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Have you been ghosted or ghosted someone when dating?


I've been in both sides of this.

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Everybody does this nowadays and it's completely unacceptable. Anybody who does it is a piece of shit. Everything's going good until it's not? WTF ???

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Ok. But hear me out on this. If the expectation is on me to initiate and carry every conversation then I can safely assume the the girl is not that interested and I then move on. I'm not going to ask her if she is interested. Because I feel like she should be able to show that.

I don't see this as "ghosting" but that I stopped attempting to initiate every conversation hoping she would put in the same effort but she didn't. These folks don't get to cry "I got ghosted". And I shouldn't have to communicate that they should show interest. That's on them.

Or am I a "piece of shit" for this?

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No, that's not ghosting nor are you a piece of shit.

Starting every conversation is fine. The true test of interest is to try to get her on dates. If she gives excuses after telling you she's not busy, I only give 3 chances then move on. I don't usually block anybody.

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It's the golden standard.

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Luckily, I’ve been out of the dating game long enough for this not to have been a thing for me.

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LOL - I'm not even sure what it is.

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Ghosting is when you disappear and completely cut off another person from your life, without so much as a peep. Usually, the ghoster person acts normally, then suddenly gone.

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Yes, my date never showed up once before. I texted her to see if she was alright, but she never responded and that was that. Then I had dinner a couple of beers and went home, no big deal.

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One of my gal friends says just give 30 minutes then take off, lol.

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Hasn't happened to me for years, but there was a girl I went out with a few times that ghosted me. I didn't hear from her for about 2 months, so moved on and eventually ended up in a relationship.

One night I get a phone call at like 9pm, and this girl is like "How have you been? I've missed you we should get together!"

And I said "Uhh..I have a girlfriend now."

She acted all bummed, like she couldn't believe I had gone on with my life after those 3 whole dates we had.

Then I was like "Are you fucking serious right now? Have a good night. Thanks for calling, I guess?" and hung up.

After that she sent me like 5 texts in a row about how she had all this stuff going on in her life, and giving me excuses for why she never got back to me for 2 MONTHS.

It was fucking bizarre.

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Sounds like a keeper, lol.

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Yes, I’ve ‘ghosted’ multiple times.
It’s easier than listening to the angry nonsense.
Just ride off into the sunset, you’ll find another fairly acceptable Woman in a week or so.

There was an Italian Girl over the George Washington Bridge, some Puerto Rican Girl from Port Chester, an Irish one from The North Bronx, a sexy Greek from Dobbs Ferry, a kooky Wiccan Thai chick from White Plains…probably a few others, I am bad with names, mostly because I don’t care to remember any of them.

I just got tired of the bullshit, I always tossed our cute ‘Lovey Couple’ pictures into a fire pit, never returned their calls and found another one.
Every pic got tossed, that’s a clean break man.

When I met #20 I wound up happily in love and married. Life is weird like that.

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My ex-girlfriend did this to me. Someone who once told me how special our relationship once was wouldn’t talk to me about any subject. Just like the Gotye song.

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