How come you rarely see black women with white men? - Loving (2016) Discussion

[–] thekittenisdigital 9 years ago

It's possible, that may depend on where you live. It's a bit of an assumption to make.
I don't happen to think there's more of of one than the other, just never noticed to be fair.

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[–] creatorof2002 9 years ago

Call me racist if you want but I am only attracted to white women.

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[–] nikkiten1979 9 years ago

You're a racist for having a preference...

I'm a sexist cuz I'm only attracted to men...

can't outrun your own shadow

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[–] PopSixSquish 9 years ago

Ha, ha...same, I admit it...😝

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[–] starryeyedgirl1 8 years ago

Did the poster ask for anyone's preference? Who cares who you are attracted to.

You're not racist, but I see why you brought it up. Some white people have an obsession with black people. Any time you can post about them, take a dig at them, low-key insult them, you do it.

How about say nothing at all. A lot of white men aren't attracted to black women. Do they go around wearing a t-shirt?

This love will be your downfall

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[–] kayeinspire 8 years ago

starryeyedgirl 1

And THAT's how you post a comeback! take a bow!!!

😀

I believe people who feel the need to say what creator did, have an obsession of some sort LOL

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[–] kayeinspire 8 years ago

thanks for the tidbit -as Im' sure only white women are attracted to you :-) be well

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[–] kayeinspire 8 years ago

creator,

thanks for the tidbit -as Im' sure only white women are attracted to you :-) be well this post is in response your comment.

have a good day ***sigh

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[–] kayeinspire 8 years ago

many black women are not attracted to white men.

raping of black women during slavery , etc.,

I know this to be true, that for several reasons many black women, not all, do not find white men appealing.
and the bit about black women being the least desirable is bunch of crap.

***sigh

it is what it is.

good night

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[–] janisvstr 8 years ago

raping of black women during slavery , etc.,

That was NOT AT ALL an attraction thing. It was about having a (next) generation of smarter slaves. It was the practical thing to do for those 2% of white Americans who ever owned slaves to attempt to prolong their slave workforce over the next generation, to their kids, grandkids and so on. Had they known that slavery was going to be abolished in the US (thank goodness for that one!), you would've found A LOT more African last names in the US today.

Never argue with a Cultural Marxist. They never make sense and they never give up their racism.

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[–] jackiefoxybrown 8 years ago

And I'm sure all your ex-girlfreinds have looked like Lena Dunham.

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[–] Sensei_Tohru 9 years ago

European men, on average, seem to be more attracted to European and East Asian women.

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[–] mstrainjr 9 years ago

I remember reading something about this some time ago. It may be because the man is usually seen as the dominant one in a relationship, so a white man with a black wife comes across as a kind of ownership to some blacks.

Not saying that's always the case, but you can read all kinds of crap online. 😃

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[–] isundling 9 years ago

Tina Turner has been married to a white guy for quite a while..they live in Europe..Diana Ross was also married to a white guy..model Heidi Klum was married to singer Seal..

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[–] orebanjoko 9 years ago

those are celebrities lol.

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[–] orebanjoko 9 years ago

yeah it's more rare to see black women with white men because black women are seen as undesirable. That's basically it. Black men aren't really seen that way. So basically it's a result of racism/sexism. But I think this is changing more and more.

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[–] gaatka 9 years ago

Black women tend to be more loyal than black men when it comes to the black community.

They might assume that men of other races aren't interested in them since black women (ostensibly) are thought to be the least desirable women of the different races.

They probably feel safer (physically and emotionally) dating/marrying/having children within their own race (to not risk having to deal with racism up close and personal).

Also location is important. I've seen a lot of white guy/black girl couples in their teens and 20s in certain parts of NYC.

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[–] benandjacque 9 years ago

I'm a white guy and I married a black woman. I don't think it's as rare as people seem to be making it.

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[–] MariMcCabe 9 years ago

It's not rare. The third highest IR marriage pairing after White men/Asian women and Black men/White women is White men/Black women.

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[–] Litmus-paper 9 years ago

This isn't true, at least not in the US. Black woman are the least likely to date outside of our race and on dating sites, the least likely to be messaged back by men of any race.

http://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2011/01/29/us/20110130mixedrace.html

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[–] checkerbird33 9 years ago

Where I live, the most common interracial couples are white men/Asian women. As the daughter of a black woman and white man, I can pretty much attest that it's a pretty lonely place to be, as for the most part, black/white couples are pretty rare in the US even in this day and age, considering the history between those two races in particular in this country, and as uncommon as black/ white couples are here, black woman/white man couplings are rarer still.

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[–] nikkiten1979 8 years ago

What part of the country is everyone from the it's rare to see Black//white couplings and especially Black women w/ White men??? I see a TON of mixed couples and most of them are black/white couples. Most mixed Black women tend to go for White men in the US and Europe. In Europe many Black women end up marrying or having relationships with White men - more than with Asian.

Those who mention as Black women are seeing as undesirable are only taking the words of a few racist philosophes who think they know what everyone thinks is desirable like that one scientist or whatever she is from Japan. Most black women I know have men lining up no matter their relationship status - doubt it's because they're so undesirable.

Many times a man chooses someone not because of her looks, but for what she will bring to him every day - someone to make him look strong, capable, maybe one who won't speak back too much, who will be more submissive, more of a servant and more forgiving. Most black women are very submissive contrary to popular believes of the stereotype that is forced and reinforced with caricatures.

I also see many Asian/Black couplings (men and women), but again it's where you live and what types of people you're dealing with. Asian women have a strong complex of their "Asian" appearance because where they come from they don't have the same pride or love for the traditional (or typical) Asian look as Blacks in the US have for theirs (had to have.)

can't outrun your own shadow

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[–] sytycd02 8 years ago

You see Asian women getting in line to date men of other races to get rid of their Asian genes, which is really sad. To me, Asian women are not attractive either without their makeup.

So you just mentioned how you find it sad that Asian women are dating men of other races to dilute their genes, then you go on to insult their looks. YOU are part of the problem!

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[–] nikkiten1979 8 years ago

I don't know what you're talking about.

can't outrun your own shadow

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[–] ShieCake 8 years ago

yes its true. It is well known that Asian women are the most pathetic uncle tom white worshiping self hating sellouts of all time

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[–] gaatka 9 years ago

Are there a lot of wm/bw couplings where you live? It's pretty rare to see that where I live. I've seen white men and black women approach each other and flirt just the same as anyone else, but I rarely see them as a couple or married where I live. I see bm/other couplings often though.

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[–] peachtea18 9 years ago

Yea, I don't know where OP lives but it's not that rare where I live, either.

I've never fooled anyone. I've let people fool themselves.

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[–] lemmy999 9 years ago

Me too. I see it quite a bit these days.

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[–] gaatka 8 years ago

I know because I'm black. But beyond that, you can look at marriage statistics and see that black women are the least likely to marry out of their race out of every group. When they do the marriages are highly successful which makes me believe that when black women do marry out of their race, the don't do it frivolously.

You can also listen to the rhetoric coming out of the black female community and see that overall there is relatively little interest in dating or marrying outside of their race - most are ambivalent and disinterested while some are outright against it. There's actually this small movement of people encouraging black women to date/marry out of their race because most are so opposed to it.

Also, even when the percentage of black women marrying out increases, the percentage is always proportional to the percentage of black men marrying out, with black men consistently marrying out at 2 - 2.3 times the rate of black women. Their numbers are always proportional.

A "community" is a simple enough concept to understand. Here's the definition:

a social, religious, occupational, or other group sharing common characteristics or interests and perceived or perceiving itself as distinct in some respect from the larger society within which it exists (usually preceded by the):
the business community; the community of scholars.

a group of associated nations sharing common interests or a common heritage:
the community of Western Europe.

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[–] gaatka 8 years ago

You don't make sense. Please make your point.

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[–] gaatka 8 years ago

So basically you're saying that black woman typically stick to their own men - the male versions of themselves that they grow up around and birth when they have male sons - because they're desperate, not loyal? Okay. I'm just going to hit that ignore button on this one.

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[–] kayeinspire 8 years ago

gaata

getting a laugh from some of these comments!

assuming most folks posting are so young, as that is what the comments (some of them anyway) suggest.

for the record: many black women are not attracted to white men.

just sharing what I know to be true. So folks, stop thinking its because "black women are the least desirable." Also, let us not forget the raping of black women during slavery. Hence, another reason for lack of attraction for white men, for some black women.

I don't buy that black women are the least desirable. Good thing I' don't allow others to define me. ***sigh

I guess folks have to put others down in order for them to feel better about themselves ...

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[–] gaatka 8 years ago

Exactly. Black women aren't attracted to white men like that. I'm a black woman, I grew up around black women and am friends with black women - you would think they would take my word for it but no, their false sense of superiority does not allow them to. And trust me I don't buy into that nonsense that black women are the least desirable either. It's all propaganda. All they do is push propaganda.

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[–] kayeinspire 8 years ago

gaata

Point well taken. Pointing from my eye to yours 😊 I totally get what you are saying!

It doesn't matter if they take our word or not. Let them have their false sense of superiority (for those who feel this way) as that allows them to feel less insecure.

I never ever allow anyone to define who I am or what I should be!

No one is superior to anyone else. If folks really believe that, then the problem lies within themselves.

Chris Rock even joked about black men /black women dating. LOL, he said in his act, that sisters don't date white men, but black men are just not that particular LOL something to that effect. Of course some black women date white men, but as we both know, quite a few black women just don't find white men appealing and that's fine too. have a Hispanic friend who says she just doesn't find Asian men attractive. LOL I have a seen a few I thought were handsome.

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[–] I_know_what_you_did87 9 years ago

Out of interest, are you talking in general, or in a particular country? I live in the UK and I actually see more black women with white men than the other way around, with two exceptions that I can think of off the top of my head.

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[–] Nia_J 9 years ago

my friend is a beautiful lady from the West Indies ....very traditional, and she only goes for white stocky men with beards. She says she has never been attracted to black men

same with a colleague who is a skinny Scottish guy, he has only ever dated and been married to black women- very large ones- and now he is seeing a very obese black lady from the accounts department

beauty is in he eye of the beholder

I always went for Asian guys as that's all I knew and didn't meet a black guy I fancied...never even fancied black actors or famous black people
Christmas 2014 he walks into the club and I fell the ground beneath me drop open. haven't looked back since

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[–] kayeinspire 8 years ago

Nia_J

:-) people have a preference. Nothng wrong with that at all. I never generalize, hence, I said "some" (well I could say many just based on my own persepctive ) black women don't date white guys. Of course there are quite a few who do.

Be well

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[–] Nia_J 9 years ago

ps- IR couples are common in London, they all seem to shop in IKEA

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[–] smiley_b81 8 years ago

It's not as common as black guy/white girl pairing but where I live in the Pacific Northwest (which is generally thought of as one of America's more progressive regions) you see it pretty regularly......................................................

but I gotta say, Asian Americans are easily the most populous minority here and I see Asian girls with white and black guys all the time: but never, ever do I see Asian men with anything other than Asian girls. I've never understood that.

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[–] kayeinspire 8 years ago

smiley_b81

I have only known two Asian men married to white women in my time here on earth.

:-) I'm sure it must be more. Guess we just don't see them

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