couple things:
1st, I am guessing you are not in america where corporate america is so afraid of lawyer shadows NO ONE is allowed to discuss ANYTHING sexual at work because it would make someone feel uncomfortable. HR would write you up, lawyers would be activated to mitigate damage control, and your future with a company would be in grave danger, and maybe with many companies the way word spreads now. you absolutley DO NOT talk or joke about sex with anyone at the office anymore. maybe some small business owned ma and pop shops you could get away with it, but really the scary X factor is women. At any second they could freak out and claim sexual harrassment if you hold eye contact to long, or accidently touch them, or they could even just make up shit and have you removed. It's truly insane.
But yes, you no longer can have any water cooler talks about any of that.
So, none of us 95% straights can REMOTELY mention anything sex, but 5% get to have a month of "awareness" painting the walls of our office?
The outrage is from 95% of the people are angry that some 5% need to be pushed out publicly. I never march in a parade that small children can watch proclaiming my hetrosexuality and dressing in a manner that amplifys my said sexuallity, still infront of the children, or even pushing WORDS about it, that makes them question what it all means.
IE other than the fact that I mention it here, I NEVER mention my sexuality in public in real life, and there is no sane reason it needs to be broadcast, from and for anyone, even. That's just basic human decency, understanding that others have may have different boundries, and respecting them like all humans should.
its fine if people feel I am ranting, but my base exists around never caring what people choose to do BEHIND CLOSED DOORS. Do whatever you like. More power to you. Be average or weird, freaky, kinky, S&M, bondage, do whatever you enjoy BEHIND CLOSED DOORS.
I don't shove MY sexuality on anyone. No one should have to have it shoved on them. It's insane.
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Wint3rFir3 (7166)
2 years ago
I'm not in America, true. But if that's the case, whenever anyone brings up their sexual orientation to you, you can say "sorry, this kind of talk is against company policy" or, you know, just say you feel uncomfortable discussing any sex-related topics of any nature at work. Also, locker room talk absolutely goes on. No one can stop you if you and your co-workers leave work on your lunch break and discuss your sexual proclivities in the local Starbucks down the street.
You not marching in a parade and your actions in general regarding your own sexuality, has nothing to do with someone else's actions regarding their sexuality. They are not obligated to mimic you just to convenience you. Why it even is an inconvenience to you, I still don't understand.
Do you express equal irritation at parents who go outdoors with their kids, because nothing screams heterosexuality more than children. Have you ever told a mother or father to keep their unseemly behaviour behind closed doors and stop shoving proof of their sexual activities down your throat when you see them in public with their children? Do you forgo weddings because the open hetero-normativity of it all makes you barf? When a friend calls to discuss someone they're dating who happens to be of the opposite sex, do you end the conversation and tell them to keep it to themselves? I doubt it.
And again, sexuality is not a virus that can be caught. So kids seeing anyone kiss or celebrate their love for someone else is not inherently dangerous to them. If you believe that children being exposed to what homosexuality means will then lead them to become homosexual themselves, then I guess it seems to me like you're actually saying that sexuality is learned - and if so, why shouldn't homosexuality be learned? It's clearly not that unnatural if all it takes is for little Billy to see two men kiss to want to kiss another man.
Again, it's not that deep. Just put on some Ed Sheeran and live, laugh, love.
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