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I don't understand the concept of being "Trapped" in a marriage.

posted 9 years ago by LadySpice
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Seriously, if its not a period movie...how can one be trapped in a loveless marriage. Dude, just get divorced. How are you trapped? Makes no sense to me...unless its like the middle ages where either there was no divorce or women had no rights to leave their husband...or you're the King & Queen and divorce just isn't done. Or its one of those political/arranged marriages where a peace treaty hangs in the balance. Outside of these reasons dictated by the history of the period...I can't see anyone being trapped.

I mean, if you're that miserable (and they clearly are in this movie), just leave. What's the problem?!

[–] maifeibu 9 years ago

I would imagine that amidst all the possible reasons for feeling trapped in a marriage is the one I believe is the case in this movie: He is in love with or still deeply loves his wife, but she is non-responsive to him or their marriage, being so self-absorbed in self-pity, self-destruction, and whatever else is running through her mind. When one loves someone who does not love one back, it is not that easy to let go.

[–] thechristophershow 9 years ago

"Dude, just get a divorce."

Our society is f'd.

[–] Howlin Wolf 8 years ago

I wouldn't let myself get stuck in such a situation, either - but some people are just mentally lazy; it's inertia. Trapped by options. There's so many different things you could do, but in the end you just do none, because as much as you hate your present, you are frightened by change.

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[–] bruce-129 8 years ago

Get some life experience before you bust out so opinionated.
There are lots of things to live for other than love and many different types of love too.