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In need of support


I typically only post on here about topics related to movies and TV shows, and to showcase my fanart. However, I could use some support from my fellow moviechatters. A few weeks ago I had to put my cat down. She'd been diagnosed with chronic kidney disease, which is common in older cats and incurable. Basically her kidneys were no longer filtering out toxins, so the toxins were building up in her system. I was given medication to help flush out the toxins, as well as fluids to inject into her to keep her hydrated. I did this for a few months, but eventually it got to the point where she wasn't responding to them. She kept getting sicker and sicker. I was told by her vet that because she was so old (in her 80's in cat years), the disease would only be manageable for a while, and that as time went on more of her body would start to shut down.

This has been one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. I've had that cat for thirteen years, after getting her as an adult in horrible living conditions. She was a constant in my life. Regardless of what I was going through, I still had her and I took comfort in that. And she brought me so much joy--more than I can describe. I know I did the right thing in letting her go and letting her rest, but it hurts immensely. I'm so used to her being around. Every day after work she'd greet me when I came into the house; now she's not there. Every evening when I sat down on my couch, she'd hop on my lap; now she doesn't come. I'm managing okay, but the days can feel so hollow now.

Some comforting words would be much appreciated. Thank you all in advance.

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You absolutely made the right decision. You gave her a great life and made sure her last days were comfortable and peaceful. I also remember feeling empty after the last of my rabbits died right before my eyes. No hugs and kisses anymore and the house felt so lonely. Just try to keep busy and when the time is right you could perhaps welcome another pet into your life. But right now, just allow yourself to grieve as long as you need to.

As always, the MC crowd is here to support anybody!🤗🤗🤗

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Thank you, Stratego. Your words mean so much to me. I do take solace in the fact that she was happy with me during the years I had her, and that I let her go before she was worse off and in considerable pain. I may adopt again sometime in the future, but I definitely need to work through my grief first. Focusing on artwork has been a help.

Thank you!

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Pets are friends and in most cases deeply loved family members. Their loss can be soul shaking. There isn't a cure other than time. I agree with Stratego's advice. I would also add this: Don't dwell on the sad memories of the last days of suffering. Focus on the good times with your friend instead. Revel in the joy you had. Your current sadness is an expression of your love. The sting will fade but the love will not.

Share the things that help you feel better with others. When you are thirsty in a land with little water, don't just drink, dig a well for the next person.

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Instead of mourning her death, celebrate her life. It sounds like you were an awesome owner and the cat lived to a ripe old age. To echo what Stratego said, adopt another cat, not to replace the one you had to put down, but to start the next chapter of your life. Your cat wouldn't want you to be alone and depressed, but rather to share the love you have in you with another deserving animal. This dark period is only temporary, the sun wlll shine again before you know it.

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Adopt another. Plenty need saving from their own horrible living conditions.

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YOU REALLY LOVED THAT CAT...SHE KNEW IT TOO...IT HURTS EVERY SINGLE TIME YOU LOSE A PET...PERSONALLY I HAVE TEN FORMER FERAL MALES CURRENTLY...YOU DID GOOD BY YOUR CAT...FIND ANOTHER WHO COULD USE YOUR LOVE.

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Cats can be the most amazing comfort animals even though they appear to be aloof. It hurts so much to be the one to make the decision, but know you made the right one. She gave you so much comfort, and you gave her comfort in the end. I am sending you big virtual hugs if you would like them. It sucks, and it hurts, and words can't make it better, but allow your self time to heal. Allow yourself time to cry.

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It’s so rare for me to read something here that brings a tear to my eye, but you managed it. I’m so sorry for your loss. I have been through the same thing and I know how deep the grief cuts. You’re a good person for giving your kitty such a good life after the rough start she had, I really admire it and I wish you all the best through this difficult time.

Thanks for sharing your story too. It’s not an easy thing to talk about so openly and you did it with grace.

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