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Crazy stalker b**tch

posted 16 years ago by TheBeachspotting
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If the roles were reversed, the man would be a CREEP.

How come when it's a chick, it's sweet and innocent and cute?

What the hell? Am I the only one who witnessed Meg Ryan's character as an obsessed stalker nutjob in this movie?

Searching for a stranger's name and whereabouts from a public database? Hiring an investigator to take photos of him? Flying cross country for a weekend to watch him play with his son while hiding behind a house?

STALKER.

"In a thousand years, there will be no men and women, just wankers, and that's fine by me."

[–] jason-1069 16 years ago

Hehe, yeah, true also.

[–] CiaraChica 16 years ago

I watched it aaaages ago and had very hazy memories of it, so when I watched it again recently I was horrified- Annie is SUCH a creep!!!

"You'll have to speak up...I'm wearing a towel"

[–] oooda 15 years ago

Me too! I just watched You've got mail for the first time not so long ago and thought it was really sweet. And then I remembered Sleepless in Seattle how it was like my favorite movie when I was a kid, so I decided to see it again and seriously!! Annie is stalking him! No ifs or buts, she is flat out stalking him!
I guess the basic idea behind the movie is sweet, and Tom Hanks is as charming as it gets, but you get no sense of romance between the two what so ever. He is basically forced on the Empire State Building deck and then Meg Ryan gets this unnatural light about her, and 'ladida', she's his new mother...
I'm sorry, my rant maybe unfair but sometimes I feel like chickflicks take it to a whole other level..

[–] hka-3 15 years ago

you get no sense of romance between the two what so ever.

I was thinking the same thing, but after watching it again I realize there is something between them. He can't take his eyes off Annie when he sees her at the airport and tries to follow her, but loses her. Then later when he sees her in the middle of the road, the look on his face makes it seem like he wants to know more about her, but she leaves before he gets a chance to.

[–] rizdek 16 years ago

I guess hiring someone to take photos was kind of weird, but the searching a database and going to see him doesn't seem so odd. The only reason she didn't introduce herself was that she thinks he's "with" another women, who is actually his sister or some such. So, no I don't think it suggests a stalker. She only went to see him once, not repeatedly.

my god its full of stars

[–] sorchasgarden 16 years ago

Well, it is hardly the first time that romantic comedy behavior=stalker behavior. And her doing a database search was just prelude to Googling someone.

[–] PenTheater 16 years ago

Yeah, imagine later after dating her a few times he finds the AAA dectective ageny files in her house!
Yikes!

[–] christpunchers 15 years ago

Yeah and think about the husband she had left behind because of this? How would you feel if you were in his shoes? At least her braids were cute.

[–] rizdek 11 years ago

Husband? Fiance!

But of course, I am being aggressively naive!

[–] krazyj2472002 15 years ago

It's funny, but it was a simpler time. So many of the scenes in this movie would not even be conceivable today. As someone else pointed out, being able to go to the gate with someone to see them off. And how about the backpack being left on the observation deck of the Empire State Building? Yikes! The building would be evacuated and stormed by SWAT Teams. And Jessica's mother would probably face charges for allowing her daughter access to the computer to fraudulently purchase a ticket in a minor's name! Yet all the other things posters are pointing out is discussed in the movie. Sam mentions to Jonas she could be a 'crazy, stalker person like in Fatal Attraction'; she is in the news business so using a data base and an investigator would be second nature to her. YES, much of it is ridiculous but it's a romantic comedy, people! And I disagree that if the roles were reversed the man would be a creep. Undoubtedly the character would be cast in the same way - charming, attractive, likable, non-threatening etc.

[–] maxmillion99 15 years ago

it really was a simpler time... *sigh*

[–] LukeLovesFilm28 11 years ago

Yeah. It's just too bad the government terrified everyone out of living their lives and enjoying the company of everyone else around them. I mean, according to the government, everyone around us are potential terrorists, murders, rapists, stalkers, thieves and we should always be on the lookout. How can anyone make any kind of emotional connection with that kind of baggage looming over our heads?

[–] hanna_house 10 years ago

Yeah, like in Serendipity. John Cusack is the picture of charming, but after meeting a woman once like a decade ago, he is now engaged to a lovely girl but is obsessively tracking down this stranger he couldn't forget, utilizing even creepier methods to o do so. He too goes to her house and is peeking through the windows, only to see what he thinks is the girl having sex with someone. Totally similar thing reversed. I don't see what Meg did as much different as tracking someone down on Facebook these days. She just wanted to make sure he wasn't a total weirdo, since she was risking everything over a gut feeling about the guy. A bit extreme for sure, but in no way does Hollywood pose a double standard. They will always frame a story exactly how they wish to tell it.

[–] FridayOnElmStreet 10 years ago

I didnt find this cute at all.

[–] wylierichardson-966-922691 10 years ago

But real-life 'stalker' cases often involve more 'out there' behavior than we see Annie show. They often threaten violence - against their would-be love interests, or themselves. Sometimes the stalker even thinks that s/he is ALREADY married to the other person (like in the case of the woman who repeatedly broke into David Letterman's house). And can you really compare Annie to the Glenn Close character in 'Fatal Attraction'? Consider the endings of the two movies; one a happy beginning, the other a violent stand-off. If you were a single man, who would you rather have a date lined up with? Yes, that is what I thought! lol

[–] MsAnaS 9 years ago

I think she had stalker behavior. If it was a man people would've have thought it was creepy... However there are other romantic flicks where men also act like stalkers and it's also seen as romantic because the plot is about them being together and loving each other in the end. Even in Twilight Edward is a total creep stalker pedophile after a teenager and everyone thinks it's super romantic and ok.

I think the double standard is more evident in real life... if an ugly undesirable man did that to a woman who wants nothing to do with him he'd be seen as a dangerous stalker. If a woman did that maybe the man would've found it flattering but if she insisted he'd probably think she's bat *beep* crazy.

But as someone pointed what she did was not so different than the facebook stalking that many people do before getting serious with someone and is now seen as normal behavior even though I still think it's stalking... even if it's online. It's also not so different than googling someone to run a background check or something.

I still think it was creepy to hire a private detective and to spy him from distance. But were there facebook at the time and I think she would've done all that from home in her computer instead of going through all that because there wasn't all that technology at the time, so doing it analogically seems creepier and "stalkier" than online.

(sorry, my English vocabulary is kind of rusty these days)