Or is that irritating and you don't bother texting/phoning her back?
shareSometimes the "hard to get" seems sexier, but no, I don't. I'd just assume they don't want me.
shareIt seems childish and a sign they're too immature to be in a relationship. I'd rather be with someone who is direct and straight to the point and not play these "mind games".
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shareWhen I was a stupid teen then Yes, for sure. Once I got some experiences, Hell No. I’m with a Great woman now for 20 years but when I was fairly Young I’d pursue a babe to the end of the map…maybe even beyond!
If I were single now and had to listen to a woman’s stories and pay for everything and drive I would not be inclined to put up with a very much bullshit today.
By my early 20s I just wouldn’t answer the phone nor pick it up and dial when I got tired of a Girl’s malarkey. I DO NOT like romantic ‘games.’
Let’s eat, screw, visit a museum, jam to music, be romantic…I’m NOT walking around over here to be fucked over.
I know I'm not a guy, so my response may not be wanted, but...
I think that if a woman is playing hard to get, and I were I guy, I would ask one more time and be assertive (not aggressive) and just tell her that I like her, but I'm not going to chase her.
As a female, I can also say that there are guys who do not take no for an answer and like to pretend that you are playing hard to get when you really aren't interested, you were just being polite. So a please to the guys on this thread who are in the dating pool; learn the difference.
As a guy I would say that I would fear asking again because she might think I won't leave her alone because there are too many creeps out there.
shareIt's impossible to know the difference when women change how they act depending with whom they're interacting. Woman think all those subtle signs are obvious when they're subtle and not obvious at all. If you're afraid, tell the guy hell no in public. If you think the guy will follow you, make a big scene.
shareAll people change how they act depending on who they are with. Some people play games. Both men and women. Telling an aggressive guy no in public doesn't always work even when there are people around. Same with making a scene. When I'm talking about a rejection, I'm not really talking about in person. I'm thinking more about using a dating app, or just talking or texting. In person I think it's a lot easier to tell if someone is into you.
shareNope. If she is going to play games that is on her and with the whole #metoo thing etc I am not going to pursue only to have the cops knock on my door.
shareI honestly don't even know how to answer that in this day and age.
It seems like all the goalposts and definitions have been shifted dramatically in the last few years, so the question is very complicated to answer.
I will say that when I was younger and single, I found women who clearly let me know they were interested but played "hard to get," much more alluring than women who were easy. I always enjoyed the dance of courtship.
I understand why young men today are scared shitless to pursue a woman beyond saying "hi" though.
Isn’t saying hi classed as micro aggression nowadays?
shareJudging by some of the insane new social "rules" I've seen declared on the internet the last few years, I'd say speaking to a strange woman, or even approaching a strange woman, unsolicited, is seen as an aggressive and potentially threatening act now.
It's pretty sad.