Can YOU think of a better solution?

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Thank you for this well thought-out post. I'm moved that you are male yourself, and yet can see the movie this way. I wish I'd met someone like you before I got married.

Mitch indeed told Slim that he would kill her, on several occations. Her fear for her life was real. She had to turn and fight. She had no choice. But imagine what would have happened had she only put him in the hospital.

Right. Killing him was the only option he gave her.

I bought a copy of this movie once I'd seen it on TV. I watch it often. I cry EVERY time.

This film for me is a mockery to women in real life with situation just as similar to what was on this film. Not all women were able to leave their abusive husband because of lack of money or lack of support or worse lack of courage and strength to leave.

My mother was involve in that kind of *beep* Thank God my father saw the light and changed his way.

Back to this film, I would have written that Slim (if that's her real name or J Lo picked that out herself), went to jail and her daughter was adopted and raised by her surrogate grandpa with the help of Jupiter (again if that's his real name).

Most cases like this ends with the victim defending themselves against their abusive parnters and sometimes they get away with an SD and sometimes they don't. The fact that she ends up getting away with murdering Mitch is Hollywood *beep*

I liked the movie, but I am worried about what it says about me.

The plot was set up that Mitch was an entitled sociopath who would not stop. He was able to fool Slim until his cheating was obvious. Some people think that his true nature coming out later in the marriage was implausible. That is not exactly true.

Actually, the way he had to scam Slim into dating him was a hint that something was amuck with his personality. Then when he talked the man with the house into selling, it was another hint that he was not too worried about other people and what they want; he even threatened the man with continual harassment. Slim was a little dense when it came to those clues.

It is implied that Mitch just used whatever tool that would work, to continue to get what he wanted. First it was scamming, then it was persuasion & emotional manipulation, then throwing money at problems, threatening, lying, more threatening, then violence. Violence wasn't really his tool of choice, but when Slim wanted to leave, he was willing to use it. I think there are plenty of people out there that are like that.

I don't know if it is really plausible that he had all those powers to track Slim down though, when she ran. If she is smart enough to get a new identity for herself, she would be smart enough to know she had to cut all ties with other people like her old boyfriend. I think in real life, she would go underground and stay underground until the daughter was old enough to choose who she wanted to live with. She would probably have to migrate to another country.

If Slim could have managed to stay underground for a decade, by the time she resurfaced again, I doubt that Mitch would have still been interested in killing her. By that time, he would have had another wife and family to abuse.

I'm not completely sure about the law on this, but from what I've read, she would not be charged with kidnapping, because she left before there was a custody hearing. Now if she left with the child after Mitch had been awarded joint or sole custody, she could be charged.

Hiding would be a hard life, but like the real lady who behind the story "Burning Bed" has said, killing your husband is not something easy to live with either.

I think, from a practical standpoint, since her father Jupiter was wealthy and it appeared he slightly unscrupulous too, it would have been a lot easier to hire a hit man and engineer an "accident" or mugging gone wrong. But then we wouldn't have the satisfaction of seeing Slim get her revenge.

I think the character was called Slim because there she only had a slim chance of emerging out of this situation alive and free.

Just my two cents.

This movie as a whole is absolute HORSE *beep* it still latches on to the tired idea of "someone did something bad to me, I'm getting my revenge" that every single Hollywood movie follows. It explores NOTHING of the domestic abuse theme, go watch the South Korean movie Breathless and then come back to this and you will know just how dumb this movie is.