Does having kids make you happier? - General Discussion Discussion

[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

There is no 'you' once you have kids.
It's all about them. If they are happy, you are happy.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

Yes, this exactly👍

They cut into your 'sexy time,' cause you stress, feel growing pains you have to coach them through, are an endless expense, ETC!!!

Still, glad I brought them into the world, they are 2 nice sweeties my little princess and Boyo

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[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

The whole living a second childhood thing is fun, but it's a see-saw between fun and extreme anxiety, and fatigue.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

I'm into projects...decks, garden beds, concrete and stone, I like staying busy

My 2 best projects are my kiddos
They really push my buttons some days but I suppose we all did the same to our Ma and Daddyo😎

Having a kid or 2 makes for a happy life

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[–] snepts (11123) 5 years ago

That's if you have the income and temperament to be a good (hopefully co-) parent.
Not a given, and never has been.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

I made a lot of stupid choices in life but 2 good ones were get a contract job in New York City with big bennies and make babies I adore with a good Lady I love like she's a goddess...

I drunkenly and stubbornly found a good life

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[–] captainbucky (15252) 5 years ago

You are right about the sexy time. What a culture shock that was.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

Oh, the sexy time is out the window!
One pain in the ass is falling off his bike or the other one stepped on a bee in the clover!!

Jeez! It's nearly impossible
to sneak off together for ten minutes without the kids setting the kitchen on fire!

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[–] captainbucky (15252) 5 years ago

Yes and you’re freakin lucky if you get ten minutes when you’re so used to hours a week

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

Uhm... yeah, 10 minutes should do

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[–] captainbucky (15252) 5 years ago

All the rules go out the window too. Once a week , nope , twice a month nope..

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[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

kids and dogs are huge cockblockers

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

Kids and Dogs should be banned!!

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[–] Galactus03 (4406) 5 years ago

I would not know. I do not have any. It's getting a bit late in the game for me now. I'm 49 soon to be 50. Though I look much younger and am in great physical condition...but to quote Captain Picard..."Recently, I've become aware that there are fewer days ahead than there are behind."

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[–] actionkamen (23176) 5 years ago

I would not know either. I have kids but I don't know how happy I would if I never gotten one. Nobody can answer if it makes you happier or not, because we can't experience both having kids and never have any.

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[–] AndyKing1967 (39852) 5 years ago

I became a parent fairly late in life, so I was comparing before and after in my case.

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[–] Galactus03 (4406) 5 years ago

I can only say this. I completely regret not having kids.

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[–] Knish (1721) 5 years ago

You can compare how you felt before you had kids.

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[–] actionkamen (23176) 5 years ago

But that was a different time.

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[–] Kowalski (79128) 5 years ago

WITHOUT MY DAUGHTER I WOULD STILL BE A FULL TIME ALCOHOLIC THIEF...BECAUSE OF MY DAUGHTER IM A BORING VANILLA HOUSEWIFE...SHE IS MY BEST FRIEND...WITHOUT HER I WOULDNT BE ABLE TO FIND HAPPY.

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

You finally answered my question about being a former cop.

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[–] Kowalski (79128) 5 years ago

I SPENT THE FIRST HALF OF MY ADULT LIFE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE LAW.

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

You're still being cryptic and hinting that your original claim was true. I can accept that since I know it's possible as long as you didn't have any felonies. Also, I know there's a belief out there that the best cops are those that can think like criminals and vice versa.

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[–] tcrum (31863) 5 years ago

KOWALSKI is an enigma wrapped in a riddle smothered in secret sauce:)

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

He is, that's why he's cool😎

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

So, you and mmc2 now supposedly have the inside track on what's cool, thinking you're The Blues Brothers ?

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

I like to make people feel appreciated here, it's my thing and I don't understand why you are so cranky

And YES, MMC2 and I are The Blues Brothers

'It's 106 miles to Chicago, we've got a full tank of gas, a half pack of cigarettes, it's dark and we're wearing sunglasses...HIT IT!'

Laugh a little Bud:)

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

But I get why you're so obsessed with constantly trying to portray me as cranky. It bolsters your 'clown of the board' shtick by providing you with a convenient contrast.

You've always had an agenda with this board. I'll leave you to your pandering and ego-stroking.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

I'm not obsessed with portraying you as cranky, you simply are

As for your disdain for me post a link to any post I ever made that initiated hostilities towards you

Truth is I always liked you but you have become an angry guy for no reason

Again, just have some laughs and relax, this isn't a bloodsport👍

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

And you're simply a superficial manipulator with like I said, a 3+ year long agenda to control this board to your liking. And yes, I have disdain for you.

The truth is, we didn't get along back then until you claimed to be turning over a new leaf and yeah, it worked for awhile.

I'm plenty relaxed and I do joke and have fun with posters here I feel I have a good rapport with. But of course, you know me better than I know myself. You're able to read my state of mind and emotions whenever I post something.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

I've WELCOMED posters to this board for years now, new posters keep us going and add new ideas

You seem to be losing your cool a lot recently...so angry for no reason

Whatever meds you may be on you might want to talk to your Doc about Amigo👍

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

Hah! The subtle irony here is that a favorite quote by your idiot buddy mmc2 used on this board was:

"If you can't beat your opponent with logic, do it by smearing him."

It's a tactic of the desperate but keep on keeping on. "A leopard can't change his spots."

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

Jeez, you've become delusional and no fun at all

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

You just keep proving my point with your weak comebacks. Learn to relax and let go.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

I'm perfectly relaxed but I do find your anger at me amusing😃
What did I post that got you so stirred up Sport?

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

Sure, just like your constant claims of being so unafraid of Covid-19. You seemed to have to declare that in almost every other thread. It looked like you were trying too hard to convince people, maybe even yourself.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

I'm only afraid of sharks and heights, I've been pretty clear about this

Again, why so bitter Buddy?

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

You've been grasping at straws for awhile now and I feel like I made my point. I'm done with this.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

Good move when you have very clearly lost...move it on down the road Chum👍

No hard feelings I hope😎

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[–] db20db (17748) 5 years ago

Constantly using that emoji doesn't make you look "cool" but between you and mmc2, it does give the emoji a bad rap.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

It was meant in jest

Do you really lack a sense of silly humor or did a hammer fall on your head like in a cartoon??

Hit the breaks pal, it's all in good fun

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

Fine to hear Amigo
Daughters are awesome, mine loves me so much and acts respectful, and I admit to spoiling her
Whatever Princess wants she gets!

Dear Lord! She'll be dating BOYS in a few years...I'm going to beat up her first few dates with a 2X4 in the driveway to send a message!!

Sonny Boyo is a wild man, he can likely fend for himself😄

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[–] Kowalski (79128) 5 years ago

I KNOW RIGHT....I THOUGHT I RETIRED ALL MY SAVAGE HABITS...MY DAUGHTER DATING THOUGH...JAIL HERE I COME 😬

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

I often tell my wife that I am sending Baby Girl to a nunnery...She never likes this!

The thought of my baby dating...fuck that!
Flamethrowers ACTIVATE
!

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[–] Kowalski (79128) 5 years ago

RUNNING JOKE IN OUR HOUSE...IM ALWAYS TRYING TO TALK MY DAUGHTER INTO BEING A LESBIAN...

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

Guys are pretty gross!
I'm punching out the first few dudes 'til I can't punch no more

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[–] Kowalski (79128) 5 years ago

THAT IS A PART OF MY MANY PRONGED SALES PITCH FOR BEING A LESBIAN.SHE IS GONNA HAVE A WHOLE SACK OF WEIRD STORIES TO TELL HER KIDS.

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[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

I regret not having a daughter. Makes me sad.

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[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

Adopt one.

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[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

too old

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[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

You have a lot to offer. You could adopt an older child.

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[–] Kowalski (79128) 5 years ago

YOU CAN ADOPT ME...I ALREADY THINK OF YOU LIKE A FATHER 👨‍👦

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[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

i don't have room for all your dvds

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[–] Kowalski (79128) 5 years ago

SEE...YOU ALREADY SOUND MY LIKE DAD.

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[–] ShogunofYonkers (78598) 5 years ago

LOL😃

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[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

time for bed son

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[–] Mrmojo4700 (21718) 5 years ago

I’m a little ahead of you as mine are 16 and 20. There certainly comes a time when you have to hope all of your teachings will guide them when they branch out with friends you have no control over. It’s tough at first. I’ve spent all of my last 20 years investing as much time as possible with my girls and I am proud of them every day. It will work out. 👍

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[–] TalkinPikchorBox (2250) 5 years ago

You’re female?

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[–] AndyKing1967 (39852) 5 years ago

For me personally, absolutely 100% yes it does.

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[–] Matildawormwood (1545) 5 years ago

If you like kids, it gives you a purpose a new family member to love. Gotta be finacially ready for them though.

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[–] [deleted] 5 years ago

Kids are a relationship, and "does being in a relationship make you happier?" Well that depends upon who you're in a relationship with.

Do you have kids who are easy to get along with? Happy? Empathetic? Generous? Insightful?

Or kids who are never happy, whingers, always fighting, lazy, ungrateful, etc.

If I ever have kids, I really hope they're not maggots.

Imagine not only being financially drained by your kids, but mentally ? That they drain your soul?

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[–] Kowalski (79128) 5 years ago

YOU GET OUT WHAT YOU PUT IN.

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[–] ColumboKate (5787) 5 years ago

I'm currently at my window with a spray bottle ready to get the tomcat who is terrorising my tabby .... If I had kids I think I'd end up in prison for assault 😸.

Personally, I don't have kids and quite honestly I don't know how my parent friends cope! Love those kids to death, but I'm glad I chose not to have any.

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[–] Otter (24464) 5 years ago

Maybe in the long run, having kids, having a family and descendants, makes you happier.

But as for people with dependent young kids... well, it seems to be something that makes people *claim* to be happier, when not many of them actually look happy with their wives. But since it's socially unacceptable to say that having kids makes you personally unhappy, so much so that people don't even want to admit unhappiness to themselves, this isn't a question that can be answered with any degree of reliability.

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