the problem, it’s ridiculous how out of hand it’s gotten.

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I propose we all pitch in for MovieBuff to get a Real Doll so he will stop with these insane threads.

https://myrealdolls.net/product-category/new/

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Oh no then we would have dozens of threads from MovieBuff complaining about his Real Doll

- She can't cook
- She never cleans
- She's high maintenance

and so on


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Only puts out for ugly/inadequate men.

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Never wants to talk about his problems.

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Doesn’t want to watch The Irishman.

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So what if she's willing to listen to him talk about himself forever. She's useless unless she's also willing to talk about him!

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We need an upgrade!

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Why did you have to bring The Irishman into this? Haha.

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If you know Moviebluffoon like we do, you’ll understand, lol.

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There is no reason to bring in the masterpiece that is the Irishman into this, that's dirty pool man. It is legit my favourite movie.

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His too, allegedly.

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I hope my sarcasm was noted.

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It is now, lol.

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Haha, yeah not even in my top 10,000 movies.

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Ya bugger, lol.

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Prometheus is better.

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I'll pitch in if we get him Conan!

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Get to the vagina!..... I haven't seen Conan the Barbarian, I know, a huge gap in knowledge.

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Honestly - watch it - it’s AWESOME!

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I have it sitting there on my hard drive eyeing it off . My only worry is being disappointed. Everyone says it's awesome.

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Great movie, one of Arnie's best!

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Those are the guys with money. Ugly money is better than no money?

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I’m talking no positive attributes

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ALL THESE POSTS OF YOURS ABOUT WOMEN AND THEIR EASY DATING AND BAD DECISONS SAY ONE THING AND ONE THING ONLY...YOURE FRUSTRATED AND VENTING.

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