I am getting better.

You are wasting your time - he won’t listen to you, he won’t learn from his mistakes and then in a few days time he’ll come on here and moan about the same things again.

Its more complex and complicated than that.

I also think at least one user there missed the point and he may even have been wrong about that scene being gender reversal "rape" and that one guy who disagrees is bad, I just feel embarrassed for myself in the situation.

Also I am not a bad person by any means, just a guy who at the time got confused and carried away in a cinematic fashion and OK I guess I asked wrong people for help here or there.

Its not even "that subject" anymore that matters. Or even all the film stuff in general...

I just feel empty by having been overexposed to certain bits of argumentative intensity and underexposed to calm, polite and helpful explanations. The fact that in that scene it was a pretty and vulnerable young girl who was also accused of being an instigator of a wrongful deed or maybe it was NOT it kinda threw me off track and this SURPRISE I haven't spelled to people OUT.

It was years ago, but I also feel embarrassed. I was also banned from there, but its a long story, but those messages remain. Sorry for how it all turned out ultimately.

“Its more complex and complicated than that.”

And right on cue we have the sticking fingers in ears and I’m not listening to you, lol.

I guess I'll have to. But it will take time, I am also a little financially lost these days. Not enough money.

I just wish he for instance told me to relax and calm down and maybe even agree to watch the movie and think about it carefully.

After all, its also a little or if not, even in fictional scenarios, taboo and unfair like that to consider a chick a, you know, and maybe it totally wasn't it so... And of course its different if it was a guy etc, but again, I simply didn't want to spell it out at the time.

But for my uneasiness and uncertainty, I paid a bit of a price. Again, its the SITUATION overall that caused me to feel upset today.

It was gender reversal or if it was it in a sense that in it the woman seemed to be the perpetrator and the man a victim, that's all, its a description, not offense.

And also, I really wasn't sure if that scene was it. Yes I know all that stuff sslssg and also - I REALLY DO NOT WANT to become subject heavy.

Not to mention, I HATE rapists in general, they make my blood boil. But it usually involves male perpetrators whom I just gotten used to despise. And in that sense, I don't just look at it from victim's point of view.

And again, in that film, I simply wasn't sure if that scene was it and felt it wasn't.

And I actually wanted to look sometimes at that women by men aspect on its own as for own, I actually did wonder what it was like if I was in a situation and was a victim from it but other examples I also got used and could not imagine, hence I used that term and I saw it used too.

Plus, I also wondered if we should treat female offenders differently in a sense than their male counterparts. Both by law and morals and in other cases.

And even if what I say can sometimes be a little insensitive to victims, sorry, but overall THIS TOPIC IS TOO MUCH FOR ME AND I FOR ONE WOULD RATHER STOP TALKING ABOUT IT.

THE POINT IS - THE OVERALL SITUATION ONLINE made me feel bad in general and THIS is what I need help for.

I also sometimes wondered philosophically about other forms of violence too and I didn't just want to feel as if sexual violence is the only kind that is bad, wrong, hurtful etc, different as it is.

Not to mention, in my family it was often a taboo topic to talk about, and I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT NOW!!!

SO PLEASE DON'T MAKE THIS THREAD SUBJECT HEAVY. And don't give me lectures on it here EITHER.

You’re wasting your time.

(Silently speaking - its a generally overall taboo subject for me, but I wondered if one scene from the film was even it, but was unsure, and on the internet, people didn't quite provide the responses I was looking for and may even have got it wrong, harsh reality of the matter overall and general nature of victimhood understood, not denied, but for brief argument's sake, notwithstanding. And if it was one of those other examples with male perpetrator, even if the scene may have been ambiguous, it wouldn't cause in me a sense of surprise, mystery and desperation and a desire for understanding as well as calmness and whatnot.)

I ALSO ruminated here on OTHER stuff like various bits and pieces of disciplinary authority I have experienced that I found spirit crushing a little bit. And for not understanding the world. And for having embarrassing moments in life.

And I simply myself wanted to come out clean and with my respectable reputation intact or at best, left alone.

P.S. Again, I respect the issues of victimhood and whatnot. But in SOME cases, I looked at certain matters or even their aspects from the point of view of general existence, perpetrators, laws and morals including that scene which also happened to be ambiguous, and let's not get too picky as for one, I also described it that way to show that it isn't one of those traditional examples where mostly it is the male perpetrator etc. And it also got me thinking about stuff a lot in various other ways too. Hence why I sometimes was picky to choose what, when and how to talk about things, general overall (and often harsh and sad) reality of the matter, or OTHER matters too, notwithstanding.

Will do, thanks.

You’re wasting your time.

No worries, will follow your advice too Otter. :)