Being a single guy sucks

The best advice is become the best you that you can be. Weight train. Eat well. Drop bodyfat. Find a style that suits you and rock it. etc. It is tough out there, these days, but if you're realistic and don't expect a supermodel things are still possible.

I feel like being single or hitched both have their benefits and disadvantages.

OP, no one likes being alone, but there is something worse than being alone. That is being with someone who is not right for you. Not only is the situation, in and of itself, bad for you—because your needs are not being met—the situation is also taking up space in your life to prevent you from meeting someone who actually deserves you.

Read sslssg’s post. She found someone great, because she stopped looking. She was wholly content to be on her own. That takes confidence. Confidence is very appealing, to both genders. Dig yourself, and others will dig you, too.

A tip: “lines” don’t work. What turns a woman’s head is confidence, DIRECTNESS (without being pushy, aggressive or in any other way a penis), the willingness to be vulnerable (I know that’s scary, but it takes brass balls to be vulnerable and women know it), and a sense of humor (because you have to be smart to be funny; also, her mother has probably told her to marry a man who makes her laugh, and that is great advice). Looks matter. We’re only human; but they matter far less to women than they do to men. Women are, generally, deeper and smarter than we are. They look for the fundamentals, not the superficials. Look her in the eyes, not in the boobs. You’ll be the first guy she’s ever met who refused to drool on her cleavage, and you will get her attention. Basically, be interesting and interested. Show her you really want to get to know HER, and not just have sex with her. I know: radical concept, right? In short, be a self-respecting MAN, and not a horney boy (and, OP, I am not saying this applies to you, because I sure as hell don’t know you; I am writing for a general audience here), and you’ll be amazed at how much fun you and the ladies will have. The whole point of this is to have fun. Put your focus on having fun, and not on trying to SELL the poor woman a bill of BS, and you will both be happier. Guys try to sell her a bill if BS 20 times a day. Good luck, and have fun.

WHAT SHADE OF BLUE WOULD YOU SAY THEY ARE AT THIS POINT?🙂

That is why you don't bother and just enjoy your life in other ways. You know, even if you were to find a girlfriend, you would have to work just as hard to keep her.

I know an ugly and obnoxious little guy, a brilliant scientist who spend years whining about women the way that you do, and everyone commiserated and secretly thought that who could blame the women for turning him down. Some times in his forties he made a turnaround, and suddenly started getting dates with very attractive women, I mean I've lost touch with him, but for years he was never without an attractive date, or a girlfriend who was out of his league.

Turns out his secret was: He'd done the math, like a proper scientist.

He'd just counted up the number of rejections from women to the number of acceptances, and calculated that in order to get ONE date, he simply had to get the fifty or 100 rejections over with. So he just started approaching a lot of women, and accepting the high percentage of rejections as normal and necessary, and it was true - a certain percentage of women were willing to spend some time with him. Some became actual girlfriends, and he became a much happier and more pleasant man.

True story!

The moral is: Do the fucking math.

All girls don't get celebs.

There are real women out there who never see a celeb, MOST, in fact.

Stay calm.

Carry on.

When you were in your teens and 20’s did you have better luck dating?