Are women really that disadvantaged?

It doesn't matter whom they lash out to. Those girls are assholes. Assholes do what assholes do.

I don't know about your experiences, but not all women are like that. Or are you painting ALL women badly based on your experience dealing with the minority of women you choose to approach?

See the pattern here? If that's the case, then you might not the nice guy you thought you are.

I understand you better than the other poster. I think the difference is how we define "assholes" and "nice guys."

I used the more literal version of both of the word. Not the most literal, of course, cause that would mean "assholes" are anuses. What I meant with "assholes" are cheating people, toxic people, overly dramatic people, people that always blame others, irresponsible people, men or women. They are "assholes."

Your definition is more on the figurative side. "Assholes" means alpha, confident people, leading people, people that don't accept no for an answer, etc.

Yes, sometimes (or maybe most of the time) those alpha people are also assholes / jerks / crooks so it's interchangeable colloquially. But it's not very true. I'll get into this later.

Then there's the terms "nice guys" or "nice girls." I know, today many people use these terms to mock other people. "Nice" being equivalent to "wimpy" or "weak." The same also happens to the word "virgin," as if it was bad or stupid to be a virgin. A virgin simply means never fornicate. It's not evil or something.

Being nice is not a bad behaviour. It's just being a good person. You help others, you being considerate, you being civil and respect people, etc. Basically not being an asshole.

Like I said earlier, the other poster looks like he painted ALL women badly from his encounters with women he choose to approach. This is not what a good man do. This is exactly what people mocking "nice guys" were ridiculing.

A guy that behaves assholey but consider himself a "nice" man. The same can be said to those women. Girls that only dating assholes / jerks and then blame it on ALL men saying all men are pigs etc. But in the same time consider themselves "pretty" and "beautiful in the inside," etc.

No, these toxic women are not beautiful. They are not nice. Their behavior is not pretty. They are in fact assholes.

Being a nice guy is not about being weak and wimpy, needy and whiney, constantly blaming others, etc. We can be a confident "alpha" while still being nice. Alphas don't always mean being a jerk.

I hope I clearly explained what I meant. I think you're also right in your psycho-evolution assesements, it is what it is. Women want strong, confident, listening and protecting men. Good women know how to differentiate that from jerky behaviors. Bad women don't but they complain a lot and make drama out of it. Avoid the bad women and everything will be fine.

Screaming at each other will do nothing for understanding, so I thank you for being civil in return.

This is a topic that I have done a lot of research on for my job, so I do like to hear different opinions. I think you are right. Some women do like attention from men, whether it be in cat-calling, or otherwise. Depending on the situation it can be flattering. Unfortunately, many times it's not, and it seems that boundaries are not quite understood. I do think things are better from men now than they were 20 years ago.

I think part of the problem with yesteryear, is that it was expected. We, women might not have liked it, but it was just the way it was and there was no point in complaining about it so we just dealt with it. When a 40+ year old man would call out disgusting things to a 12 year old, no one really said anything. Not other men, and certainly not the women or the child. Nowadays, I don't think anyone would really let that slide.

I do not think that most feminists are the stereotypical "angry dyke" types (sorry for the slur). I do think that like with every group of people you do get the assholes, and I think that there are women who are abusing boundaries. No doubt there are.

I think that what isn't quite understood by a lot of males, is that all it takes is one man to grab a woman by the ass, or to follow her in the mall or not leave her alone on the bus to feel afraid. I know that men are harassed as well, not saying that they are not, but I don't know if there is the same amount of fear attached to that harassment. I could very well be wrong. But I will put that out there to any man who wants to answer.

If you are walking somewhere by yourself, and a woman starts chatting you up, and you make polite conversation but make it clear that you are not interested, and that woman keeps following you, are you afraid? or are you just annoyed?