emotional betrayal vs. physical betrayal

They are both bad. Really bad. I have had them both happen, and the physical cheating turned into a worse situation for me.

One of my ex's fell in love with another woman. He eventually told me, and I was devastated - but the relationship was over. He loved someone else and did not want to be with me anymore. So while it hurt, it was a clean break and he had moved on, and eventually, so did I.

My other ex had a drunken one-night stand. I found out through texts from her (which he had been ignoring). He didn't want to come clean as he "didn't want to lose me". I loved him, and so I attempted to make it work. It was a cycle of me feeling horribly fat and ugly, and him trying constantly to make it up to me (which only reminded me of what he was making up for) and us fighting. I lived in fear that he would cheat again and stopped trusting him. Eventually I ended it. I still wonder if I made the right choice though as he hasn't moved on, and nor have I...

So, for me, physical is worse. But that is purely based on my own experiences.

"Ever get the feeling that no one even sees you?"
"I have a really good body, so no"

i think in the end, the emotional (at least in the movie) proved more powerful. at first, i thought the ending was bleek. but the more i thought about it, it seemed appropriate. u could tell when he went to hug his wife, he told her - "i love you" she did not reply. i think she fell in love all over again. that, or either those feeling she once had proved to be stronger than what she currently had for her husband. u could tell she had more chemistry w/ her ex.

another sublte clue seemed to be the ending... when they hugged - he seemed to grab ahold of his wife and squeeze affectionately. but u could tell she was just going through the motions. she did not return the same affection. and then he saw her dress shoes.... it was then they knew they both betrayed each other.

I'd rather my man screw a woman he didn't care about, and had no feelings for, rather than fall in love with someone else.

For me, the moment we take action on either is the end. It's when you put yourself over your partner. You can easily be attracted emotionally or physically to another person, but if you are walking the line by holding them in bed fully clothed, or swimming in your underware....you've initiated action that follows a course that leads to betrayal. I would find either pretty hard to forgive as it would be a huge statement to me that I was not the most important or central focus in my partners life.



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I don't see how you can compare kiera's situation with that of the husbands. She clearly chose and is choosing her husband over the other guy and will never see him again. Her husband chose another woman after being warned, and it's someone he's going to be in close contact for some time. Totally different circumstances.


Also, just as you can have sex with someone you are attracted to, but them marry another and still have sexual attraction to the first, so can you emotionally connect with a man before marriage and still feel an emotional connection to him after marrying another. This is not cheating just as the first is not cheating. It's acting upon it that it becomes cheating. From this movie, I would conclude that the wife should marry the other man, and that her current husband puts his desires above all else. It was only after a night of screwing and his appetite was met that he was able to detach himself. Kiera's character met with no satisfaction what so ever.

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Whores...Christianity ruined by Zionist filth movies.

Both are hurtful and bad. Sex is not just sex when it hurts the person in your relationship.