What would you think if someone told you that you aren't a good match because of your job? Let's say, you had been intimate (had sex) on one occasion, and by all accounts both of you were satisfied with how it went. But they say their looking for someone with a job more like their's. And what if you were somewhat happy at your job and it was an alright paying important job. But they still said this.
shareDont try to figure it out, just keep moving.
shareInteresting thread....
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What would you think if someone told you that you aren't a good match because of your job? Let's say, you had been intimate (had sex) on one occasion, and by all accounts both of you were satisfied with how it went. But they say their looking for someone with a job more like their's. And what if you were somewhat happy at your job and it was an alright paying important job. But they still said this.
Oh really, you think she wasn't satisfied when she had multiple orgasms and squirted, moaned and screamed? I'm sure it was the pleasurable type of scream lol. I'm sure she had a good time, as we talked about it later. I had fun also. She certainly wasn't a dead fish. But, I'm a logistical technician. I coordinate shipping and am also a driver. She works a desk job at the local college. Something administrative.
shareJobs matter. It's part of your identity, and in one or another, you take it home with you. Your partner also has to answer this question with every new person they meet, "So what do they do?" Some people can even be horrified by certain jobs, like being a butcher. Or it's a high risk job like firefighter. It's a big deal. And of course, they may also know that job isn't gonna give them the financial life they desire. If that's one of the first things they bring up, make for the door and get lost.
share"Good luck with your search"
shareI'd ask for a refund.
shareJune 11, 2020 Thursday 4:15 pm
Count yourself fortunate. It's cool when people want to make sacrifices for each other for the sake of a committed relationship. If things are not working out it's best to cut ties before each of you go deeper into the relationship since it would be harder to climb out of later on. The point is: you don't want regret, where the cost is a lot higher to give up something the longer it continues.
Let me use my best friend as an example. He's a funeral director and embalmer, working up to 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and is constantly on call with some days being relatively calm while others go-go-go. He fell in love with a young woman. She was a practicing Seventh-Day Adventist. He gave up eating pork out of respect for her and her beliefs. Their relationship got to the point of being kind of long-distance though it was more on her end than his end. Eventually he decided to call it quits, telling her how he felt. Her reaction was one of relief, actually.
They realized they were better off being good friends than they were lovers. They still keep in contact occasionally due to sharing many of the same friends. He's happy their split was mutual so there was no emotional damage done. Plus, he gets to eat pork again!
He has since been in another relationship for a while now. This time with a woman whom he met through his work. She's also funeral personnel. He feels like he's made the right decision. Judging from our conversations, he is much more joyful now than he was then with the previous relationship.
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