If you constantly think negative thoughts or negative outcomes, are you ultimately just wishing bad luck on yourself?

They seem to be suggesting that people who are miserable love to keep company with others who are also miserable.

But IRONICALLY, the ARTICLES that have been posted here to this topic also say that's NOT the case, and that MOST of the time those who PRETEND not to be MISERABLE (by PRETENDING to be HAPPY or OPTIMISTIC) are actually the ones who are the MOST MISERABLE.

Here's a quote that illustrates this point:

https://lonerwolf.com/negative-thoughts/

Stop Fighting Your Negative Thoughts – Here are 3 Reasons Why

positive thinking is actually a form of spiritual bypassing because it is used by people to avoid their deeper issues such as persistent unhappiness, deep-rooted anger, and emptiness.

There is a reason why positive thinking makes us feel nauseous and overly optimistic people annoy us to no end – and that is that, deep down, positive thinking feels fake and disingenuous to us.

The article also explains how SOCIAL MEDIA is responsible for the ATTITUDE that people shouldn't be PESSIMISTIC or TOO NEGATIVE. So that also means that it's SPREADING lots of MISINFORMATION around that isn't helpful:


>>All over social media, the internet, and within countless books we hear of ways to “stop,” “banish,” “eliminate,” and “eradicate” negative thoughts.

>>We even see more noble and spiritual posts out there aimed at helping us to “overcome” and even “transform” negative thoughts into positive thoughts.

>>While all of these blog posts, advice columns, and step-by-step guides may be written with good intentions in mind, what they are really doing is deepening our suffering and causing us to fight against ourselves under the guise of “self-improvement.”

>>The reality is that trying to get rid of your negative thoughts is a reactive and mentally confused approach towards increasing your happiness, calmness, and well-being. Those that advise you to replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts aren’t actually helping you in the long term.

>>In fact, if anything, the positive thinking approach does more harm than good.

As you can see it also says that "POSITIVE THINKING does MORE HARM to us" than being a GOOD thing for us.

And since my NIECE has also ABSORBED this kind of MINDSET now, (where she'll only interact with others she doesn't consider to have NEGATIVE THOUGHTS) one can also TESTIFY as to how SOCIAL MEDIA has pretty much turned her into an UNBEARABLE SELF RIGHTEOUS MONSTER or into what the article describes as being "an overly optimistic (person) who annoy(s) us to no end."

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A POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE is one thing.

Being REALISTIC about whether or not you should be POSITIVE about a NEGATIVE SITUATION is another.

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Here's part of an ARTICLE that CONFIRMS what it is that I've been telling you about needing to "FIND A BALANCE" between being either TOO POSITIVE or TOO NEGATIVE:

https://www.entrepreneur.com/article/323577

WHY THINKING NEGATIVELY ISN'T ALWAYS a BAD THING

we're often urged to "look on the bright side," but this advice isn't helpful for most people.

In fact, it's self-defeating.

When people think negatively, they're likely to convert their anxiety into action. Negative people are well-aware that they could fail, so they may take more time preparing for possible worst-case scenarios.

This research was enough to get people intentionally thinking more negatively.

if you tell a defensive pessimist to visualize failure before they throw darts at a board, they're more likely to perform positively. On the other hand, if you ask strategic optimists to do the same, they'll perform worse

Not all mindsets are created equally. There's a downside to positive thinking. One serious enough that it might convince you to ditch optimism altogether --

Positive thinking's dark side

There's actually quite a bit of data suggesting that thinking positively can hinder people from realizing their goals.

There are problems with pessimism too. The trick is to strike a balance between positive and negative thinking.

When we're overwhelmingly positive, we're unlikely to experience stress or anxiety -- two emotions that galvanize us to try harder and strive for more. Conversely, if we're too pessimistic, we can be so paralyzed by stress that it's hard to take action.

So, what do we do?

Explore the space in the middle.

what's right for you when it comes to positive and negative thinking?

Chances are you already know. Find a mindset that leads to mental wellness and productivity.

But, next time somebody tells you to think positively, remind them that negative thinking is a more-than-valid option.

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Here's another article:

https://lonerwolf.com/negative-thoughts/

Stop Fighting Your Negative Thoughts – Here are 3 Reasons Why

Is negative thinking something we should be ashamed of?

QUOTE: All over social media, the internet, and within countless books we hear of ways to “stop,” “banish,” “eliminate,” and “eradicate” negative thoughts.

We even see more noble and spiritual posts out there aimed at helping us to “overcome” and even “transform” negative thoughts into positive thoughts.

While all of these blog posts, advice columns, and step-by-step guides may be written with good intentions in mind, what they are really doing is deepening our suffering and causing us to fight against ourselves under the guise of “self-improvement.”

The reality is that trying to get rid of your negative thoughts is a reactive and mentally confused approach towards increasing your happiness, calmness, and well-being. Those that advise you to replace your negative thoughts with positive thoughts aren’t actually helping you in the long term. In fact, if anything, the positive thinking approach does more harm than good.

Why Positive Thinking Isn’t the Answer

Undoubtedly, positive thinking makes us feel good – temporarily. We can even train ourselves to adopt a more positive mindset, which helps us to see life, ourselves, and others through a more optimistic lens.

But while trying to transform our negative thinking patterns into more positive patterns feels good, and may temporarily make us feel better about ourselves, it isn’t the answer. In fact, if anything, positive thinking is actually a form of spiritual bypassing because it is used by people to avoid their deeper issues such as persistent unhappiness, deep-rooted anger, and emptiness.

There is a reason why positive thinking makes us feel nauseous and overly optimistic people annoy us to no end – and that is that, deep down, positive thinking feels fake and disingenuous to us.

positive thinking is still playing by the black and white rules of duality which is a way of seeing the world in a fractured and unrealistic state. In other words, when we think negative thoughts, our knee-jerk reaction is to believe that the opposite end of the spectrum – positive thinking – is the answer.

The problem here is that we are still puppets of the mind – we can’t see that there is actually a third way that transcends thought altogether,


Positive thinking also involves a tremendous amount of judgment. When we want to “think positively” we are essentially condemning the rest of our negative thoughts and trying to be a way which we think is “better.”

Once we have condemned our negative thoughts as bad or undesirable, we are actually creating more negativity, but this time painting it with the pretty face of “positive thinking.”


To be continued ...

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I actually wasn't referring to your hurricane statement when I said fearmonger. I just know your schtick by now. Holier than thou bullshit. Covid update this, covid update that. I understood you better when I thought you were a bot. Now I know you're a human you're just annoying.

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