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Why are most people not terrified of having children?


I copied and pasted below from Reddit. I agree with the person who posted this. And 2.6 thousand likes so far. So obviously, many people agree with this. Your thoughts?

Link: https://www.reddit.com/r/NoStupidQuestions/comments/ys4qg1/why_are_most_people_not_terrified_of_having/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android_app&utm_name=androidcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button.


It is like the hardest job ever, eats up all your free time, and if you suck at it , people will look down on you. Not to mention, it makes marriage really hard.

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BECAUSE IT IS THE HARDEST JOB AND THE BEST JOB...PLUS WHEN YOU GET TOO OLD FOR DISCOS AND LADIES OF THE NIGHT...DO YOU REALLY WANT TO BE ALONE IN THE WORLD? NOEMOJI

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I think as I get older the answer to that question becomes more and more likely to be “yes”.

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Having children is no guarantee you won't be alone when you get old.

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HAVING NO CHILDREN IS A DISTINCT GURANTEE THOUGH. NOEMOJI

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Not necessarily. Some people form lasting relationships with people they aren't related to.

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RIGHT UP UNTIL YOU START PISSING IN THE HALLWAY OR CALLING YOUR FRIEND BY YOUR DEAD UNCLE'S NAME...THEN IT'S OFF TO THE HOME. NOEMOJI

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That's why I'm in favour of Euthanasia Clinics. When you're past your use-by-date it's time for the McDeathburger. What's the point of lying in a bed for a few years waiting to die ? Get it over with !

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I AGREE WITH THAT. NOEMOJI

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Much like a small business it’s a lot of work. You must keep the employees in line and keep an eye on the co-manager…even though you love them a family can be a problem if you don’t keep an eye out.

There will be days that yield huge earnings and other days you want to forget about…those are losses and write-offs and there will be many.
It’s unavoidable.

But much like running a small store you get to enjoy what you worked so hard for.
That’s just my take on it anyway.


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I guess because the evolutionary biological imperative to breed outweighs everything else. Otherwise the human race would have gone extinct.

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I never wanted children, not for one minute, so I never had to think hard about the question!

I've been incredibly grateful for never having wanted children, because the older I get, the more I realize how few people actually love their own parents or their own children. Most of them dislike each other, or flat-out hate them, and only stick around because they still have a desperate irrational hope that their parent or child will turn into a person who will finally start to fulfill their emotional needs.

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how few people actually love their own parents or their own children


I THINK THIS IS FALSE...THERE IS JUST AS MUCH LOVE AS THEIR IS ANIMOSITY...IN FACT...I FIND YOUR ENTIRE PERSPECTIVE ON THE MATTER TO BE FALSE AND A RATHER DIM VIEW OF THE HUMAN RACE. NOEMOJI

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I don't think so.

You're a decent guy who may have genuinely loving relationships with your family, but honestly... I think a lot of families are held together by nothing but false hope. And the fact that loving families exist doesn't mean that unloving families don't.

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YES...I AGREE...IT'S A MIXED BAG...BUT BOTH EXIST IN ABOUT EQUAL AMOUNTS...PUT IN THE WORK AND HEDGE YOUR BETS FOR LUCK WITH LOVE...OR BOW OUT AND DON'T HAVE THE KIDS...BOTH ARE VALID CHOICES...BUT BOTH OUTCOMES ARE VALID AS WELL. NOEMOJI

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I have no idea what the proportion of loving families vs. dysfunctional is in this troubled world. I seem to see more dysfunction than love in the people I deal with, but i'm fully aware that my perceptions or my acquaintances may be skewed or prejudiced.

So I really hope your family is one of the great ones! And you seem to be a decent guy when you aren't trolling, I mean KITTENS.

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I have been blessed by having a daughter who has (so far) made the ‘job’ a walk in the park.

I agree that many parents appear to dislike their kids 🤷‍♂️

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Is that still a big thing these days in Western countries? Kicking a kid out on their 18th birthday? You don't see that in Asian countries.

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Yes, it’s pretty much how you described it.

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No, it's far less common than it used to be, as spoiling and overprotecting kids is now considered normal, it's neither socially acceptable to kick out your kid nor practical.

The price of housing is now so high in many Western countries that a kid who gets kicked out at 18 will be homeless. It still happens to foster children, because foster parents stop getting money from the government for their keep when the kids turn 18 (a national scandal BTW), but it's very rare for a kid who lives with their family to get the boot.

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Because most people are fucking stupid.

I’ve long argued that we should require people to have a license to have children. We require copious paperwork for people to adopt a child—and even to buy a pet. We need documentation that prospective parents have the financial and emotional Wherewithal to support and nurture a child. It is criminal yo bring an unsupported baby into the world, but idiots do it every day. “Gee, I didn’t know it was going to be so expensive!” And that’s somebody talking about his cat’s bill from the veterinarian.

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You are a long term grammar Cop around here so you should edit your posts. I’ve seen you make typos for years now yet you blast other posters for minor screw ups in their posts.

You are a phony, high horse hypocrite Kane.

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Nobody needs to buy pets!

Just whisper to the empty air that you might want a pet, and people with stray puppies and kittens to home will start crawling out of the bushes. Seriously, that's how I got my new KITTEN!!!

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Being terrified never entered my mind at all. I just thought it was the natural order of things in life. I got married at 27, had a secure job, bought a house and then we had our first child. I actually didn’t put much thought into it at all and it changed my life in a massively positive way.

I try not to pass judgement on people often, but if a man holds his newborn child in his arms and then watches it grow up and does not make the well being of that little person the number one priority in life, then something is seriously wrong.

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It's better, ok I like thar

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