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"My Boyfriend Left Me A Text In the Morning, 'You're a Princess.' It's the Least I Deserve."

posted 2 years ago by HarveyManFredSin (4877)
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Is a message I just saw a woman post online.

No doubt certain posters here (or should I say *a* certain poster) would gaslight the rest of us into believing that anything less is 'abuse,' and that expecting one's significant other to tell one that they are 'SOO SOO *SPECIAL*' every fucking morning isn't 'picky' or 'demanding.'

NO ONE ELSE is responsible for your self-esteem. Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and consideration. Any man who cheats on his partner, and certainly any man who shouts at and raises a hand to them, is a POS, and needs to go, but I'm 'sorry' (NOT sorry), but this "I need to be told how wonderful I am every waking moment" BULLSHIT is *needy* and *deranged*. If you need that validation all the fucking time, SEE A THERAPIST!

NO ONE is your crutch. Derive your self-esteem from your own actions and sense of self, and don't expect anyone else to make you *feel special*.

If I'm placing *you* on a pedestal, where do you expect *me* to go? A fucking ditch?

NO!! We should all walk on equal ground, because, guess what dummies? NO ONE is more 'special' than anyone else.

[–] Kowalski (78914) 2 years ago

WHAT EXACTLY IS IT THAT IS WRONG WITH YOU?🙄

[–] HarveyManFredSin (4877) 2 years ago

"DON'T ASK UNCOMFORTABLE QUESTIONS."

"JUST CRACK WISE-ASS JOKES AND KEEP EVERYTHING LIGHT."

"WE DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT *REAL* THINGS HERE!"

[–] Kowalski (78914) 2 years ago

DUDE...KNOCK IT OFF...I DON'T BUY YOUR GOOFY ASS PERSONA AND YOU KNOW IT...FAKE ASS WHINER.

[–] HarveyManFredSin (4877) 2 years ago

What am I 'whining' about?

It strikes me that I'm one of the most tolerant and liberal (and I don't mean simply in the *political* sense) people at MC.

[–] Kowalski (78914) 2 years ago

HOLY FUCK,BRUH...NOBODY GIVES A SHIT ABOUT HOW LIBERAL YOU ARE.🫤

[–] HarveyManFredSin (4877) 2 years ago

'Liberal' as in supporting freedom, and not losing my shit because a trans woman wants to flash her boobs on the White House lawn.

Let people be, FFS! Let them do drugs and what the fuck ever, if that's their bag. I'm *that* kind of liberal.

[–] Kowalski (78914) 2 years ago

🥱

[–] Otter (24464) 2 years ago

Nobody BELIEVES how liberal he claims he is!

[–] HarveyManFredSin (4877) 2 years ago

That makes no sense.

People are often less conservative than they claim (i.e. they pretend to be anti-gay whilst having a secret boyfriend, or pretend to be anti-abortion, whilst paying their daughter or their mistress to have a termination), but why would anyone who says "I support trans and gay rights," "I believe women and men are equal in terms of capabilities," and "I believe systemic racism and white privilege exists," be lying about any of these things? I'm not a celebrity (*cough* Chris Evans *cough* George Clooney *cough* Mark Ruffalo *cough* and other Hollywood 'liberals') who feels obliged to pander to a certain demographic in order to stay popular. I'm an anonymous person on a forum, so I have nothing personal to gain from lying about my staunch progressive liberal *and* pro-freedom (which admittedly is not always popular among modern *so-called* 'liberals') stance.

[–] Kowalski (78914) 2 years ago

🌭

[–] HarveyManFredSin (4877) 2 years ago

What's that? A hotdog? Better be meat-free.

[–] Kowalski (78914) 2 years ago

🍆📍

[–] ShogunofYonkers (78509) 2 years ago

Maybe the woman was just making a jokey post, it does seem a bit too self absorbed to be a real sentiment from a grown adult. Seems like a silly joke to me tbh.

However, I do find it pleasant to meet my woman in the driveway every night to carry her bags inside after her workday and to tell her that I love her every day and hold her.
I ask about her day and listen and respond to what she says.

Likewise I always kiss my daughter’s head and play fight with my boyo and ask about their school day.

It’s important to let the ones you adore know that it’s so. In America the divorce and broken family numbers are astronomical and it’s a national problem, it’s a damned disgrace. A person SHOULD treat their mate and children like a royal family, ‘these people are my people and I’ll be damned if I don’t let them know it eight days a week.’

Don’t ever be a fool for love but surely let the ones you love know you’re in their ‘army’ and you’re not going anywhere.

[–] HarveyManFredSin (4877) 2 years ago

Of course, but you say those things because you *want to* and you *feel it*, right? Not because you feel *compelled to* or because your wife or daughter would leave you if you didn't, correct?

It's nice to be nice. It would be lovely if that was everyone's instinct. And who doesn't want to be with someone they feel that way about?

But it shouldn't be a case of demanding to be praised. Do you get what I mean?

[–] ShogunofYonkers (78509) 2 years ago

I get your meaning, sure. We’ve probably all witnessed failing or flat out dead relationships where one partner was excessively demanding or straight up abusive.
It hurts to see that, it’s uncomfortable. I’ve seen couples I genuinely cared for slowly tear each other apart. That always ends in misery. Dad goes one way, the children go to Momma, Daddy is working a second gig for Alimony and child support, life becomes a hell of a wreck.

Maybe I got luckier than most, my wife and kids are everything to me. My woman, my lovely little girl and my tall, strong boy are my corporation and I’m a company man.

I intend on maintaining the status quo, no screwing around, no gambling, just come home after the job and treat everyone right.

[–] Otter (24464) 2 years ago

Sounds like more typical social media bullshit more than a joke to me, because most things posted on social media seem to be intended to make the family and "friends" envious! Lots of fiction there, from people who buy empty designer shopping bags on eBay and post about their fabulous shopping spree, or people claiming their toddler cooked them breakfast in bed.

If not, maybe she was just trying to give the boyfriend a clue.

[–] ShogunofYonkers (78509) 2 years ago

I avoid all social media because it all seems so fake and I don’t care what anyone’s dinner looks like unless they’re going to share😬

[–] Otter (24464) 2 years ago

Likewise!

And I don't find that variety of lies and bragging entertaining.

[–] HarveyManFredSin (4877) 2 years ago

They're rich virtue-signalling frauds who want to elevate their own sense of superiority by making you, and everyone else, feel worthless. FUCK *those* people.

[–] Mustang (5569) 2 years ago

Well perhaps she should look up the history of princesses...

[–] HarveyManFredSin (4877) 2 years ago

I'm pretty sure most people think 'someone who deserves to be spoiled and pampered,' or in fact is, when they think of the word 'princess', however a *handful* of real-life royal people may or may not have been treated (and we only know about their 'woes' because their 'woes' tend to draw more attention and publicity, and are regarded as more 'sad', than most non-royal plebs' woes).

[–] Wint3rFir3 (7370) 2 years ago

While your wording is unnecessarily aggressive, I agree with the sentiment of your post. Nobody should hold any power over your self-esteem, and compliments/validation from others should be a bonus, not the standard.

I wouldn't call this woman deranged, but certainly a little needy isn't unfair. That said, I'm sure she does things in equal measure for the man she's dating for him to call her that. But I've found that men who put a concerted effort into this kind of thing are overcompensating for something missing, like he may be cheating or maybe he's absent in parts of the relationship that actually matter.