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Wedding parties and churches...
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Anywhere where there are very large crowds of people. Went to a concert at the Rose Bowl (huge stadium) once. It was nearly full and I was very happy when it was over and could leave.
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The Rose Bowl incident happened when I was in my 20s, but I hadn't before or since been in that massive a crowd. I've been in other situations where there was a large crowd and felt vaguely uneasy. Now that you ask, I suspect I've always been this way.
I'm uncomfortable when people stand too close together as well. A full elevator for instance, can't wait until the doors open and I can escape! You?
Even the streets...i often look on the car windows or shops too see if i'm not followed...
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I never been in London...maybe in time i will visit it...i really want to leave my country,to explore...
shareYes hate full elevators. Its awkward too. Yeah, this is something that bothers me.
shareI actually prefer full elevators over ones with only you and some stranger. You never know where to look at and the ride up or down seems to last forever!
shareI guess just elevators all together. haha. Yes, trying to make small talk if they do. Awk-ward. lol
shareIf I had to choose, I go with the one person instead of it being packed. I can either go into my own world or create small talk easily enough.
Just thought of another horrible elevator situation. Someone who's heavily doused themselves with cologne or perfume, standing right next to you.
I just won't get in a full elevator. In fact, I prefer to have no one with me in the elevator at all. I'll wait for the next one.
Why the hell has no one written a horror story about how scary elevators are? Elevators are the mechanical counterparts of clowns.
There is a Dutch horror movie from the 80s called The Lift, which even has an infamous decapitation scene (one of my fears as it has happened in real life). There was a US remake called Down starring Naomi Watts, which was a big flop.
shareSomeone has. It's called Devil ( 2010 ). Surprised you're not aware of it.
shareSeen it, maybe 3 times. Not really impressed. Thanks anyway. Moreover, what I had in mind was a story where the elevator itself is the antagonist, not the vehicle for the antagonist and the mayhem. It sounds like that might describe The Lift.
Apropos of not much, I really enjoy movies that feature the Devil, like Angel Heart or Prince of Darkness. I thought the title character in Devil was quite weak. Oh, another legendary interpretation of Old Nick: Gary Cole as Sheriff Lucas Buck on the much-overlooked 90s TV series, American Gothic.
it was weak to say the least
shareSaw it only once and have no intention of seeing it again, which means I was even less impressed.
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Yes, it's one of his. Sure, it was ok entertainment. I just haven't had the desire to revisit it although I've had the opportunity.
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So, you've also only seen it once ?
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I think I've actually seen that twice. For some reason, it's gotten a lot of bad press. I've seen Signs several times.
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But you should expect that with his films. Didn't The Village also have a twist ending ?
I saw a documentary years ago which chronicled how he became a filmmaker. Very interesting. I remember him having a near death experience which supposedly really influenced his style.
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I actually rewatched a good portion of that recently when I was bored one day. I wouldn't mind rewatching the entire film again, knowing what I know.
shareI'm uncomfortable in large crowds, too. I was a shy child, so maybe I have a 'hermit' gene. Even at a large family gathering where I know everyone - all that hubbub makes me uncomfortable and I can't wait for it to be over. I'm not a recluse, but I prefer hanging out with just a friend or two at a time. Any more than that and I get stressed. And the older I get, the more I realize that it's perfectly OK to say no to invitations for large group activities. Life is too short to spend time doing things you don't find enjoyable even if "everyone" else does.
shareI'm the same way, preferring to hang out with one or two people. Not a fan of parties, obviously!
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Dazed, it's OK to say no. It really is. And you don't have to give a reason. If someone really presses you for a reason, you can say you have other plans. It's none of their business that your other plans may be a quiet night at home.
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Posh, eh? That would make it a definite no for me. Like I said, "other plans" can mean anything you want it to. You don't have to explain what the other plans are. I went to one reunion and it was so bad I decided I'd never go again - and I haven't.
shareWaiting rooms where every one is pretending to read or on their smart phone. It drives me insane that so many people are that close to one another and would consider it strange if you started up a conversation. Drives me nuts..maybe this should be under the annoyed topic. lol.
I get uncomfortable in line ups sometimes when they seem to take FOREVER, I'm okay at first but then..just awkward or something.
The opposite would drive me nuts. I would hate it if people in a waiting room expected to strike up conversations with each other. It's actually a blessing that everyone reads and keeps to themselves.
I live in a city of 10 million people -- you HAVE TO live in your own private bubble or you would never get through your day keeping on talking to everyone just because you're sitting next to them.
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Because you're captive in there with strangers and if a conversation gets boring, heated, weird or any other uncomfortable thing, there you are still stuck with that person for what may be a long wait.
There's a good reason why people on heavily used transportation or in waiting rooms don't talk to each other much; it's because it can get awkward.
Like you said, if it got heated or awkward you would have no place to go. I see your point. I'm the first person to get annoyed if someone sits down and starts talking like they know me. Yes, I'm contradicting myself I guess I just find it strange still.
shareI dunno, I'd be uncomfortable if I was in the waiting room of a doctor's office and everybody was trying to have a conversation. We're all in there for some unpleasant reason or other, doesn't seem very conducive to friendliness.
But on the other hand, it's even more uncomfortable if you're in a waiting room, everyone's quiet and somebody's stomach (particularly your own) decides to start making noises. XD Then the conversation might be preferable.
Haha I did have a laugh at that. :)
Like I said above, its just in any waiting room when its so quiet it always strikes me that so many people are so close in proximity yet don't say a word.. not that I want to do it.. I just find it strange that we are like that.
Yes, very expensive clothes shops. Or very small shops where you're the only customer around and can't avoid the salesperson.
While I love to stay in luxury hotels, I just feel like I don't belong there.
Hospitals, the doctor's office or the dentist. Someone else mentioned waiting rooms, which I find really uncomfortable as well.
Honestly, I'm not too fond of restaurants or other places where you eat in public.
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Everything you say about a doctor's visit and then also the nervousness of explaining a personal problem to a stranger and not knowing exactly how to do that. And hoping that he's understanding and doesn't just dismiss you. It doesn't help that my previous doctor was pretty crappy and I hardly know my current doctor.
shareYes to the designer clothing stores- if I do go in it's just looking (like for inspiration and ideas of what is in style) so I wouldn't even ask the prices. Even if I like it, I aint gonna buy it! But even going in to look, I feel like I am not dressed well enough or my makeup isn't good enough or they will just think "we don't carry anything in your size anyway".
I don't like super fancy restaurants, although here in the bay area, even at very expensive places, people usually dress down very casual. Sometimes the richest people are the most casually dressed, ironically. I've been to office Christmas parties where the workers are all gussied up and the CEO is in jeans and a rumpled flannel.
I don't like china shops or glass shops, any place where basically everything is breakable. Especially if the aisles are narrow. I'm not a clumsy person but still I hold my breath if I have to go in a place like that. I also don't like visiting people where there are fragile objects on every surface. I stayed overnight at one friend's house and in her small bathroom, there were shelves everywhere with little glass knicknacks and perfume bottles , etc, like you had to walk with your arms and elbows glued to your sides just to make sure you didn't accidentally knock some stupid doo-dad off a shelf. Even the sink counter space, every square inch was covered with items. There was nowhere to even set my contact lens case and it's tiny!
I visited another friend-of-a-friend and their kitchen had a bar counter but it had all these breakables lined up displayed an inch away from the edge. I knocked over one geode rock thing that was precariously balanced on a flimsy little brass pedestal, I apologized profusely and she said she had just glued it back together after it had been knocked off a week before. Well if your shit is getting knocked over every week, maybe it's in a bad place!
I am super uncomfortable in very cluttered spaces, hoarded houses. Where you can barely walk across a room without bumping into stuff or stepping on stuff, where there is not room to set a drink down anywhere because literally every surface is covered in stuff. I like to keep my space functional. It's not fancy but it's clean and open and well-lit. You can move, you can see, there are places to sit and places to set things down.
Airport security doesn't bother me anymore, it used to but after a few times it just becomes tedious and not emotional.
Crowded streets and subways and concerts don't bother me too much but I am used to California-levels of crowd, not to New York or Tokyo levels of crowd. I would be very uncomfortable in Tokyo trains I think, the kind where they have 'pushers' to show more people through the doors and cram them in like sardines. When I go to concerts I usually have general admission tickets and I am standing close to the stage. But I don't like getting totally crushed, it's okay to have people touching me but not if they are completely smashed up against me. If it gets TOO pressed together then I get afraid of falling and getting trampled.
Rich people, and this is the truth, can dress any fricking way they want, because they are (1) confident, and (2) rich. That's why a sales professional never assesses a new client by how s/he is dressed (with few exceptions, e.g., a truly exotic wristwatch like Patek-Phillipe). We assess the new client on the basis of posture, poise, confidence, people skills and verbal skills. Any wannabe can put on swank clothes.
shareThis is true. Back in the 1970s when it wasn't uncommon for the richest people to join right in on dressing like hippies because it was the fashion, my sister's friend landed a job as a store clerk in Harrods, the swanky London department store famous for being the shopping destination of the rich, royal and famous.
In her training, she was actually told something like "Don't be so sure of who is wealthy" based on their clothes. She was told it may have been true in an earlier era, that an expensive suit or designer dress signaled the wealthy customers, but that in the new day and age the gazillionaires about to drop big money if treated right could just as likely be wearing tatty jeans as the looky-Lou customer with no money to spend.
I use to love concerts, ball games, stock car races, carnivals, the state fair......
I am no longer even comfortable in a movie theater or at a parade.
Not only are there too many crazy people out there with guns.... bombs.... everything else.... I just can't handle crowds any longer. Too many people bother me now that I am older. I like CALM!
"The make up counter in department stores-I just know they want to get hold of me and "make me over" i.e paint me orange and glue caterpillars to my eyes."
LOL! Paint you orange and glue caterpillars to the eyes? Not a good thing! On the other hand, It could be fun to have a free facial and a makeover, minus what you said.... I need to get out more! I had no idea that they still did this sort of thing.
Amen! I can't handle crowds anymore, either.
Stock car races, eh? Reminds me of my 20s, living in Phoenix, when my roommate and I used to go to the local racetrack and watch. Got hooked on it and for a couple of years we were there every weekend. Dirt track, sprint cars, modifieds, super-modifieds, street stocks. Local racetracks were the best because before the races you could visit the pit areas and chat with our favorite drivers. I digress.
One thing that bothers me about sporting events, fairs, concerts, etc., is the abundance of alcohol and those who can't have a good time unless they're three sheets to the wind.
I agree about the alcohol and drugs these days. Oh, we use to have our partys when we were younger, but you didn't need to drink at those events just to have a good time.
LOVED the races! [SMILE]