Apologizing bullies

I don't need an apology, but if they do need forgiveness, then I'll happily decline.

There was a bully in grade school who knew exactly how to push my buttons. I last had contact with him as a young adult - I would never trust that fellow, no matter how many years had passed. Maybe a rotten kid grows up to be a decent person, but I'd have to see it to believe it. The bullying definitely had an effect - thing is, I was over-sensitive, not very self-confident, so I had to grow up & learn those social skills. School of hard knocks, I guess. If I ever met him again, I'd definitely ask him what was up.

I once bullied a kid, or at least smacked a kid around for what was probably not an adequate provocation. Always felt guilty about it. If I ever met him again, I'm almost positive I would apologize. It wasn't a pattern.

In 7th grade, on two different occasions, people I had no remembered beef with wanted to, seemingly out of the blue, fight me. The one kid was a good bit shorter than me, so I didn't take him seriously, actually forget some meet-up he had supposedly proposed during lunch. So after school again at his insistence (he was very confident, for whatever reason), we met up, I grabbed him with my right hand, started swinging him around in a clockwise circle and tattooing him in the head with my left hand (I'm left-handed) for a bit, and then let him go. I don't think we ever interacted again, but the whole experience struck me as odd. Maybe I had offended him initially or unintentionally and simply didn't notice it. The second guy was also talking like he wanted to fight (this was at a school fair), so we walked a bit off away from the crowd, I grabbed him by the shirt with my right hand, cocked my left, and he immediately begged off. That was also odd, and kind of humorous. Called his bluff and he folded right up.

When I was about 17, me & this kid got into it. Thing is, he was a great counter-puncher - came from the inner city, was a scrapper. He definitely won that match. Have no idea what the beef was about.

I didn't have any high school bullies, everyone loved me but if I did, I'd let them say their peace, more for their sake than mine.

I find it odd how some people still remember/care about what happened in school.

Unless you're Carrie ...

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The biggest bullies I ever dealt with were the teachers, and most of them have died from old age. Knowing the world is rid of them is the best apology I could get.

Apologizing bullies
posted 14 hours ago by fourlemons (2673)
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If a high school bully wanted to apologize to you now, would you want that apology? Would it help close old wounds or reopen them?"

I suppose it wouldn't hurt, but not necessary as I have a thick skin and dished it right back at these Jock assholes. I couldn't stand them hence why I gravitated so much to the Burnouts who were just chillaxed

My biggest bully from high school was also one of my friends, and he went to a different school. In some ways it was a typical emotionally abusive relationship kind of like what exes describe about their partners (even though we never were in a sexual relationship). I would actually feel very good if he apologized for all the shitty things he did to me, but that will never happen because he was always about telling me to get over and forget about things.

I talked to him a few years ago, it was a decent conversation overall but I could tell he was very similar to the way he was back then and I had no desire to try to be close friends with him again.

No, no wounds to close or open. High school was a lifetime ago and I have so few memories of the people I didn't like from that time, so I'm not hung up on that part of my life at all. If I did hate someone enough to grace my brain with the maintenance of their memory, then their apology would be worthless anyway, but honestly, I don't think of the people who were unkind to me back then with any real bitterness - or at all lol. We were kids. If they're still dicks in their adultood, that's embarrassing for them, but it has no impact on my life or my memories of that time.