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So, it was kinda brought up in another thread, so I decided to post a kinda story/kinda question. I'm a girl. *waves* Hi everyone, how are you? And I like both boys and girls. *waves to boys and girls* So... I'm bisexual. (or pansexual... since I am perpetually a sexual creature.) However, I have a friend (Austin, say hi) who is gay (presents his boyfriend, the other Austin)and he tells me I'm a lesbian. However, I like both. I know it. He says there is no such thing as bisexual. In fact, he even requested that I tell him I'm a lesbian for his birthday. I didn't. Because I'm not. But he says that there is absolutely no way that a person can like both sexes. I beg to differ. Anyway, how do you think a person can tell that they are bisexual or prefer one of either sex. And do you think bisexuality is possible, as I do? Your thoughts?

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I think bisexuality definitely exist. Bisexual does mean that you are gay, yet that does not mean you are strictly a lesbian. This is just coming from me as someone who has a many friends who are bisexual. Hell it's even recorded in other animal species like panthers, lions and bobcats. I think you're fine either way. Just be bisexual and live your life sista! Rockin!

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There is absolutely no doubt for me: of course bisexuality exists. Bicuriousity exists as well, but not all of this fake stuff (for example: people doing it for attention and whatnot.) Being *genuinely* bi (whether it's bisexual or merely curious) exists.

I believe that people can have realizations about their sexuality, but they can't change their sexuality. Transition yes, but not flat-out change it.

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It sure does exist. When people say they don't "understand" how someone can be bisexual, I just try to explain that I don't "understand" how they can only like the same or opposite sex. It just does not compute. I've never NOT liked someone purely because of the equipment they were born with.

However, on a different note:

Janie-Doe says: "enjoy being bisexual, because then there's never really any gender discrimination when you are."

Then you are frankly THE luckiest bisexual person in the world. I deal with plenty of discrimination, and I live in NYC. Lesbians especially seem to be mad at me for liking men. Not all of them, mind you... but a vast majority. My lesbian friends give me *beep* for it constantly and pretty much think I'm a jerk for liking men. My male friends, straight, gay or otherwise, are by far the most accepting. The straight guys like that they can talk girls with me (and yes, are probably hoping I'll let them watch... not gonna happen, but why kill their dreams?), the gay guys are just more open minded, I think. We can go to gay clubs and I can appreciate the view while not stealing their thunder. My few bisexual friends understand me, but recently the numbers have dwindled as the girls have coupled up and are suddenly calling themselves lesbians. Sigh.

ANYWHO, my point being, I get a lot of judgment thrown my way from both friends and relative strangers when I say I'm bi. I don't think a lack of discrimination is the reason to enjoy bisexuality- I think having more choices and more sexual freedom is the reason!

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There are people who are indeed interested in both sexes and therefore bisexuality does exist. I don't understand how there's any question about that. There are people interested in the same sex and thus gay exists. There are people interested in the opposite sex and that's called hetero. Simple concepts that some people just refuse to ACCEPT, it has nothing to do with not "getting it"


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Darling, your friend is off his rocker if he thinks you can only like one sex. lol If you're bi, you're bi. I personally don't think I like either, so I don't know what that makes me. Sexuality is a complicated thing.

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