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My sweet girl is gone

posted 7 years ago by Catbookss (13664)
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Saturday night. She let me know it was time and I have no doubts or regrets about my decision, but the pain from the loss sucks mightily, and I've had too many big losses in the past 4 years as it is.

Luckily her original vet here still leaves his home number on his outgoing message, picked up the phone, and I pleaded with him to make a house call, as this was my last gift to her to stop her suffering, which he did.

As of about 10 minutes ago I got an email from my dear friend in FL, who is NOT a complainer, and endured two major surgeries on her kidneys within two days. I've never heard her sound like this before and am very worried about her. I called but she didn't answer, which is even more worrying.

The grief is awful. Anyone who's been through this knows, but now I'm even more worried about my friend!

Any prayers and positive thoughts, specifically about my friend, are more than welcome.

[–] CyberVerm (117) 7 years ago

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[–] TexasJack (12516) 7 years ago

I’m very sorry for your loss and hope your friend is ok.

[–] croft_alice (12180) 7 years ago

I know excatly how you feel,Catbookss....i also have a dog,raised him since he was a baby and we had a special connection.Before he died,i was away,in other town...i sense imediatly that somethings wrong with him.He was sick and he hold on until i was back home.That night,he died...i couldn't even burried him...Sorry for your loss,truly...i know how it feels.

[–] MissMargoChanning (6630) 7 years ago

Cat, I am so sorry. I do feel your pain. We had to have our beloved cat laid to rest in March of this year. Saying goodbye was a difficult thing to do. Our beloved furry friends are so much a part of our lives. In many cases the loss is harder to take than the loss of the people in our lives.
Remember that your sweet girl not only gave you joy..... You gave her love and a good life in the time you spent together. That may seem like cold comfort now, but what you had and what you gave was a true gift.
I hope that in time, you will consider sharing your love with a new friend. We adopted our Charlie cat in April. He needed friends and a loving home. We needed him. So many animals are waiting for a good and loving home. I can tell that you are a lady who still has a lot of love to give.

My prayers are with you and your friend in Florida. You have obviously both been going through a great deal of pain. There are a whole lot of people here who care about you. Know that your MovieChat friends are here for you when you need to "talk".

[–] Catbookss (13664) 7 years ago

I'm so sorry for your loss, MissMargo. March wasn't that long ago. But I am glad you adopted Charlie, who needed you as much as you needed him.

"In many cases the loss is harder to take than the loss of the people in our lives."

You're the 3rd person to say this to me, and it's very true. I feel far more pain over her loss than I did over one of my (human) family member's death, for instance. It's all about the quality and intimacy of a relationship.

She did give me a lot of joy, and I know I gave her a full and happy life. But I never expected to have her for only 4 years. She was a rescue, who was 5 or so when I got her. I thought we'd have 4-5 more happy years together. I thought I'd finally be able to buy a house, and she'd be with me there. The houses I was looking at were chosen in part to accommodate her.

"My prayers are with you and your friend in Florida. You have obviously both been going through a great deal of pain. There are a whole lot of people here who care about you. Know that your MovieChat friends are here for you when you need to "talk"."

Thank you very much. That means a lot.

[–] Drmccormack (743) 7 years ago

Oh Cat, I'm so sorry to hear you've lost your girl. The hardest thing I've ever done in my life was putting a pet down. I wanted to hang on to them more than anything in the world. I always thought, maybe today she'll have a good day but it finally came that we had to Let her go.
I know it's not very comforting, but you must have been an incredible mom to your girl. You honored her life by going above and beyond to try to make her last moments loving and comforting. We are so lucky to have good, kind people in this world like you.
I just lost a good friend this past summer. Today is her birthday. I need to phone her parents but I don't know how to offer my thoughts without completely making a mess of it.
Please take gentle care of yourself so you can be there for your friend. I send my best wishes for her and you.

[–] Catbookss (13664) 7 years ago

I tried sending you a PM, but kept getting the message I had your name wrong and it wouldn't send. So I'll just copy/paste what I wrote to you here, because I have no other way of contacting you:

"Dear Drmccormack,

Thank you so much for your kind and compassionate post about the loss of my girl.

I was only up to posting a couple of replies, but wanted to tell you privately that I am so sorry for your lost of your dear friend, and it (of course) coming up again for you on her birthday. I understand how you feel about contacting her parents. It's awkward and difficult and *of course* you don't know what to say and fear making their pain worse. I've been there too.

As someone who's in the thick of it, all I can say is just be genuine. I truly think her parents will appreciate your reaching out to them with love and caring, at a time that has to be very heartbreaking for them too. Don't overthink it. Your heart is in the right place. I'm so sorry.

With love,

Cat"

[–] Drmccormack (743) 7 years ago

I guess there's something wrong with my PM because several people have told me the same thing. I wrote Jim about it but I think he has bigger fish to fry. Thanks for your advice. I did speak to her dad that day. It was good. We got to share some stories and shed a few tears together. I haven't talked to her mom since the funeral. That's a tougher situation. Understandably, her mom is sadder, quieter. We'll see each other soon I hope and chat. I hope your friend is doing well and everything is okay.

[–] kspkap (13555) 7 years ago

@Drmccormack

There aren’t enough words in “I am so sorry”, but what else can you say which mean more than those four words?

[–] Drmccormack (743) 7 years ago

You're absolutely right. We talked and got to laugh and cry together. It felt good. Thank you for your kind words.

[–] mplo (2356) 7 years ago

hi, Catbookss. Sorry about the loss of your pet, and the sickness of your friend down in Florida.

Having a sick friend that you don't know if s/he will live or die is tough. Losing a beloved pet is equally tough.

Here's hoping your friend down in Florida has a full and speedy recovery. In either event, my thoughts are with you during these dark and difficult times.

[–] GlenEllyn (21526) 7 years ago

Hi Cat,
I'm heartbroken for you and so sorry for your loss. I've been in your shoes more than once. Hollow words perhaps, but as you said, she is no longer suffering. Such an awful decision to have to make.

Thoughts and prayers for your friend in FL. Maybe she was sleeping, talking to doctors/nurses, getting medication or other treatments, or had visitors when you called? If she's had two surgeries I'm sure she's exhausted. As hard as it is, try not to worry too much.

You're been through A LOT lately. Please remember to take care of yourself so that you can be there for her, whatever she needs.

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