Could you stay friends?

❤️️I'm not so sure. I'm a bit like Grace. Very private..... until I get use to an idea. Change has to be on my terms.
I suppose though that I could possibly take comfort from the person who is going through the same thing I'm going through..... that, or move as far away as possible. she may just be a cruel reminder of the pain I'd be going through.
That's a tough one to ponder.

I am aware of a very similiar real life situation and there the ex-husband and wife did indeed stay on amicable terms.

I am gay and in my 50s, but I moved to a larger city (Atl) several decades ago, so I'm more used to an atmosphere people more people are used to it, as opposed to say, Boise Idaho or Huntington WV, etc. I have known two couples where something like this happened - one, a husband came out to the wife as gay, and the other, the wife came out as bisexual to the Husband.

There seems to be a lot more acceptance in western society with women coming out, especially if they are bisexual. Maybe it's the fact that many straight men have woman-on-woman fantasies and while it's upsetting to find this out about your wife, it might stimulate them too (?). For women finding out their husbands are gay, it can go one of two ways... they either don't feel quite as threatened about it than if he has an affair with another woman, or, they feel even WORSE, as if thinking, "OMG, what was so wrong he went to MEN??", kind of thing. No one reaction in that way.

In 2020 you would THINK we'd be at the point where gay men or women would not feel the need to try to suppress who they are, and marry the opposite sex to "hide it", yet, there are plenty of people who do so. Again, many might live in more rural areas or smaller cities where people are (still) intolerant of it. They might be afraid of losing their families (it still happens), friends, and even their jobs. And of course, religion always kicks in too, especially in the South. Luckily I've never felt the reason to go down that path, as I've always been the type that has the attitude of, "You either like/accept me as I am, or I don't need you in my life", etc. But I do feel for those who feel trapped and feel for their spouses who get caught up in the lies, etc.