If I could give one piece of dating advice to the ladies it would be ...
I am a single male in my mid 20's. If I could give ladies one peice of advice about dating it would be this:
When a guy asks you out on a date, respond to him with one of the following answers:
Option 1. Yes
Use this option if you would like to go on a date with the guy and you will be available.
Option 2. "No, I am not available, but ask me out another time." or "I'm not available this weekend, but I will be available next week."
Use this option if you would like to go on a date with the guy but you truly are not available. If you want to explain why you can't make it, then that is just fine, but it's not good enough if you are interested in the date. You should encourage the guy to ask you out another time.
Option 3. "No, I won't be able to go, but thank you for asking!"
Use this option if you do not want to go out with the guy. Notice that this option does not involve any excuses. Even if you really do have a valid excuse, if you don't want to go out with the guy, don't use the excuse. Don't give an excuse here under any conditions.
Those are the only three options you should resopnd with ladies.
Stop lying and saying that you "are going out of town" or that you "already have plans" if you don't.
99 % of women do not follow this advice and it is SOOOOOO annoying and painful for the guys.
Instead they lie and come up with an excuse that seems pretty valid.
You are not making the rejection any easier by giving excuses.
In fact, you are making it much worse. If you come up with an excuse but you really aren't interested, then the guy will ask you out again and you will have to reject him all over again. Then instead of just being shut down once, the guy gets shut down twice or more if he tries again.
If you say, "No, but thanks for asking," you are still being nice. You say no, but you quickly change the subject by saying thank you. This turns a negative answer into a polite answer.
If you know that you are going to reject the guy in the future anyway, you might as well just say no and get it over with so you don't have to prolong the rejection. It is nicer to the guy.
On the other hand, maybe ladies just love rejecting guys and seeing them in pain. So that is why they come up with excuses.
In the long run, it will be better for you as well because you won't have lies on your conscious and guys will get the hint quicker, so it won't be as ackward because they won't keep calling.
Have some consideration for the guy who is putting himself out there and use one of these three options instead of lying to temporarily make yourself feel more comfortable.
Lying might make you more comfortable for a couple of seconds, but it will make things much more uncomfortable for you in the long run.
Ladies, I could be way off with this opinion, though. If I am wrong, then let me know why. I am all ears.
If you could give one piece of dating advice to guys, what would it be?