Has anything like this ever happened to you in high school?

I can, but I haven't been raped (thank goodness), and I'm not shunned by my peers due to a party. However, like her, I was starting to fit in with the popular kids, feel like I was someone, and that I was on top of the world. Last year, my Freshman year, everything was going well. I just moved to another area in Indiana, I was fitting in with the cool kids because this guy I was step-sister to was really popular and on the football team. The guy I liked actually wanted something do with me (unlike my last crush) and wanted to get to know me. Then it all came crashing down when my crush got a girlfriend (who I was trying to be nice to at first because I didn't want to seem like the jealous type.

I tried adding her to one of my Facebook groups, tag her in one of those notes that have you tag up to 25 people to get to know them better, and when this friend of mine said hi to me in the hallway, my crush's girlfriend was with her and I was going to say hi to her or hope for her to say hi to me, but all she did was look at me and keep on walking as she was doing that. I ask my friend if she hated me. She said no and that it was the girl who had thought I hated her. I tell her "Oh, I don't want her to think that. I hardly know her and don't see a problem with her." And my friend is like "Okay, people have just been telling her and John that you did."

Then I was starting to not trust her, because I saw her as a wannabe who thinks she can act like a bitch to get popular. Which none of the popular kids are mean. They're nice and talk to everybody that says hi to them. Well, my friend Doug (who is a lot like Rachel in this movie) had a funny pic of him in a military outfit with a helmet and a bulletproof vest on, so I make a laughable comment about him being dressed for the apocalypse. He laughs and agrees, and I feel happy that I'm talking to one of the popular guys in school. Then seven days later, my crush's girlfriend (Courtney) comments it saying how tight Doug was. I kind of got mad because it wasn't like she couldn't tell him that on his wall, because usually when you comment someone's pic, it's usually about the pic. I felt she was trying to take away his attention from me. So I comment by asking her why she commented it of all the other pics she could have commented. She said she didn't even know me (it was sort of untrue since my friend Lydia had her talk to me at the Winter Formal after I saw her kiss my crush John. Which all she said "Hi, Cara.", so it didn't sound too sincere). I felt a little bad that I kind of scared Courtney, so I told I was only kidding.

Then a couple of days later, John (crush) accuses me of being jealous of her on Faceboook. I said I wasn't, but he kept insisting I was. He didn't ask, he ASSUMED I was jealous. I got so angry that I told him that I heard from several other people (which was true) that she was a whore and a bitch. He got mad and said we weren't friends anymore. I tried saying I didn't want this friendship to be over because he was like my best friend, but he insisted I had said mean stuff about his girlfriend and that I was picking on her. Now, he said I had no proof that Courtney and her friends were talking crap about me, but apparently he had proof that I was jealous of her.

I was distraught, so I post comments on Facebook implying about the situation. This girl Taylor (who seemed nice at first by asking if I had sent her a message which turned out to be a spam everyone got) and she even put a smiley face to seem nice. I think nothing much of it, so I say "No, it was probably just a spam. I got that too. :)" Then she puts "Oh, I see..." When she said that, I was slightly suspicious of her. I go on her profile and see that Courtney was number one on her friends list, so I decided to not trust her so much. The next day, I see Courtney and John standing near the hangout section after school where a lot of the popular kids hung out at. Now, she didn't start hanging out there until me and John started having problems. Then it seemed like she started hanging out on the floor we were on a lot more than before. I kind of stare at them for a minute or two, and then she's about to leave, but then she stops and kisses him. I felt hurt, because it was like she did it on purpose because she knew I was there.

Well, I put an excerpt from my poem about it on my status "Seeing you kiss her is like being skinned alive. You're no friend of mine." Taylor puts a question mark on the comment. I think maybe she can be a new friend of mine, so I tell her it was from a poem I wrote in English. She asks who it was about and I didn't answer that time, because again, I was suspicious. She must have took the hint, because a couple of hours later, she IMs me bluntly asking why I was talking about John and Courtney. I was actually trying to be nice about it saying I wasn't and if Courtney had sent her to talk to me, Courtney can do it herself. She said I assumed way to much and ran up a bunch of posts I made about them. I said "So? Can't I make statuses about my life's situation? That is what statuses are about, right?" She says she has been watching me for a couple of days stand near the section and that she even watched me talk to Doug (which creeped me out a lot, so I tell her to stop watching me because it was like being a stalker). She says she has heard I creeped him out (probably from him and the other popular *beep* I knew that was my cue to sign off, so I put "W/E" and logged off.

She got mad, started commenting my statuses, and arguing with me online. She did not want the conversation to be over with. I told John about it, and he felt a little bad so he said he forgave me and told me he'll handle it. Later that night, Courtney sends me a message saying how sorry she was by starting "Hi! This is the girl you've been incredibly mean to..." And then said she had no idea Taylor and her other friend were doing it, and that she had wanted to be my friend at the Winter Formal. Really? Because she didn't seem too enthused to get to meet me at the time and she didn't really show it. However, I believed her and was cool with her for a while. But then I started losing my trust in her, because every time she said hi to me, she would look at her friend with an unsure look as if "I can't believe I'm doing this. How long do I have to keep this charade up?" Then Doug got mad at me because I was saying how a *beep* friend he was by embarrassing me in front of this girl Dounya and several other people when I wanted to talk to him. He says "You stalk my friend John! You're weird! You're annoying and we shouldn't talk for a while!". I was hurt so I deleted him. I then tried adding him back, because he said I didn't have to apologize and that he would talk to me some other time. So I thought we were cool again. But he didn't accept.

Then John got mad at me again for not taking his advice, saying he didn't want to help me anymore, and I got angry saying "You just don't want to be my friend anymore because you think Courtney and Dounya are prettier! That's why you're treating me like *beep* John said I assumed too much and that was when I called him a jerk. This was the day after I see Courtney and she tries to say hi to me and I just look at her and not say anything, because I had a feeling she had something to do with me and Doug's fight. I hear her complain "See!? She didn't even talk to me!" like I was some celebrity or something. I tell John she was fat and ugly out of the moment (really, she's a rail).

Taylor got mad, and Effie was there as the referee. That didn't seem to help at all. Then people started hating me (which yeah, I shouldn't have called her fat, it was unlike me, but she made me so mad!" but it seemed deeper than that. As if they were trying to get me to be her friend. I told her sorry a few days later and she said it was okay. Then I admitt to her that I was bullied in middle school, I had no friends, and when I came this new town, I finally meet a guy who notices me and shows a little interest in me and it was like she took that away. She says "Aww... I understand! I would have hated me too if I were someone else." I was kind of iffy on that statement so I remind her that I still hated John. That must have pissed her off because she deleted me the next day.

Her two friends, Taylor and Ashley, scream at me near the bathroom, call me ugly and insult me on Facebook, I showed the messages to Lydia, Doug, John, and Effie, but John and Doug didn't respond and all Lydia and Effie said was "I told you to ignore them!"

I ask John one day why he didn't get mad at them for picking on me and all he says was this: "They weren't picking on you. It's your fault and you just don't understand." I was angry so I said "It's popular people like you who piss me off." And then he threatens top put me under a restraining order. Which was just a bluff since he threatened to turn me in over the summer which he never did.

A few days before school ended, I follow Doug and John to the library, making them angry. This was after John and Courtney had broken up. Before the breakup, I tell Courtney that we should just be friends and she's like "Aww... I would love to!" But she never talks to John and Doug for me.

Summer was worse, I hardly had any friends anymore. They put a picture of me on a monkey during summer school, got into a Facebook fight with a lot of people over a joke picture, this guy Zach mentions about me being a loser and that I was nothing like Courtney and I just try so hard. That was when she started saying mean stuff to me when everyone else was and told Zach he was her hero for telling me that. And then said that no one liked me and that I should go away.

I am usually a mild-mannered person, I just wanted everyone to like me, and I care about people's feelings, but Courtney made me real angry. She tries so hard act all innocent when really she's not. She acts like this innocent, virginal princess, when so many of my non-popular friends had told me the opposite. Then she only starts acting nice to people, when she sees how nice I was. Being nice is what gets you in the popular clique, and the only way her and her friends got in was pretending to be nice and *beep* me. That's the only way to get noticed by saying something about me. No one knew who Taylor was before that Facebook message. No one knew who Courtney was before she started dating John. I'm not a snob, but I hate when people think they can just barge into a group and try to eliminate someone out of the group.

Now, the only people who would talk to me is Lydia (who is sort of like Irene in this movie), and the only time Doug says something to me is when he's alone and none of the cool kids are with him. And all he does is just mumble. When I ask him how was his day, he mumbles. When I ask him if he cared about what happens to me all he does is mumble "I do care" which is almost incoherent. So he's like Rachel. I'm generally a mute person now who doesn't really say a lot. That Zach guy keeps yelling "Crazy bitch!" when he sees me. Everyone thinks I'm some psychotic, obsessive stalker. Even John called me and obsessive freak, and he's the one who helped me through suicide. All of the popular kids seem to stare at me and talk about me, which I wasn't really friends with all of them, but I just wanted to be the girl that everyone liked and the one that boys thought was pretty. I didn't want it to happen to Courtney. Finally, like in the movie, no one bothered to ask me if I were okay or how I felt. All They cared about was what they had heard.

Don't worry be happy

Yes. When I was 12 one of the most popular and influential girls in school decided that she hated me for no reason at all and literally turned our entire school against me. I went to a small private school so it was very easy for her to control what everyone thought and said about me. 7th and 8th grade were nightmares for me as I ate lunch by myself and spent the weekends with my parents. I transferred to a public high school in the 9th grade though and everything was a lot better.

You're in my prayers little Kate. http://prayforkate.com/#/home-page/

I feel really lucky, because I've never been an easy target. I don't openly express my feelings, so if someone pisses me off and I'm hurt by it, it won't show. But I won't shut up and take it. If I can't leave the situation, I'll verbally attack them until they stop. And they do. Otherwise, if someone has a strange hate towards me, I accept it as their problem, not mine, and I'll just ignore them. I've never had bully problems, because I have a lot of friends just like me. The weird ones who understand me. Even if someone is out of my social group, they're nice to me. I never try to be intentionally rude to people, I want people to feel open and comfortable.
Because the first ten years of my life were hell. I couldn't open up to anyone. I had little to no friends. I could barely speak. I was so shy, it affected my social skills. I hated everything about myself. So when I was around ten, I made giant efforts to get people to notice me, to not feel awkward, to make them comfortable so I could be comfortable. I was shut up and ignored, so now, in high school, I make myself heard and I try to hear others. And they appreciate it.



I'll join you when hell freezes over.
Dumbledore's Army!

Stop being so weak. I don't have sympathy for anyone who allows themselves to be tormented and ridiculed for so long. I feel parents teaching their kids to fight back and not accept being teased is very important. My parents taught me these things and this is why I never allowed myself to be put down no matter what anyone said to me; I always stood my ground.

My cousin throughout her Junior year was tormented and teased; however, she never let these girls break her. She stood up to a group of 10-20 girls and told them off. They eventually left her alone. If people see they can break you; they won't stop. Like the old saying goes; never let your enemies see you bleed.

Through Middle school people tried to pick on me, but failed because I didn't stand for it. I actually became cool with lots of them and still talk to some of them (I'm now in college). It's all about being secure and confident with who you are; I was never ashamed or insecure of being myself and when people saw that; they know it was pointless to even try to bully me because I didn't give a *beep*