Males don't seem to like "The Danish Girl" - The Danish Girl (2016) Discussion

[–] gapeach1 9 years ago

My sister and I (both females) went to an early show today. There were three other people in the theatre - all men.

They might have been wondering about us - as honestly - thoughts crossed my mind about them - I am ashamed to say.

I thought the movie/story was great and the acting extremely great.

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[–] bill_ferencz 9 years ago

Yep. That is a common reaction from people who are exposed to things too "different". Many giggle and laugh when uncomfortable.
One has to be open to everything and anything however, when wanting to grow as a person. Otherwise, the uncomfortable will always remain just that.

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[–] vibetribeweb 8 years ago

Are you open to scat eating too? I'll bet you are!! LOL!! I was not uncomfortable in the least watching that troll show his TRUE character. Speak on what you know and leave the rest to those who DO know.

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[–] lexob9 8 years ago

i agree, too much freedom is just that, too much. as someone famous said, freedom is not about limiting self less but its about having more control

i have to say about this movie though, if you just forget the transgender stuff for a moment. its love story and how to stay with loved one no matter what. but also its very sad story. did it have to be that sad? i understand that its based on true events and Redmayne's character had to die in the end but it was not sad because of him. he was selfish and went on the risk willingly, he had it coming. it was sad because of Vikander's character, who had no choice in all this. this was stupid, unnecessary and may be even exaggerated. but i guess without that you cant have Oscar so

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[–] JoeMama2016 9 years ago

The ratio of men to women was pretty even when I saw the movie. Good crowd (day after Christmas) for a small theatre.

I wonder how many bigots gave it a thumbs down without seeing it. No surprise younger people gave it the highest ratings as the subject matter is more comfortable to them and they know people who are transgender.

As much as I liked the movie, I don't think it's a movie for kids. One family brought their two daughters who looked to be about 11-13. The TV show I am Jazz is probably a better vehicle to discuss transgender with kids than this movie.

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[–] danimal09752 9 years ago

So your take is if anyone is over 25 and doesn't like this movie, they are simply bigots? Well aren't you just the picture of intolerance.

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[–] JoeMama2016 9 years ago

No, Just male fundamentalist Christians who are over 25 who didn't like this movie are bigots.

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[–] danimal09752 9 years ago

So they are bigots for lumping an entire group of people into 1 generalized category and not liking them? Happens to be exactly what you just did about christian males over 25. Bigotry works both ways and you are just as guilty of it with that statement as anyone your accusing. I'm over 25 and a non practicing christian. So based on those 2 facts I'm a bigot in your opinion?

As for this movie, I saw the movie. I watched the entire thing. And it simply wasn't my kind of thing. Was it well acted? Yes it was. Was it well written? For the most part yes. Was it my cup of tea? Not at all. You need to stop being so narrow minded that you think anyone that does not like something you like is therefore a bigot. It makes you look down right simple minded.

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[–] Bl_zz 9 years ago

Not liking something doesn't make you a bigot.

bigot
noun
a person who is intolerant toward those holding different opinions

You are the perfect example of a bigot.

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[–] nephihaha 9 years ago

Maybe because it looks to be a cynical attempt to cash in on the transgender issue? If it's not going to make money, it's going to get gongs, because it's a worthy issue, and that will help the careers of all involved.

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[–] undomiel152003-1 9 years ago

Do you really expect a man to like a movie about a man who wants to cut off his penis? A man's entire identity as a male comes from their penis and how many women they can f*c*k. (except for a few enlightened ones out there)
Anything that goes against their view of what a man is...someone with a penis...goes against everything they are.

Sorry about not being politically correct, but someone has to say it.

Quit ya moanin

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[–] frogambassador 9 years ago

A man's entire identity as a male comes from their penis and how many women they can f*c*k. (except for a few enlightened ones out there)

that's hilarious

And that's all I have to say about that.

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[–] Gov_William_J_LePetomane 9 years ago

that's hilarious

and total BS

But to answer your original post, THIS 47-yr-old male happens to think it was the best movie of 2015, of 20 seen.

EDIT: New favorite for 2015: Me, Earl and the Dying Girl. The Danish Girl is now in 2nd place.

 HARUMPH!

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[–] JoeMama2016 9 years ago

There are many men who are proud of their slong and how many dudes they can f*c*k.

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[–] frogambassador 9 years ago

Or indeed, how many females they can *beep*

also, why is everyone censoring *beep* like "f*c*k?" There's only four letters there, you can't be showing three of them and censoring two!

And that's all I have to say about that.

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[–] esmad3-216-475224 9 years ago

I feel sorry for you if that is what you think your identity comes from.

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[–] LionInWinter 9 years ago

Funny how this manages to be the most sexist comment on the board.

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[–] peterf-48005 9 years ago

Well, they say males are sexist. Here is a female insulting males openly and guess what, receiving a lot of praise for here so called "intelligent insult". The reason most males didn't like the movie, scratch that, the reason I didn't like the movie(I wont speak for every male on the planet) is because it is clearly an oscar-bait, "touching" and "emotional" film made to make people act smarter than they are. This whole victimization of the transgender society is bullsh*t. Women tend to act more like "they care" about something because they care about their social status and they want to look intelligent. Me, and my male friends simply saw the film for what it was. Bullsh*t

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[–] ViVaBraZil 9 years ago

I totally agree with some of the hilarious replies here, but I think it mostly stems from the general upbringing of average men in today's American society, which not only insists, but almost tortures men into the stereotypes they have fallen victims to. It might actually be an inevitable cultural development. If you pay close attention to other cultures and societies, they all have certain tendencies that to begin with, are imitated by other members of the closed system, and only certain elemental parts are imitated by other societies, creating a multiplied dominoe effect that is not limited to the ideas that bind these men to their identity, but rather has a scope that expands all the way to the behaviors of masses of people. Also, most men only think with their junk, about their junk, and just junk.

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[–] shoutatthesky 9 years ago

Why is it OK to condemn the entire male sex based on the actions of some of it's member but it's not okay to do the same to women?

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[–] ViVaBraZil 9 years ago

Because we get to pee standing, it's a social advantage that apparently merits the responsibility to be criticized as a whole. No, you're right, it is controversial, and it goes beyond the scope of this board, mainly because it should be discussed in a blog for feminism vs equality vs mysogyny.

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[–] tristanzmecanic 9 years ago

You are actually spot on!

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[–] Jill-McBain 9 years ago

Here is one female that saw the movie and disliked it wholeheartedly.

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[–] ajbarm 9 years ago

nice! can we get the reason behind that dislike?

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[–] JoeMama2016 9 years ago

But you sure like to comment on it. Admit it, Jill. You are bi-curious. Nothing wrong with that.

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[–] gabriela_zayas 9 years ago

I did it, too. I found terrible Redmayne smiling the whole movie, just looking totally stupid pretending to look feminine.

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[–] Blendi 9 years ago

Or this movies just doesn't fall in to our type. I watched the movie and I have to say that its heartbreaking to see someone getting harassed for its gender, but honestly the story was to boring. This movie is all about a woman born in a mans body and how people discriminates you for your choices. It to cliche, not my taste. I gave this movie 6/10, imo it doesn't deserve more.

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[–] frogambassador 9 years ago

Sounds fair enough to me.

And that's all I have to say about that.

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[–] kinglet 9 years ago

You bring up an interesting POV. I kind of agree a movie with this particular message, which is what it is at heart, is a bit cliche now, but it's set in the 1920s when most people still didn't even believe it was possible for God/Nature to crosswire something as fundamental as gender identity. Are you saying you weren't able to connect with the impact Lily and Gerda's situation had on their lives at that time?

They were very early pioneers in a much less tolerant era, not trendy modern New Yorkers with lots of friends to fall back on. Did that not affect your viewing experience? I ask because I often have an initial negative reaction to Hollywood "message" movies. Sometimes I'm right and wish I hadn't spent the time to watch one, other times I'm wrong and find the filmmakers have approached the subject from a fresh angle. I think the difference has always come down to the filmmaker's ability to make the characters very specific rather than just mouthpieces for messages of tolerance.

That's why I thought Brokeback Mountain was so well done. It wasn't about changing society or laws or anything to do with making a better world. It was specifically about just those two men at that particular time and place, and the impact their homosexuality had on how they lived their lives and on the lives of their loved ones.

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[–] msaprillee 9 years ago

As a trans person, an angle that intrigued me in this movie, was the general view of the medical professions towards transgender people back in the 1920s. Today's transphobes often echo very similar themes. The medical professionals have of course moved on, in the light of decades of research, but those old views have been rather difficult to extinguish in the broader public. In fact, they have actually become the key talking points of many social conservatives. This to me shows just how powerful once planted ideas can be to change and overcome.

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[–] danloki 9 years ago

The scene in the hospital where the doctor left his notepad on the desk with schizophrenic on it then he comes storming back down the hallway with two orderlies and a straight jacket left me quite disturbed.

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[–] lukeneave 9 years ago

Cliché? How many films have there been about transgender people? To me a Hollywood message movie is one where a person who is not directly affected by an issue is preaching about it to others. This was about real people, if fictionalised, affected by an issue, and as you pointed out in an era when there was virtually no understanding of the issue which isn't the case now. At no point did it feel like I was being told to think in a certain way. If gaining some insight into how others think and feel is a message movie, then there is an avalanche of clichéd message movies for the heterosexual community. But I suspect that's OK because the message is one the majority of people want to hear and one we don't even really think about.

Going back to the OP, I'm a straight male and I enjoyed the movie. I thought Alicia Vikander was excellent. Has it occurred to you that the women who enjoyed the movie enjoyed her performance? I have to agree that if Einar felt more comfortable as Lili it didn't feel like that, there was a constant timidity and lack of assurance in Eddie Redmayne's look when dressed as a woman, which I suspect is not true of the real Lili from what I have read.

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[–] PopperTheKungFu-Dragon 9 years ago

Agree with everything in Blendi's post including the rating.

Poorly Lived and Poorly Died, Poorly Buried and No One Cried

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[–] Mike1388 9 years ago

I am a male and I don't hate the movie. It's just not that good of a movie, but I don't dislike it.

My review of Danish Girl:https://meshthemoviefreak.wordpress.com/2016/01/18/the-danish-girl-2015-movie-review/

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