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The difference between interracial marriage and same-sex marriage


I know a lot of people think that hatred for interracial marriage and interracial dating is a thing of the past but it's just not true. There is still bigotry towards interracial couples and not just from right wing rednecks but also from left wing "Spike Lee" wannabes. I'm not saying that same-sex couples don't have to deal with bigotry or that interracial couples have it worse. But I think it's a mistake to treat the legalization of gay marriage as the Loving v Virginia of our generation. You can't talk as if they're both one in the same because one deals with race/ethnicity and the other deals with sexuality. Furthermore, we have to deal with historical reality which is no one was thrown in jail for having a same-sex marriage, but people did go to jail for being in an interethnic marriage. None of this means that the treatment of same-sex couples isn't an issue but to act as if same-sex marriage is the same as interracial marriage is disingenuous.

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@retro4

There is still bigotry towards interracial couples and not just from right wing rednecks but also from left wing "Spike Lee" wannabes.


Where did that come from? Tired of folks bringing up Spike Lee's name as if he's some horrible racist (which he isn't, but white people have always claimed that because they don't like how he's never turned a blind eye to racism and has always been outspoken about it) and also when the discussion has nothing to do with him to begin with. People need to get over their Spike Lee issues and pay attention to real racists who can do real damage---like trumpf and his stupid a**-kissing followers.

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@activista Sorry, if you're tired of the truth but that's not my problem. His attitudes inter-ethnic couples is just common knowledge at this point. And his attitudes towards inter-ethnic couples are the very definition of racism. There is no denying it.

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To be against either is just flat out sad.

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Not seeing why any of that needed to be said. So what if they're different situations? That doesn't change the fact that the restriction of both same-sex and interracial marriage is a violation of rights.

And by the way, racism and homophobia are absolutely similar. They're both rooted in fear of an other. Evangelical Christians calling transgenders and homosexuals "deviants" and "perverts" isn't any different than backwoods crackers calling for segregated bathrooms because black people are supposedly riddled with germs. Same ignorance, same fear of losing dominance and privilege.

It's not uncommon for people to be threatened by equality when they already enjoy privilege. Men feel threatened by feminism, white people feel threatened by black people, straight fundamentalist Christians feel threatened by gays. You can nitpick details all you want, but the patterns are pretty glaring to me.

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Not seeing why any of that needed to be said. So what if they're different situations? That doesn't change the fact that the restriction of both same-sex and interracial marriage is a violation of rights.


If they're fundamentally different situations that means you can't equate inter-ethnic marriage with gay marriage. In the case of, Loving v Virginia that was a case of violating people's human rights because of racism. But with same-sex marriage, no one rights was violated, because unlike the case of the Lovings, no one was thrown in jail for being in a gay marriage. The state had always recognized marriage as between a man and woman and the only reason that Lovings were denied the right to marry was because of skin color. Inter-ethnic marriage didn't change marriage, it still was same as it always been. And regardless on how you feel about gay marriage it did change how society looked at marriage, which is why the difference between inter-ethnic marriage and same-sex marriage needed to be said.

And by the way, racism and homophobia are absolutely similar.


Similar, yes. Are they exactly the same? No.

They're both rooted in fear of an other. Evangelical Christians calling transgenders and homosexuals "deviants" and "perverts" isn't any different than backwoods crackers calling for segregated bathrooms because black people are supposedly riddled with germs. Same ignorance, same fear of losing dominance and privilege.


I think you're conflating the conservation. This isn't about whether homophobia is similar to racism. I think any sound minded person would agree they're both share similarities that are hard to deny. But this is about whether opposing same-sex marriage is inherently bigoted.

It's not uncommon for people to be threatened by equality when they already enjoy privilege. Men feel threatened by feminism, white people feel threatened by black people, straight fundamentalist Christians feel threatened by gays. You can nitpick details all you want, but the patterns are pretty glaring to me.


But that's only true if you see marriage as a privilege rather than right. If marriage is a natural right then it important to have these discussions about what marriage is. If marriage is inherently a sexual institution then it not a matter of opinion. If marriage continue to bend to the will of the people then marriage will cease to exist.

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But with same-sex marriage, no one rights was violated, because unlike the case of the Lovings, no one was thrown in jail being in a gay marriage.

Preventing two autonomous, consenting individuals from marrying is a violation of their rights if their union doesn't impose on the rights of others or present any serious health concerns (incest). Gay people didn't need to be thrown in jail for their rights to have been violated.

I think you're conflating the conservation. This isn't about whether homophobia is similar to racism. I think any sound minded person would agree they're both share similarities that are hard to deny. But this is about whether opposing same-sex marriage is inherently bigoted.

I think you meant conversation ;)

And of course opposing same-sex marriage is bigoted. The broad definition of bigotry is simply intolerance to others' opinions and views, but it's especially problematic with interracial and same-sex marriage because there's no logical reason to be opposed to those unions; they don't disadvantage anybody. To be offended by something that isn't harmful is both bigoted and stupid. When bigotry extends to lawmakers, as was the case pre-1967 for interracial marriage and pre-2015 for same-sex marriage, it can violate the rights of taxpaying citizens.

If marriage is inherently a gender institution then it not a matter of opinion. If marriage continue to bend to the will of the people then marriage will cease to exist.

It's really not that hard to define. Here's a definition from Wikipedia:

"Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws."

That definition hasn't really changed. The rights and obligations have, but the concept of marriage has been the same for centuries. The only thing that Obergefell v. Hodges changed was the arbitrary gender distinction. There's no reason why marriage should only be between men and women. We know that now. That's not called "bending to the will of the people," it's called recognizing a flaw in the system and changing it, just like we did with woman's suffrage and interracial marriage. There's no need to go sliding off a slippery slope.

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Preventing two autonomous, consenting individuals from marrying is a violation of their rights if their union doesn't impose on the rights of others or present any serious health concerns (incest). Gay people didn't need to be thrown in jail for their rights to have been violated.


Gay people being thrown in jail would have been proof that the state saw gay marriage as being against the law, which they did not. But the state did see inter-ethnic marriage being against the law thus why inter-ethnic couples were imprisoned. That is not a small insignificant fact, that is very significant and it shouldn't be easily dismissed. Gay couples were not prevented from being together the same way inter-ethnic couples were prevented because unlike inter-ethnic couples they didn't face the threat of imprisonment.


I think you meant conversation ;)


Thanks for finding a typo, to bad I never claimed to be an expert in grammar otherwise that would have undermined everything that I said thus far.


And of course opposing same-sex marriage is bigoted. The broad definition of bigotry is simply intolerance to others' opinions and views, but it's especially problematic with interracial and same-sex marriage because there's no logical reason to be opposed to those unions; they don't disadvantage anybody. To be offended by something that isn't harmful is both bigoted and stupid. When bigotry extends to lawmakers, as was the case pre-1967 for interracial marriage and pre-2015 for same-sex marriage, it can violate the rights of taxpaying citizens.


No, you can't be bigoted towards opinions and views. That is self-defeating, that is like saying being intolerant of those who hold racist points of views is bigoted. Btw, you think people who oppose gay marriage are bigoted; so aren't you being bigoted by not being more tolerant of their opinion? Don't you see how nonsensical that definition of bigotry is? Furthermore, I never claimed to be offended by gay marriage, I was merely making the point that challenging the idea of gay marriage isn't necessarily because of bigotry. Yes, it's true there was no logical reason to prohibit inter-ethnic marriage. But that doesn't mean the same is true for gay marriage as again, those are two fundamentally different situations.

It's really not that hard to define. Here's a definition from Wikipedia:

"Marriage, also called matrimony or wedlock, is a socially or ritually recognized union between spouses that establishes rights and obligations between them, between them and their children, and between them and their in-laws."

That definition hasn't really changed. The rights and obligations have, but the concept of marriage has been the same for centuries. The only thing that Obergefell v. Hodges changed was the arbitrary gender distinction. There's no reason why marriage should only be between men and women. We know that now. That's not called "bending to the will of the people," it's called recognizing a flaw in the system and changing it, just like we did with woman's suffrage and interracial marriage. There's no need to go sliding off a slippery slope.


Yes, it has changed from being a sexual institution to being a post-sexual institution. It went from being a marriage between the opposite sex, from being a marriage with just two people. Marriage being between a man and a woman wasn't just a small characteristic, but was at the center of what defined marriage. You say that Obergefell v. Hodges changed arbitrary gender definition. But there are two problems with this, first there is difference between sex and gender. So even though gender norms/roles are arbitrary, sex is not. Also, there is a reason for sex difference as without these difference there would be no procreation. And I know what you're going to say not all hetero couples are fertile or even want to have children. True, but even if a hetero couple can't have children they are still sexually complementary in a way that two men or two women are not. By conflating same-sex marriage with inter-ethnic marriage and women suffrage you're not looking at all the nuance and complexities of this issue and instead are thinking in vague generalities.

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Interracial marriage/dating has a long history in the USA, mainly because of the country's years of slavery.

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