Guys: do you pursue women who play "hard to get"?
Or is that irritating and you don't bother texting/phoning her back?
shareI'm in my 30s and I'm getting too old to play games. I want someone who is direct. Playing games is a sign of immaturity and a toxic person.
share👍🏻 Yep, playing games is very immature.
shareQuestion for you. This girl and I were talking on the phone regularly. We met twice. Then she starts playing the "hard to get" routine. The last few times I asked her if we could talk on the phone , but she responded that she's too tired and we can talk later and we did.
I then texted her if we could meet up again and she responded "I guess it could be fun".
I stopped texting her after that because the word "guess" makes me believe she's not really interested. Otherwise, she would've said "Oh, I would love to meet with you again!"
However, all of a sudden she sent me a text 1 week later saying "Happy birthday". Why would she send that if she's not interested???? Because it seems to me that she was giving off standoffish vibes earlier.
It's been a couple of days since she sent me the birthday text. But I'm gonna ghost her though. 👻 She seems to like playing mind games.
Like it or not (and no woman ever admits this) they ALWAYS cultivate potential "backup options".
I have plenty of experience at this and know plenty of other guys with experience at this. It's real, it's a fact of life, and not necessarily wrong.
It's the friends, but ALMOST more effect. When of her other potentials break up, back ups kick in. Often many girls will not break up, until the have a clear functioning backup or up grade.
Notice this with a vast number of divorce: moving to a back up option. I just saw this a couple months ago happen to a friend. She left for another... the groomed backup.
It's the unwritten, unadmitted, realistic rules of male female relationships.
I had girl send me happy burthdays for years. We were almost together before than, but she went with another, and now wanted that backup security feeling. No, she wasn't just being a nice person, I was a backup. I decided to ignore now I'm off her list.
That's life.
This doesn't have to be your situation, but sure smells like it
I wouldn't ghost her. I'd call her out on her shit. You don't have to be an ass, you can just say that you have more self respect than to played like she's playing you. Say something like "thanks for the texts, but you just aren't what I'm looking for". Then don't reply. Move on.
As for what 123Guy says, backup options could very well be a thing, but I'm going to say that I know plenty of men who have done the same thing. I don't really think that is specific to any group of people. People do it with romantic relationships, friendships, etc.
I'm not saying you ought to ghost her, but I'd certainly tread very carefully. I can't help but wonder if she has another guy she's more interested in and you're her backup.
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