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One brief question about parents/siblings relationships issue.

posted 7 years ago by TheMan18 (13192)
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Over the course of my life, I have had moments when my parents or older relatives often answered in SIMPLE ways to complex questions, and even if BASICALLY they were right, they often answered in simple ways to questions about bad and illegal deeds such as "Because its not allowed".

The thing is, I wonder, should I be at all upset and worried about them or "force" them to give a better and more intelligent explanation about certain things, or is it safe to leave it?

What if I worry that they may be overreacting or missing the point or not knowing enough about something, which can apply to ANY issue mind you, is it safe to walk away, especially if it was like 15 or 16 years ago or longer?

Also.

I have read on internet forums SOME intellectuals state that "This type of attitude is one of the worst problems that exist in the world today", even if OTHERS don't NECESSARILY think along those lines (i.e. JUST because some explanations for certain things can be same/similar, it doesn't mean it is doing the same thing, i.e. condemning SOME wrongs and condoning OTHERS etc), but are THOSE people stating 100% correct and FACTUAL information, or just being a little personal in an overtop "Hey, look at me I am an important type of blogger!" sort of way, meaning they CAN be right to an extent but not necessarily "100% factual"?

However, with ONE particular issue as such, I kind of gotten an impression that maybe my parents or relatives just DON'T often have time or desire to talk about certain things at given moments, however, I kinda can't help but fear, what if they don't ACTUALLY know the reality of CERTAIN situations that on the internet, especially English-language mostly American but not limited to, internet forum sites, that feature tons of comments and whatnot etc? As in, sometimes I wonder, why are people THERE so clever and know-it-all-oriented, what makes them have more life experience than our contemporary elder counterparts?

But other than all of that, is that even a remotely worrying issue or am I simply over thinking?

Thanks.

[–] croft_alice (12180) 7 years ago

It's ok to question the world around you,Even i seek more answer then the simple "is not allowed " or "becuase how the things are"'.

I don't know you,but my parents lived in another - how can say - rule,there were different times and quite often i'm not ashamed to ask their advice.

[–] MissMargoChanning (6630) 7 years ago

Brief? You? Never!😄
I'm sure that you have always been frustrated by a simple answer. I get the feeling that you over think just about everything. That isn't necessarily a bad thing, but sometimes a simple answer to a question is all there is.
I was just watching a retrospective of Fred Rogers last night. He was PBS's Mr. Rogers. He hosted a children's show for many years. He was a wonderful gentle man. He never talked down to children. He truly had a love for them and made them feel important by answering their questions and tackling many hard issues in their lives. He often did this in a very simple way. He did give them his time. He just didn't beat them over the head with endless information.
It's good to ponder things until you have a satisfactory answer. Just don't expect too much from others, whatever their age.
I confess that I was a bit confused by some of your run on sentences. I get the feeling that your thoughts tend to come at a faster rate than your words. It was hard to understand that last long paragraph. Perhaps people have a hard time understanding what you want of them. I can see that you can get just as frustrated.
I don't know if any of this answers you question/s. I'm sorry if I was of no help.

[–] Wint3rFir3 (7400) 7 years ago

Haha so very brief.

I don't think the issue is with whether you push it, but how they respond. And in my experience, the result is gonna be unsatisfying. People who have no desire to conversationally pursue complex topics aren't likely to do so even if pushed. And they might become hostile or belligerent if you do so. In other words, if you couldn't get them to say anything the first time round, rounds two and three and more probably won't be successful, either. Then you'll just be more frustrated.

So, if the question is: is it safe to walk away?

Yes and no. Because it is dangerous that so many people walking around in the world don't know or understand some deep stuff happening around them, and they don't care to know. But you can't make grown ass adults care about things when they don't want to and it's not your job to make them.

So then, the next question: is it worth worrying about?

No. Just do your best and don't melt your brain trying to get others to do theirs.