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Do you want to know what real bullying is?

posted 14 years ago by jizzy662
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Real bullying is when you're walking down the school behind some guy, he notices you, and out of nowhere, punches you hard in the chest, knocking you to the ground. Why? "For the hell of it."

Real bullying is having two guys hold you down while another slowly crushes your foot, which you just had surgery on.

Real bullying is having baseballs, basketballs, books, and chairs thrown at you, aiming for your head.

Real bullying is having to find a different way to leave school every few weeks because if you continue to leave the same way, the same kids will find you and continue to kick your ass.

I only wished I was cyberbullied. After getting choked until I passed out, mean words like "loser" really have no affect on me. Seriously, just turn the damn computer off. That's the real problem, girls like her are too dependent on the internet.

You're going to die, and then you will be dead, because I killed you!!!

[–] 13 years ago

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[–] Eve_of_Destruction 13 years ago

Real bullying is when you're walking down the school behind some guy, he notices you, and out of nowhere, punches you hard in the chest, knocking you to the ground. Why? "For the hell of it."

There are also kids and people getting tortured, raped and murdered. Little boys getting molested and killed. Does that make your experience any less hurtful? I am so sick of everyone fighting for the Worst Victim position.

[–] Livana_Faolan 13 years ago

Try telling all of that stuff to the little girl who committed suicide because she had been cyber-bullied.

I feel bad for you. I really do. But don't belittle victims of cyber bullies, and don't make light of cyber-bullying.

Bullying is bullying, no matter what form it takes. And it is always wrong.

[–] tuklat 13 years ago

I don't want to sound ignorant or anything, or belittle those who have been cyber-bullied, but I don't understand how it gets so out of hand that you feel the need to end your life...I can understand how being harassed verbally or physically at school could cause extreme emotional trauma, because you can't get away from it. You have to come in contact with peers when you go to school, there's no way around it, and I couldn't imagine the stress and mental anxiety from having to go to school in fear and the stress of having to basically hide from people for fear of being humiliated...but I don't understand how people let cyber-bullying get so out of control in their lives. I know a lot happens on Facebook and similar networking sites, but how?? How hard is it to just delete those people. If they are tormenting you so bad you want to kill yourself, unfriend them. Is the number of "friends" you have that important to you that you have to keep people who want to torture you on your "friend" list?? I honestly don't get it :S Worse case scenario, get rid of your computer. I have facebook, and there is no way in hell i'd friend someone that I knew hated my guts or who made me feel worthless just for the sake of having a few more "friends" on my list so I could look special...

I have never been cyber-bullied so I apologize if I sound ignorant, but feel free to explain to me how it works...

[–] serval26 13 years ago

Tuklat, I'm a bit older (graduated in '97) but I was bullied behind my back by my best friends (frenemies) in junior high and it got so bad that I wanted to end my life. It boiled down to this: A guy I liked wanted to have sex but I wasn't ready yet (I was 13) and my friends began spreading rumors that I was a lesbian and it took off like wildfire.

I guess all I can say is that I was obsessed with what people thought of me. I simply wanted to be liked by my peers, probably because my parents ignored me/didn't show any interest in me. It was scary to me that my friends weren't really my friends because if that were the case then I truly had no friends and I was alone! Plus, I really looked up to them. They were cool in the sense that they listened to good music, were artistic, liked the same shows and movies as I did and we were just a lot alike so I was baffled why they were being so mean. If I couldn't be friends with them, then who was I going to be friends with? I didn't really relate to anyone else at my school.

My mom eventually took me to a psychiatrist because I was failing every class and had basically "given up" and I was put on anti-depressants which truly saved my life (I refused to talk to a therapist). And I cut those friends off and embraced not having any friends for a while and took the time to re-evaluate my life and what was important to me.

But for a person like myself (when I was a teenager) who's that sensitive and obsessed with what people think (hence not being able to just turn off the laptop), I can imagine cyberbullying being really bad for some people. I'm glad I didn't grow up in this generation. :/

Anyway, that's my two cents. :O)

[–] shakenama 13 years ago

When it comes to bullying, statistics show males are more prone to being physically bullied and females verbally. About 42 percent of kids have been bullied while online with one in four being verbally attacked more than once.
It's easy to retaliate physically, and they can be reported immediatly to the police, however when you're constantly bombarded with words such as "whore", "skank", "slut" it hits emotionally in the heart and is drawn over a long period.

Many of the suicide cases such as Megan Meier, Kristina Calco, Phoebe Prince and Eric Mohat were bullied verbally (at school and on the internet). Eric was the exception being both physically and verbally assualted.

Im not saying physical bullying is any less worse....but the words cut much deeper emotionally than the physical attacks.

"I started out with nothing - And I still have most of it left !"

[–] chiibug 13 years ago

:( I'm sorry for what you have to go through, OP. At least you're stronger now because of it...?

Anyway, I guess that people are just sensitive to different things.

I do agree that she's too dependent on the internet, too. But I'll blame that on the sloppy writing. Everything was so contrived. As if it was written by an adult who thinks this is must teenagers today do on the internet: basically log on social networking sites to gossip and ruin each other. :|

[–] Sonnengott 13 years ago

...and more creative in humiliating each other. Boys rather resort to violence and there is no easy way out of it. Boys also tend to make their way out more lulzy and competetive. Your sig makes me smile. It might creep out others, but it's fine with me.

[–] icenicess 13 years ago

Turning off the computer wont stop someone from going, "Hey there's that bitch, I heard she had sex with your boyfriend.. let's go jump her!"

The point is... a simple insult can turn into something a lot worse. And sometimes fighting back doesn't work when you are out numbered.

I thought "Deleting my account/ blocking them" would work too. People have frigging issues and have nothing better to do than to mess with someone else. when they see that Words don't bother you.. they turn to physical *beep*

You've seen the classic fight seen in a movie when a kid ignores the bully and they bully goes, "HEY I'M TALKING TO YOU, FREAK!" and pushes the kid into a locker and ends up hurting the kid.

Ignoring things doesn't always work. Fighting back doesn't always work. The only thing that would work is if EVERYONE got along.. but that's not ever going to happen so there will always be a bully in one way or another. A bully is a bully and some people aren't mentally fit enough to take a simple, "loser".

[–] tuklat 13 years ago

The discussion isn't about how physical bullying can get outta control, everyone knows that it can, it's about cyber bullying. They brought it up several times in the movie about how there is nothing they can do about it because its not face to face. Why not get rid of your account or block those people?? It's really not as hard as it sounds. If then it progresses to physical at school, then they have a leg to stand on legally.

It wasn't the girls making rude comments to her at school that got her so depressed, it was the crap going on online...all she had to do was delete her account. She torturing herself by insisting on keeping it.

[–] holographica 12 years ago

It wasn't the girls making rude comments to her at school that got her so depressed, it was the crap going on online...

The rude comments at school definitely exacerbated the situation and added to the depression, there's no point denying that. She became afraid to face people at school.

Yes, Taylor could have helped herself, and she learned that by the end. She was psychologically distraught by her situation, and the people around her didn't exactly help very much so it got worse. Her situation is actually very common when it comes to cyberbullying. This movie does teach that one of the ways to get away from it is to just log off.

[–] holographica 12 years ago

Jizzy, with this mentality, one can always find someone else with a much worse situation comparatively and so what's left to be "real?" There's no need to demean another person's pain, especially when they reach breaking point.