Mine was a couple weeks after I turned 16. I remember being pretty pleased the whole next day at school and telling my buddies as we were running laps around the football field. But to be honest, getting my first BJ at 15 made me happier than losing my virginity for some reason.
At what age did you first have sex? I'm assuming the average age is probably around 17 and curious to see if that holds true.
16 for me. Had sex for the first time with a guy friend I was attracted to. We're just basically friends with benefits now though.
shareI'm 22 and haven't lost it yet. I've had plenty of offers but the guys just haven't felt right, so I'm choosing to wait.
Don't get me wrong. I am not a christian. I am certainly not waiting for my wedding day. I am not waiting for 'the one'. I'm just annoyingly choosy, usually picking guys I literally can't have. So I'm just waiting for a guy I have great feelings for, and have been together with for a while. When it's been this long he might as well be special and a bit serious. *shrugs*
However, I have zero judgement on anyone different than me, who lost it at 13, 15, 19, whatever. Who lost it to a random guy at a party or a one night stand. I don't judge anything like that, there's no reason to.
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I was 16 and it was extremely awkward haha but I guess that can be normal. I wasn't dating the guy at the time but started dating him after. I don't regret it because I still care for him and always will but sometimes I wish I waited til I was in love.
honey badger don't care.
About two months after I turned 15.
shareI feel like the people who are describing how they lost their virginity don't feel it was very special or they don't really care about the person they did it with otherwise they wouldn't put it up on the internet for all to see.
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It's because you're talking with Americans..
Studies have shown that in more sexually liberal countries they very seldom regret their first time (Because there's no pressure for it to be so special and "Perfect")
"I feel like the people who are describing how they lost their virginity don't feel it was very special or they don't really care about the person they did it with otherwise they wouldn't put it up on the internet for all to see."
Well ye you're right about that. I even explained just that when I said how it happened to me. It wasn't special, I didn't give 2 *beep* about the girl but I found her attractive. To this day I don't regret it for a second.
It's fun and it feels good, that's all I need.
I feel like the people who are describing how they lost their virginity don't feel it was very special or they don't really care about the person they did it with otherwise they wouldn't put it up on the internet for all to see.
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I lost my virginity at 25, although I got my first Bj at 19. But it was with someone I totally didn't care about and ended up feeling empty. After that people started saying that I was changing. I started dating more and eventually got together with a girl that I really cared about. Sex with her was one of the greatest experiences ever.
Maybe losing your virginity is not when you have sex for the first time, but when you have sex with someone you care about for the first time.You know, that makes a lot of sense and it's a very liberating, nice thought, actually. Thanks for explaining that way!
Why does losing your virginity have to be special? I see no reason for it to be, actually I would rather it not be. I wouldn't want to be inexperienced and awkward when I am with someone I really care about for the first time. I would want to feel comfortable and know what I'm doing and have it be enjoyable. I mean the first time with any person is never the best because you don't know the other person's physical wants/needs well enough yet, but I feel like if I waited for my first time to be with someone who I really liked it would end up putting too much pressure on the experience and in the end it would be disappointing, which may or may not affect the relationship negatively. I'm not saying that's true for everyone, but that's how I feel about it.
I know my first time wasn't special at all. When I was in middle school I was friends with a lot of older kids in high school and they were pretty trashy and low class (though at the time I didn't know it, I thought they were cool). They had all already lost their virginity (which they called peanut butter, lol don't know why) and they kind of teased me about still being a virgin and I started to want to lose it. I ended up getting with a guy at summer camp right before I turned 13, barely knew him and I lied to him about my age (he was 15). When the guy found out he just wanted to be friends and that was fine with me, I just wanted to get it over with.
Looking back I guess it was too young since I wasn't attracted to boys yet at all no desires, and it seemed kind of trashy, but I still don't regret it. The guy was nice enough, and even though it wasn't exactly enjoyable, after it was over that "first time" pressure feeling was gone.
I didn't have sex for almost 4 years after that, but since I had done it before I was much more comfortable with it and by then I actually wanted to so I'm glad things happened as they did.
Everybody is different, so you shouldn't judge others based on your standards. Some people want to wait until they really are ready, are with the right person, etc and they may end up not losing their virginity until 20s or even later. Some people might be like me and virginity doesn't really mean anything to them, it is the individual experiences that count the most and any experience is worth having. Other people may be in the middle of the two, or there are some that just make a mistake. But just because it isn't what you would want does not make it a bad thing.
Huh, that ended up being an unnecessarily long post...
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Why does losing your virginity have to be special? I see no reason for it to be, actually I would rather it not be. I wouldn't want to be inexperienced and awkward when I am with someone I really care about for the first time.For the most part, I think I agree with you, but the thing is, unless someone is getting with a call-girl or someone like that, wouldn't there be a sense of obligation afterwards?
On my wedding day, at the age of 22, to a guy I was arrange to marry. Arranged but not forced, I did like him and said yes hence why I decided to sleep with him on my wedding night. But because we are no longer together I kinda hate the fact that I gave my virginity to a guy who didn't stick around. It was the only valuable thing I had.
Ashmi any question