Should men be "expected" to foot the bill on dates?
Or is it different these days to have both split?
--Michael D. Clarke
I always paid.
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In a good relation, when you're footing too many bills, your partner should recognize the effort and step in too.
shareA good man should want to pay for the date.
shareIn theory, but not every man is flush with cash, and surely it's maintaining the patriarchial order to believe that a man should always have a bigger wallet than the woman he is dating.
shareDate within your budget? Find a Mcdonald's girl for the hard times. Date the Johnny Walker Blue Label when you had a good night at the casino. Or just get a better job and bang all the baddies you want.
shareBullshit! A respectful woman doesn't go through life thinking men and the world owe her. People like you have ruined dating, and are fueling the MGTOW movement. Women are pretty much equal too men now. So as far as I'm concerned, now more than ever, you don't deserve to be placed on a pedestal and given this much respect and consideration. Unless the man knows you rather well and is certain your worthy of more respect.
shareI don’t date anymore, my wife won’t let me, but I think the guy should pay in the early going.
That’s possibly sexist or ancient machismo but screw it, that’s how I grew up.
Later on if a serious relationship develops I’ve found that it’s no big deal who pays. It was always ‘OK, you’ve got $50 and I’ve got sixty bucks, how’s about a nice restaurant and a movie?’
I'm of the opinion you split at the beginning depending on what you order, and then if the relationship gets more serious later, you go by income and you choose places you can both afford - but whoever insists on a pricier place has to fork more money over. However, I've noticed that a lot of men can get real weird when it comes to this. Many get offended, become disinterested or start expecting you to pay their share of the bill if you show any sign of financial independence. So I know it's not a common thing.
shareIt seems like a lot of people here are dating really horrible people. Maybe you should check yourself on what kind of people you're dating. I'm divorced 4 years and my ex husband insists on paying for every meal we eat together on a bi monthly basis. He also insists on paying for pet food for the pets we had together.
If I was dating a guy who made a lot less then me, I would insist on paying for both of us.
"It seems like a lot of people here are dating really horrible people."
By all accounts, horrible people figure very largely in the modern dating experience!
I'm glad to be old and out of it. Things were bad enough back in the day.