Depends on who it is.
I was friends with an ex that I dated for a couple a years and I did go to his wedding. We had mutual friends and I was with them, and it really wasn't that weird. He was much better with his wife than he ever was with me. My ex husband and I are pretty good friends, and I even help him with his relationships, but I don't think I would go to his wedding. I think that would just be too strange.
I did. I brought my new date tho'. Which was her best friend.
sharemy brother in law is still friends with one of his ex-girlfriends, and it was about 45 years since they dated, i guess. so whatever you want to say about it, clearly their friendship lasted.
after they broke up he used to drive her to dates, to see other guys. he told me that on at least a few occasions, he drove her to other guy's houses where she'd hang out, have sex, then pick her up afterwards.
seems weird to me, but it's a big old world.
he is very open minded
shareWow, how considerate...
shareHi damo,
“after they broke up, he used to driver her to dates, to see other guys. he told me that on at least a few occasions, he drover her to other guy's houses, where she'd hang out, have sex, then pick her up afterwards.”
I’m wondering what was going on there.
This is a fascinating story.
Was the girl a prostitute?
I’m not judging!
Kind of sounds like it though.
lol, she was and is almost definitely not a prostitute. i wasn't there and i don't have any videotaped evidence, but i know her and her personality well enough to say i am fairly confident they didn't have a pimp/prostitute business happening.
there are a billion things i could say about my brother in law, but i'll try to keep it short and simply point out that he is perhaps the single most gifted & talented person i know and the single most arrogant & obnoxious & at times annoying person i've ever met in my life - there is almost no limit to his conceit.
i've always said that spending the evening with him is like listening to morrissey. for the first 5 minutes, he's incredibly witty and charming and clever. after a half hour, i'm starting to get tired of his witticisms and finding myself wishing he'd stop droning on. by the end of the night, i'm planning out plausible murder scenarios and deciding how i'll dispose of the corpse.
yet he is very oddly indifferent to things that would insult and enrage or hurt most people.
so when his ex came to him and said 'could you drive me to dates' he would respond with 'sure, i bet you're a lot better off with him than a pain in the ass like me.'
i am pretty sure he's say much the same thing to my sister if she ever said 'i can't take any more of this. i'm going to snap. i need to get away from you.' he'd probably reply 'i can't believe you lasted this long.'
i'm not sure if any of that makes sense or adds up to anything like a coherent explanation, but it is probably nonsense and incoherent in real life.
Damosuziki, you should be making a living at writing. Perhaps you are already. ;)
That guy sounds like a narcissist. People with NPD are so charming and fun to be with. And like your BiL they aren’t judgmental because they don’t have the same sort of social values as the average person.
thank you! i am not a writer, but i take it as an enormous compliment that you'd say that.
not to drone on about myself, but a few people have suggested i should have tried my hand at writing. i never felt like i had the discipline to do something like that regularly, but i do enjoy trying to stretch out and write thoughts on certain topics occasionally.
i'm no authority on such matters, but i'd say there are definitely elements of narcissism in him, no question, along with several other really major behavior issues (self control, silly temper tantrums). in limited doses, he is incredibly charismatic and charming, no question. but how my sister has lasted with him for 25+ years, and how he's made it this far in life without someone knocking out all of his teeth is a complete mystery to me.
hahah! I hope no one ever knocks his teeth out regardless of how cocky he gets.
As for your writing: it doesn’t matter how often you sit down and write. All it takes in many cases for a brilliant work is one single sitting.
I just reread:
“almost definitely not a a prostitute.”
teehee 🙃
Only if my feelings towards the ex AND the new spouse were completely friendly.
I would not attend the wedding of an ex unless I had 100% friend-zoned the ex, and I was close enough to the new spouse to be absolutely sure they were okay with it. Because most people don't like having their new bride or groom's ex attend, if they're any kind of unknown quantity. They can consider it insulting or threatening.
Well said, Miss O, if everyone involved can act like adults and are actually friendly with each other, I don’t see a problem, but that must be well established, most likely through a continuous friendship since the breakup... for me, I don’t think I’d have a problem with it if I was welcome, but as I said earlier in the thread, I’m not a fan of weddings... I’m unsure if I’d even show up to MY wedding...
Good times!
Definitely not.
shareAn ex-boyfriend? I would probably be okay with that, assuming we were still friends. My ex-husband? No. But then, he didn't tell me he was re-marrying. He told our children and two of our three went - mostly out of curiosity to see the woman he was marrying and a few in-laws they'd never met. Long story, but they were not impressed and have had no contact with any of them ever since. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
shareI would not.
I would be highly suspicious of someone who would invite their ex lover or ex spouse to their wedding.
This suggests a manipulator who is trying to use people emotionally.
So I’d say nope, no, nopedy no!
Oooh. Good point about someone who would invite an ex, especially an ex-spouse.
sharePeople can be so deceitful.
shareGood evening Miss Charlotte
Interesting, I didn’t consider that...
I know right?
shareBut I have a good sense of things, if she’s my ex, I’d probably know she’s manipulative...I was thinking, and I don’t like thinking of hypotheticals, of a potential situation where everyone involved was cool...I didn’t want to rule out the possibility that it could be done without any issues...I’m a little slow sometimes despite my usual good sense, but I think just maybe women are more aware of these potential hazards and have a more keen sense of the possibility for problems...guys will say ‘fuck it I’m not going’, while a women explains why it’s probably not a good idea if certain danger signs exist...especially for this particular situation, after all, it’s a wedding, i consider women more expertly inclined to Know what the deal is here....maybe I’m over-generalizing...
shareOh it’s ok vastuntitled, but you didn’t actually make a point or say anything of value at all.
shareI respectfully disagree, but perhaps you didn’t understand I what I wrote, I’m certainly willing to accept that..thanks for the time...
shareSorry, Vastuntitled, I totally made an error in my post!
And I made a total ass of myself. Ugh.
I’m so sorry! I was agreeing with you! I’m tired and I wrote in error.
Please pardon me!
That’s okay, Miss Charlotte...tough day? I have a bottle of good Cabernet if you need it, lol....but if you don’t drink, maybe some soft music...or something like this, I’ve been thinking a lot about this song lately:
https://youtu.be/uAwyIad93-c
Oh , that’s a beautiful video. She was a very big influence in some people I know. One guy, she made him a lot of money but in the end, knocked him off his high horse and possibly cost him. The other guy, she influenced with her feminism but then he turned into a misogynist.
Life is weird.
One minute I was enjoying your funny post and the next minute I was horrified to see my obnoxious reply that wasn’t what I meant to say at all. Cabernet sounds nice, is it French? California is nice but French is always better when it comes to wine.
No worries, doll....I was hoping it was a mistake, but sometimes you just never know with these inter webs, lol....I forgot about it, you will too, really, no prob,,don’t sweat it, we cool;)
Yeah it’s Sonoma...I wish French...my palette is not that refined, the good stuff would be a waste on me, hahahaha...still, good times with what I have....
Ok, haha.
sharei agree
shareI wish I knew what you agreed with Hownos!
I’m not a regular on this site but I migrated with the IMDb diaspora .
I also went to SitcomsOnline. Over there they have this little button that you click to QUOTE.
It’s so easy and sweet but the sad irony is that there’s no one there. :’(
I wish we had a QUOTE button round here.
I have and the husbands never had a clue;)
Considering at least one of those dudes could kick my ass I'd prefer to keep it all quiet😬l