women love bad boys and dangerous men

Yes, it means all of those things, but now you're switching bait and replacing subservience with shy. You said earlier you equate subservience with being a doormat as it applies to men, but somehow not with women. Why would a woman who views herself as a doormat not be unattractive to you? And why would you want a woman who idolises you? You don't think that says anything important about her character and self-worth?

If you don't find these things to be very important, well, okay, but in reality they are.

I don't have a problem with a guy who's shy. Not ideal, as you say as how you feel about a woman, but doable, if everything else is right.

I don't want to be idolised. Been there, done that, and it sucks. At best, all it does it pander to your ego. At worst, it means a lack of any meaningful connection because the person is viewing you through some distorted lens of their own that has little to nothing to do with who and what you are. Who wants that? Not I.

As I said to begin with, yes, there are some women who are attracted to bad boys, just as there are men who are attracted to bad girls. Neither are capable of or looking for any meaningful connection.

You don't seem to want to recognise or acknowledge that there are as many men who are just as caught up in the same trap as there are women. That's a result of being fvcked up, and men fall equally as hard as women do for someone who's fvcked up; it's not gender-specific. If you think otherwise, well, all I can say is you're wrong there.

I can't speak for the rest of the world, only for myself. There has to be something more than someone looking good on paper (and certainly more than physicality, although that too matters) for things to work. Call it chemistry, call it intuition, call it whatever you like. It may not always appear to be rational, but if you're intuned with your true feelings, they'll guide you. Does it truly feel good, or not?