In a way yes. There are three women in my life that I really regret screwing things up with.
In one case--my first wife--there was nothing I could do about it (well, once I royally screwed something up--so it definitely was my fault initially) because it wasn't my decision to end things. It was hers and I tried everything feasible at that time to change the decision. I know where she is, and she's remarried now and seems to be doing fine. I'm happy for her in that situation.
There were also two women that I had relationships with in high school that I really regret not sticking with.
In the first case, I definitely could have done something about it since I stupidly ended the relationship in 12th grade after we'd gone out for a couple years, and I even had a chance to pursue that woman again about 4-5 years after high school--we had a relatively quick fling again at that point, but I screwed it up yet again. In this case I have no idea where the woman is any longer and neither does anyone else I still know from high school. If I would have known where she was later and she wouldn't have been attached, I would have definitely pursued a commitment with her. She might have even been interested later on, but it would have been difficult for a couple reasons for her to track me down, too--I moved someplace where I didn't know anyone initially, I've used different names and even legally changed my name at one point, etc. At this point, I'm sure she's married or has been married, she probably has kids who are adults or close to it, etc.
In the other high school case, it was someone I dated rather casually, but should have pursued a lot more seriously, and she probably would have been open to that. We casually dated off and on a bit over the years, but unfortunately, she passed away when she was only 27. It still breaks me up thinking about that, even though it was awhile ago now.
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caseyskates
14 years ago
It cheers me up to read these stories.
I'm happily married now, and have a good life. But I will never forget my first great love. He was the first one to make me laugh, make me cry,to understand me, and to make me feel beautiful. He was the first person with whom I made love and the last person who ever made me feel butterflies. I royally screwed things up with him and I doubt that he would ever want to speak to me again, but I'll always cherish the memory of the love that we once shared.
I guess you could say that yes, I'm chasing Amy.
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mochiduck
12 years ago
It cheers me up to read your story caseyskates.
I feel conflicted with this movie because the ending shows that Holden is still very much hung up on Alyssa Jones. It is quite clear that Alyssa Jones has moved on with her life and has begun a relationship with another woman. Although the idea of "chasing Amy" is very romantic and full of human sentiment, I felt only pity for Holden because he had not moved on. I suppose that it is only a movie and that its intention was to try to capture that romantic nostalgic feeling.
So personally, I've also messed things up for myself but I'm at the point where I have been "chasing Amy" for too long and I've tried everything in my power to get Amy back. It is realistically time for me to stop. It's encouraging to know that something great such as a cherished memories and a happy marraige will eventually happen for somebody that goes through anything (relationship-wise) so messy.
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