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Has this ever turned you off of someone?

posted 25 days ago by Kj1oceanlust (1528)
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So a lady friend of many years once confessed to me, that she occasionally talks on the phone while sitting on the toilet doing her thing. Yes, she's attractive, and very nice. And you could say, I had thought about the two of us as a possible item, meaning I could possibly see us escalating our relationship at some point to a more intimate one. But after she told me that, I was somewhat put off of her. The way this revelation (that surprised me), as she never said anything like this before, came about was I was venting to her about one of our other friends. I told her, he got a bit rude with me, then told me he was in the bathroom over the phone, so I hung up. He made me mad, as I think that's not appropriate, to ever tell someone that.

[–] FredBurroughs (22266) 25 days ago

I'm trying to type out a response to this while sitting on the toilet.

[–] Bloodshot77 (14229) 25 days ago

Everyone shits bro. Get over yourself.

Signed, million man.

[–] jacotodd47 (2387) 25 days ago

Well, agreed a little TMI from her....

However, harsh judgement IMO.

Not like she was self mutilating in the bathroom.

She was doing her thing, a thing we all do.

[–] Kj1oceanlust (1528) 24 days ago

I know what your saying. It's more to do with me than her, that I would let this bother me. I've always been a wimp of sorts when it comes to stuff like this. I prefer not talking or hearing about are nature calls wherever, unless I'm talking to a doctor lol. I hate when women discuss their periods also. I know it's life, but why share this info with me or anyone other than a medical professional?

[–] jacotodd47 (2387) 24 days ago

Eehh, sounds like it's no big loss for you.

If this girl really mattered to you - I'm sure you could overlook her calls of nature.

I'm not crazy about it either ("I prefer not talking or hearing about are nature calls").

However, if the person really mattered to me, it wouldn't make any difference.

ANyway, all is well that ends well. Nice chatting with you this morning.

Best wishes

[–] BKB (11275) 25 days ago

If you know this woman and want to be with her, then you do know if you were to ever get married to one another, this sort of thing would happen, right??

[–] Wint3rFir3 (7370) 25 days ago

No.

If you were to actually become an item, she'd eventually end up chatting to you while she's on the john and you're in the room next door or nearby, that's quite normal for most couples. So if you can't handle a phone call while she's in the bathroom, at this point in your non-relationship, probably best you don't find her as attractive, but this will become a normal occurrence in whatever relationship you do end up in.

[–] AmeriGirl26 (15100) 25 days ago

You'd be surprised how many people use the john while on their cell phones these days. They just don't make a big deal about it unless the person on the other end can hear water running or a toilet flushing.

This isn't a new concept either. Before we had cell phones, rich people (from the 20th century onward) would have a phone in every room of their mansions (which probably would have had a receiver and an audio button by the time the 1960s came around), including the bathroom, so they would be able to answer calls, even when answering the call of nature. I have a feeling it probably got a little awkward if someone caught them in the bathroom while talking, but chances were, they weren't in there all the time.

[–] Kj1oceanlust (1528) 24 days ago

I agree with you. I'm sure it's nothing new. Infact, I'll admit that I've done this also. But not something I like to do, nor make a habit of. And I was discreet, using the mute. I did it recently with a close relative (talked to them while using the toilet). But this relative can often be hard to get off the phone, and well I really had to go, lol. And since I love them, I only will hang up if it's absolutely necessary, or if they got me mad. I just think that some things should absolutely be kept private at all costs and this occasion being one of them. Years ago, I also had a male friend tell me in text, that he was pleasuring himself at home while interacting with me. I found it funny, but also thought wtf!!!

[–] AmeriGirl26 (15100) 24 days ago

I have a relative like that who's a chatterbox. Even when they take a breath you can't get a word in edgewise.

Oh my God! :O Someone actually did that while texting to you on the phone?! That is soooo not okay! That's one of those "keep it to yourself" kind of things, preferably something you don't do when communicating with friends at all! Gross!

[–] rootvegetables (1893) 25 days ago

I suspect that she only wants the two of you to be friends.

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[–] Kj1oceanlust (1528) 24 days ago

Lol, that's funny. Seriously though, it is! This happened like 5 or so years ago. But as recently as last year, she kind of hinted to me that I was in her sites (romantically). She pretty much gave me the go ahead to make a move on her, and I paused for a few seconds and gave a friendly smirk. The way I read into it, was she made it obvious she liked me and could see us possibly getting it on. We've been friends for over 10 years I'm sure. And I consider her one of my closest friends. I even sort of casually told her recently, that I loved her. I mean, I've confided lots in her over the years. And I would be heartbroken if I heard something bad happened to her. And yes I'm male, perhaps I should point that out. But, I'm sometimes too sensitive about things in life that just happen, lol.

[–] 123Guy (7838) 24 days ago

You are in the backup line for the just in case times.

[–] Kowalski (78914) 24 days ago

YOUR SISTER SOUNDS LIKE A NICE PERSON.🙂

[–] PersistentViewer (2682) 24 days ago

It's honestly, nothing to judge.