You'd think she suffered a personal trauma or lost a relative
But no, she just changed schools. That's literally it.
Imagine if her mom died or something
But no, she just changed schools. That's literally it.
Imagine if her mom died or something
Wow
She didn't just change schools, she moved across the country and away from everyone that she knew. The movers were taking a long time and she didn't have any of her things to make her feel at home. She was sad and upset for a few days. That seems perfectly normal to me.
That's the thing, the emotional issue was something seen as ordinary, expected, and non-traumatic, or something everyone expected to be non-traumatic. Because the filmmakers wanted to explore the feelings associated with everyday events.
shareExactly. I mean I guess I can see where some might find what was going on inside as trauma, but that was just a part of growing up and learning that it's okay to feel different emotions.
shareIt is important to remenber as well that moving to San Fransisco wasn't Riley's choice.
But still, she was only expected to just go along with it and be happy.
She changed state, town, AND lost all her old friends and the area which she grew up in.
That can be quite devastating to a young child.
I have to wonder if you're a fucking retard, MovieElephant?
Not only friends, but relatives, too. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins. She's too far away to see them on a regular basis or to even spend time with them on holidays.
I can really identify with this film despite the main character being a young girl, because this happened to me. It began with my dad being transferred when he was in the military, then resettling once he was through with active duty. Once we moved, I saw my grandparents maybe about five times. The few times I saw my cousins, they were like strangers to me.
Different people (including kids) have different valences for what affects them.
An Army brat might find moving from city to city a routine and might adapt to it in a healthy manner, while someone else might find it a horrible experience that made them feel alone and helpless. Parents aren't always equipped to recognize what's going on and deal with it properly.
Omg you're so wrong I can't even
shareOkay !
You explained that quite well !
How so? How is snepts so wrong that you can't even....what? Explain?
shareHey, you seem like a good egg !
Whatever that means?
Come a little bit closer ....
Sorry, just being silly. I have an old favorite song in my head, Come A Little Bit Closer.
Everything good, everything gone, all that's left is a sweet melody.
(Why are you just a sweet memory?)
These are a play on the lyrics, nothing more. Me exposing my empty headedness.
Guys, don't pay attention to snepts anymore, he's lost it
shareAbsolutely correct 😊
shareThey moved across country. She was happy where she started out, and after they moved she was miserable. I thought it was a pretty good choice because it is such an ordinary and relatable thing for an adolescent to go through, and because it was "small" it was something where you could understand intellectually that the movie was about her learning how to process a challenging experience rather than about something truly traumatic like losing a parent. She finds moving hard but the point is that once she accepts it, she's able to grow from it and get a new, more mature "control panel." I also liked that her act of defiance was stealing her mom's credit card to fund a bus ticket "back home," because it's something that a child would understand as "clearly wrong" but also something she would be able to find her way back from (as opposed to, if she robbed a convenience store it would be harder for a child to root for her as a character).
shareSorta funny to have to explain it in such detail, when I would like to assume we all get it from the start.
shareI know, right? It's so funny. Watching it, I thought it was funny that the big climax is... she gets on the bus... and then she gets off! It's so ordinary. But really she's physically separating herself from her parents, who are her protectors, even if she doesn't get that. And, as an adult, we know that when adolescents do this, terrible things can happen to them, they can be drawn into drugs or prostitution, be taken by bad people, all kinds of terrible things (that a kid wouldn't think of) so there's a level of darkness there that an adult can understand, and kids kinda feel it deep down, but the movie doesn't show them something scary and traumatic to get the point across. It keeps their experience of the story very kid-level. I think it's a wonderful movie.
shareHer emotions were perfectly normal and reasonable. Many things adults don't consider especially traumatic are very traumatic for children. Some day, if you have children you will see this for yourself.
shareExactly SPP.
I once saw someone say that when a child offers you something from their hand as a gift you should accept it from them...instead of quite often saying no thanks because you don't really need whatever it is.
It might not mean much to you that they're holding a small toy.
However, it's a HUGE thing to them as that's all they know.
It struck such a chord with me that with my kids, I pay far more attention to what they're doing in the way that they're seeing it than how I might look at it from an adults view point.
Like the age thing. 6 months to a 40 year old might not seem like much. Too them it can be huge as they see that as a huge period of what they've know.
I'm sure MovieElephant is likely just at the windup but it's intersting to see how some adults can be so removed from a child's viewpoint.
Well if you noticed, she wasn't in control of her emotions - the little voices inside her head were in control.
So you're saying that you are heartless and do not sympathize with a traumatized child? She clearly did not have the emotional maturity you have, nor the ability to not feel any form of emotion like you.
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