This is why we need feminism

That's was a woman womansplaining how you're suppose to think and feel as a man. You must be one of those common place, white, privileged heterosexual males who docstar84 thinks bully everyone in the world including poor gay director Tom Ford.

In real life that would have happened. Tony was a cultured man from a civilized town. Ray and company were backwoods hooligans with no bed side manner and could do whatever the hell they wanted to no limit. That's why Tony pretty much failed in that situation cause he was outgunned. I will say though that the scene could have been executed better. Ford's definitely got his own unique filmic style, but he needs to work on how he directs the scenes themselves and not come off as if we're watching stylistic test footage.

Too bad nature didn't give a fvck about these concepts when it created sex and sexual dimorphic species.

I married a man who is both sensitive & strong. It takes courage to be kind. He's also a 10 year military vet who's seen combat many times as a military cop. If this happened to us, he'd have handled them. It is not weak for the real Edward to not care about riches or fame and just want to write and lead a simple life. The man in the novel was weak. First of all, freaking carry a gun. Be smart, be prepared, & be well trained. Don't try to pacify an obvious group of thugs. They ran you off the road. There's no negotiating. If he had a gun or at least the balls to grab a tire iron from the back of his car and beat the tar out of the leader, the other 2 guys would've run away. That's how you handle bullies, you take out the leader. This guy was a sociopath looking for trouble. Being compassionate and kind is important, however. Just being an alpha male without that turns them into pricks like the sociopaths in the novel. Feminism is supposed to mean equal rights not more rights. Feminism got me the right to vote. Not mad at that. It's shame that a few have spoiled the word for many.

Armie Hammer's character seemed pretty useless to me. Rich yes, but not masculine in the least. He would have been no help in that same situation on the road unless he could bribe his way out of it.

I hope this is not a common mindset, being willing to suppress your emotions all for the sake of sex appeal.

There's no doubt that women have a hand in enforcing masculinity (i.e., how Adams' character left her husband because she, like her mother, thought he was weak), but men do too. Growing up I can't even count the number of times I've seen adult male figures tell young boys not to cry because it's weak. Women, often times the more 'traditional' kind, do this too, like calling men who cry "b*tches" or other degrading terms. I've seen feminists denounce this so I wonder why your conclusion is to get rid of it. Buzzwords aside, I feel like it's more dangerous to tell boys they do need to be strong and conventionally masculine, because some just aren't. Some are sensitive and they should know that it's okay. Men have the highest rates of suicide and I could only hope that number could lessen if only they were told they didn't need to be strong all the time.

brookes:
Uh,no--nobody needs to "get rid" of feminism. Feminism is the belief that women should have the same equal rights as men. Why the hell would you or anybody else want to "get rid" of that? It amazes me how many men in particular say stupid things like this about feminism, which mean that you and they clearly have no real understanding of what feminism even means. And yeah, it is other men who have always enforced how other men act (as well as how women acted) and made sure that they fall in line with whatever men think a "real man" should act like. Feminism has never told men that they don't have to be masculine---it's been saying for decades that there is nothing wrong with a man wanting to show his feelings, to want stay at home and take care of the kids, or wanting to do something that is traditionally considered a "female" activity, like knitting or watching soap operas or rom-coms, lol. That does not make a man any less of a man for wanting to do any of those things. In other words, a man should be allowed to be both strong and sensitive, and find himself a nice balance between the two. Nothing wrong with that at all. ( I'm a woman, btw.) And frankly, sometimes in my experience, big overbearing macho dude types tend to be mean, abusive, controlling types. I'd rather be with a sensitive dude who dosen't mind crying every once in a while instead of some arrogant a****** who thinks that beating up a woman makes him a "real man", or some bull**** like that. Hell,no, it fckg dosen't. So,no, being sensitive dosen't make a dude any less of a man---that's just insecure men who think like that.