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How do we know our feelings or even thoughts in this life are correct and legitimate?

posted 10 months ago by TheMan18 (13188)
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Besides some very OBVIOUS examples and other matters etc... We are sometimes if not always told we are allowed to feel or think whatever we do as they are OUR feelings, but I wonder - what IF they happen to be, rightly, wrongly or complex-oriented wise, wrong and illegitimate, and it makes us worried, down, brooding and on the internet side of things - DESPERATE for an INDULGENT and friendly conversation (there are exceptions, even with ME) or to come to a conclusion with more finesse and style and less strictness, authority and typical truistic obviousness here or there? But OK, if people can't help but only be along those lines don't worry I won't hold a grudge, but then you know, personal preferences, surrounded by emotions, conflicts of interests, inability to remain passive, having tantrums, being socially sensitive etc?

But then in this world we are told and actively told what to do, say and even THINK, sometimes it works out alright, in others cases gets us in trouble, sometimes we experience Karma Houdini etc. And I don't NORMALLY say may think or feel ONE thing BUT certain circumstances MAY cause me to change my viewpoint. But some people OVERLOOK or even DON'T FEEL ANYTHING negative themselves on some things or others that they may even NATURALLY know they aren't supposed to. Won't name any big examples, but you can imagine it AND apply it to anything in life. Sometimes I may NATURALLY be calm, others - a few tantrums on the order of "Nooooo".

Anyways...

P.S. And even if I DO get told I am NOT allowed to feel a certain way, in any world, would that be legitimate, thanks.

[–] BKB (11325) 10 months ago

Dude, where are on earth do you fucking come up with this shit?? 🤔

[–] parkerbot (10735) 10 months ago

This is what happens when you eat expired knock off Russian Chez Whiz.

[–] parkerbot (10735) 10 months ago

What I wonder about is how do you know you're not just a passenger to it all.

Most of your body functions without any effort or control on your part - your liver is doing stuff without any input from you - how do you know your brain isn't doing the same and you only think you're in control.

[–] davodikum (6212) 10 months ago

Conciousness is just a parasite on these organic meat suits. We're in control like a driver drives a car. Parts need to work independently of each other. But, more like a symbiotic relationship.

[–] aliensalmon (5855) 10 months ago

Isn't "correct" and "legitimate" subjective?

[–] jacotodd47 (2402) 10 months ago

Wow, this guy has given it a lot of thought.

To me the answer is simple...

Who knows?

Actually, your thoughts are legitimate if in fact they came from you - and are in all honesty what you really think.

Are they correct? Who knows? Some will like your thoughts, some won't.

Really all that matters is your thoughts and feelings are correct to you.

[–] AmeriGirl26 (15121) 10 months ago

First off, you can't control what people are thinking about. People are gonna have their thoughts go wherever they want within the privacy of their own minds.

If someone is telling you that you "aren't allowed" to think a certain way, you gotta ask yourself, "How much does this person love to control others?" Usually people like that are not people you want to hang out with, because they stink of being control-freaks.

People can think any way they want. Whether it's right or wrong is dependent on the subject and the situation involved.

[–] TheMan18 (13188) 10 months ago

Can you control what YOU think and feel, about anything?

[–] AmeriGirl26 (15121) 10 months ago

Sure. It's your mind. Do whatever you want with it.

Now if you're saying I could control what I say what's on my mind, that's another ballpark entirely.

There's a difference between saying what's on your mind, and controlling your speech or saying nothing at all, despite what you're thinking. The two things that drive such behavior are manners, such as trying not to be rude to someone else; or fear that you'll get in trouble or hurt someone else's feelings. Both factors are driven by your upbringing, how you feel about the other person/people in the room, the situation at hand, and sometimes even how old you are.

That last one is about whether you have reached the "I don't care" stage in your life yet. There's a reason some elderly people say whatever comes out of their mouths, rather than checking themselves. They often can get away with it, simply because they stopped caring what people think, and not everyone takes them as seriously as they would a younger person saying the same thing. Ironically, I've actually met and seen younger people who reached that stage early, or they were always like that, even as kids, and were usually in trouble a lot, or social pariahs. However, it doesn't change the fact that some of them have a strong personality and a personal conviction that can be admirable in some situations. They're brave enough not to let society dictate to them how to think or feel in public.

[–] TheMan18 (13188) 10 months ago

"First off, you can't control what people are thinking about"
My parents and relatives did that at times when I was a kid, lol, mostly in the name of upbringing and nurture. Nurture vs. nature, other people may have had it harder, lol.

[–] AmeriGirl26 (15121) 10 months ago

Well....it's usually an issue of teaching young children manners, what is okay and what is not in public, and how the rules of society work. They're young and don't know better, and it's the parents' job to teach them that. And yeah, kids (as well as their parents) will make mistakes along the way. It's part of the learning process.

I can think of all sorts of ways kids would say whatever was on their mind in public, good or bad, and it royally embarrassed their poor parents. You would not believe the stories I've read online of kids doing that, lol. Though often it's the kind of situation that was horrible at the time, and later you look back and laugh ;)

[–] Magicdave (1015) 10 months ago

One.) God gave man free will. We are allowed to think and feel and act as we will, for good or ill.
Two.) God gave man free will. Not some internet "influencer".
Three.) Think for yourself. And if the results aren't what you want, try a different path!
There is a poem that I love that has helped me through life.
It is by Robert Frost. Maybe it will help you.

The Road Not Taken

TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

- Robert Frost