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Not realistic

posted 14 years ago by flyingmontana
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I think it's too bad that the main character is this perfect-looking girl with great hair, great body, etc. The reality is that the kids who get cyberbullied usually have something about them that makes them a target. I don't think that kids who watch this movie are going to be able to relate to this beautiful, socially competent girl.
Also, the filmmakers seem to think that calling someone a slut is the worst insult that can possibly happen to a teenager. Have they not seen Easy A? Or met any of this generation's teenagers? Being sexually active is not considered a "loser" quality.

[–] littlesis1774 14 years ago

Phoebe Prince is was beautiful girl and she cyber bullied and bullied at her school by jealous girls

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[–] lovely_ginger 14 years ago

Even the "pretty-looking" girls can get bullied. It doesn't matter what you look like or how you act. Bullies will find something about you to make fun of.

[–] meriadoc416 14 years ago

In my experience, the pretty, popular girls are the ones who get bullied the most. Girls are catty and bully each other because we're insecure. Therefore, we target the girls who seem to be on top so we can bring them down a few pegs and feel better about ourselves.

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[–] madasrabbits515 14 years ago

"Not-so-slim"?????? What??? You are talking about Emily Osment's character right?? She is so skinny.

[–] rosek102 14 years ago

Trust me, the "pretty" girls are targeted just as much as someone who is obese or physically awkward in some way, and lately, it seems like they've been affected even more. Girls who are beautiful, popular, and smart are a threat. If you think about it, a classmate who is heavy probably isn't going to intimidate you, but someone who is sweet and pretty will.

[–] bdon215 14 years ago

Ok I'm a guy, but every time I see one of these movies about high school bullying and stuff....I just don't get it. High school is not like this at all. I'm four years out of high school and I honestly can't recall a single moment where anyone I knew (not just friends but anyone who's name I knew) was "bullied" at all, online or in person. Sure, people would make fun of someone behind their back, but I never witnessed anyone get "bullied" at all. Not one time did I ever hear of someone getting beat up, or a girl not coming to school for being called a slut, or any of that.

[–] lb161987 14 years ago

High School 4 years ago or longer ( class of 05) is NOT the same anymore. Even in Middle School. Kids are so crul now and have no self respect and no bounaries nd think they can do whatever they want to and get away with it. Now not every young person is like this.

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[–] ashcat1129 14 years ago

I just graduated from high school (2011) and my experience was nothing like portrayed in the movie. Sure, there were people that some people didn't like, but no one went out of his or her way to be mean to someone or make them feel badly about themselves.

[–] racheleigh-211-948348 13 years ago

'11 graduate as well... I was never caught up in "drama," so I'm no expert, but nothing like this occurred at our high school to my knowledge. At least not to a girl.

[–] ihategorgonzola 14 years ago

I graduated a couple of years ago and people never really bullied each other. Most people talked behind their backs but it was just silly *beep* talking. The kids at my high school wouldn't let their friends be bullied like that either or they would stand up for themselves.

[–] queen_supreme-1 14 years ago

Yeah but haven't you heard about Phoebe Prince (who was mentioned above) or Tyler Clementi??

[–] deadbunny28 13 years ago

dude you wereobviously just too much in your own little world inhigh school...i graduated high school and the bullying was way worse than in this movie...and yes, sometimes it was even the pretty girls...

[–] gossipgirlrockstar 13 years ago

I think that's what it is. Those of us who were bit on the outside and not too involved didn't witness this kind of bullying. I was never really bullied. Granted I didn't really have any friends. I didn't really talk to anyone. Didn't have a computer. And when I did get on social networking I never really witnessed terrible bullying towards me or anyone else really. I guess it's about who you hang with and who you piss off. Some of us were too quiet to be noticed I guess. So we didn't really deal with it. No one ever went out of their way to make my life miserable. But even though I am older now I kinda feel like I wouldn't care too much if people said nasty horrible things about me. To quote Kate Hepburn: "I don't care what they say about me as long as it's not true." Something to that effect.

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[–] deadbunny28 13 years ago

I see, I can understand that...I started on the football team so naturally I interacted with many people in the school and so I witnessed it happening all the time...actually some of the times it was my fellow teammates doing the bullying unfortunately =/

[–] gossipgirlrockstar 13 years ago

yeah. my brother tells me the horror stories of high school. So I believe that this movie is quite accurate. And I believe that footballer players can be bullies. I feel like guys can be especially cruel if you don't fit a certain form of masculine. Just hearing it from my brother and how hard it can be to be a guy.

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[–] skb1981 13 years ago

Consider yourself lucky bdon215. What happened on this show is mild compared to what can happen in schools.

I am a beautiful, smart, successful women but I went through elementary school and high school being bullied.

These are some of the examples of what happened to me:

1. Because I developed earlier than other girls - I was teased because of my chest size.
2. Because I cut my hair short - I was called "boy".
3. I was burnt by my peers.
4. They went through my back pack and pulled out a feminine napkin and played hot potato with it in the middle of class.
5. They found out the guy I liked and had the guy call and set up a date with me. Only to find out later that it was a prank. That happened twice - both by "friends".
6. They left messages on the internet - slander and insults

These are just a few of the things that happened to me. I transferred schools 3 times because of what happened to me. None of the schools took responsibility for protecting me.

Bullying needs to be taken care of! today!!!!

[–] Ellen1992 11 years ago

Yes i was going to say to bdon215, you may not have seen it but it was there, you wont see the worst of it because some bullies are very manipulative and will do it in a way so that most people wont realise its happening and it isolates the victim even more. skb1981 i was bullied by the people i called my friends and no one out side of the group knew wat was happening, i think its one of the worst kinds when its your friends who do it because it makes u feel really alone, you cant trust your friends or get support from them.

some things about this movie have been exaggerated i think because in real life it happens over months and years and it builds up more subtly,in the movie she had to go from happy to suicidal in a short time but this stuff does happen and the message behind the movie is very serious.

[–] Chunli_injections 14 years ago

I witnessed beautiful people getting bullied as well, just saying.

[–] DamianGein 14 years ago

See the thing is she wasn't perfect. She was being a bit bitchy against her friend at the beginning of the movie.

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[–] lauraaamckayyy 14 years ago

Pretty people can be bullied to you know. bullies are really people who find something wrong with themselves. so if they call you fat it means that there calling themselves fat. i relate to her and im not beautiful.

[–] ryanreynoldsfan2 14 years ago

I thought the movie was very realistic. And kids that get bullied are targeted for many reasons. Because they're easy to target, because the bullies are jealous, etc. And being called a slut can be very hurtful, especially when you know that you're not what they're saying you are. If I were called a slut, I would be hurt too.

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[–] GSmith9072 14 years ago

"Have they not seen Easy A? Or met any of this generation's teenagers? Being sexually active is not considered a "loser" quality."

That terrible film actually supports the happenings in this awful TV movie. In real reality kids don't care so much about who's sleeping with who.

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[–] Crentapa 14 years ago

Are you kidding?
We all live in our own little worlds in high-school, we see what we WANT to see, and hear what we WANT to hear. You can't make these broad statements on what high-school life is like based on your own, because your "high-school life" is what YOU lived it as; not what everyone else did.

[–] GSmith9072 14 years ago

"we see what we WANT to see, and hear what we WANT to hear."

You must live in your own little world to make that statement about me. YOU may "see what you want to see", but I'm the kind of person who sees what's there, and this 'anti-sex' sentiment only exists in movies, much to my dismay.

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[–] juicy-box 14 years ago

I thought the girl was pretty average in all aspects which made her relatable. The point was that anyone can be bullied, and most people do. The girl obviously wasn't popular or had a lot of friends, and it looks like her home life wasn't exactly perfect either with her dad running off with a 25 year old.

For a lot of 16 year old girls, it does suck to be slut-shamed. When people think of a "slut" they think of someone who sleeps around, wears revealing clothes, is really easy and sleazy, etc. Maybe it's not the worst but no one wants to be called that.

[–] tvaddict53 14 years ago

I agree with the several posts about how high school really isn't like this. I just graduated (2011) and my high school experience was never like this. Sure, there are those people that get made fun of and there are the girls that are constantly getting called sluts and whores (some really are sluts and some aren't at all), but it really just isn't like this. Seriously, when they showed the part about how they made that video, I was just like, seriously? That just didn't seem realistic at all to me. And just the way the popular girls acted just isn't how it really is in high school. Some aspects of the movie were realistic and some not so much.

[–] theycallmebrandon 14 years ago

My sisters and their friends refer to each other as slut, whore, bitch or some other name. Just like guys refer to their friends as Fags or bitch. Names have no power except what we give them.