I think the most common unrealized mistake a single guy makes is that he only wants to date a pretty girl.
Thing is, a pretty girl has many guys to choose from. This is the underlining problem.
So, to get her, a guy should be interesting first. To get a girl to be interested in you there are many ways, like money and charisma, etc.
However, many guys don't have that. Thus, in order to be interesting without having those superficial things, we need to go deeper in human psyche: we all like to win.
To win something, there must be a competition. Without a competition you can't win. What we need to do is make one.
A guy can't make a World Cup out of nothing. Thus we need to start from somewhere.
Be friendly with any girl. Fat girls, shy girls, lonely girls, weird girls, etc. They are just like us, regular guys, so we connect easier.
But don't date them. Only date girls you actually want. Never settle. This is how success is achieved. We never settle. We strive for the best.
After we got aquainted with regular variety girls, other girls start to notice. You raise on the ladder. This may take quite some time, but this is fun. When we get along with these we thought were unattractive girls, many are actually quite interesting. But remember, never settle. Friendzone them all. Now you know why girls friendzoned you in the past.
Keep being friendly with girls. Which is as easy af. We just have "to listen" to whatever they're talking. No need to answer, no need to actually understand anything, and no need to suggest anything. It's literally just do nothing except nodding a few times and "yea and then" every a few minutes. Finally, when they wind down, add "so what would you do about it?" Add a couple of minutes, then finish it with, "well I think it's the best."
Done. She'll like you.
Remember, do not date 'em. Stay friends.
Do this for enough time and now you have built enough street cred to get the girl you wanted in the beginning. Also, at this point you'll see that girls are actually not very hard to approach. You will find talking to women easy and relaxing. This is what they want. A man that can talk to a woman easily and in a relaxed manner. Not just rushing into sex sex sex.
Now it's time to ask this dream girl to date if you want. This would make her special. She is a winner. She wins you!
Don't worry if you fail or that she already has a boyfriend. At this state, we also already amassed a lot to choose from. So if our dream girl is taken, just move on and get new dreams. This is how we do it.
My love relationship mantra: "Men choose, women decide."
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