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I find movies like this so disrespectful.


As the son of a paraplegic, what gives these spoilt overpaid actors the right to act out the pain, and suffering my father, and many others, go through every day? I mean, I guess it's fun to "act" out this pain for half a year, but then they can go back to their luxurious lifestyles partying, and swimming in money. But they don't actually have to live it. The depression from feeling useless. Honestly, I hate celebrity culture. And I hate what our society has become. We live in an idiocracy.

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I understand. From depression, to disease and illness..its all romanticised. And especially when you are having to watch a loved one go through such a terrible thing, it can feel or seem as if you as well as your loved on is being mocked. And that it is easy for actors to act and pretend they have the disease without actually feeling and having it. Because if they did, they would wish to god they never did. It feels like you are cold for certain things in life because of what you have had to go through. These actors may be overpaid and over praised, but in no way, can any of us judge or label them. Because just like we can label them, they can label us too. I understand your pain and the suffering of your father. And that no movie can ever amount or stand against what he, you or your family have had to go through. But you must know nobody is trying to mock you or make you feel the way you do. Its okay to feel pained, scared or useless. But it is never okay to take all those emotions and allow it to turn us cold. Many industries are here to make money. Thats what they do. They want profit. And it can be looked at and seen as disgusting. They have millions, billions either and most of us don't even have a million in a lifetime. But in the end, we aren't any different but we just are not the same either. We are all at different places in life. Some are made of money, others are not. Some are rich, some are poor. Some are starving, some are gorging on food. Its just the way it is. And we can do something about it. We can fight and raise money. We can shed blood, sweat and tears to fight against the cold, cruel things in this world and help to make them better. But judging, labeling and allowing pain to change us will never help. No amount of apologies is enough, but i am sorry seeing the trailer for this movie has made you feel such a way. I understand, and have felt like that too towards a certain thing in life. Take care and i wish the best for you and your family.

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I also very much doubt they do it or feel the emotion of 'fun' whilst they are acting. That just is not how it is nor intended. Acting is acting. Living is living. Again, we are all doing and experiencing and going through different things in life. The world is cold. Many things are overlooked and need to be changed and fought for. But that doesnt mean the 'good' things in life or the fact that others may have more than us are disgusting or shouldn't exist. They do exist, and thats just that. Again, take care.

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Portraying something is NOT "romanticizing" it.

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Yes, i am aware

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You haven't even seen the movie yet. You don't know how it's going to be.

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As a paraplegic myself, I was excited when I saw the trailer because it portrayed a disabled person in a romantic role, and as far as I know, that's never been done before in a movie.

-Carry on.-

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As a paraplegic myself, I was excited when I saw the trailer because it portrayed a disabled person in a romantic role, and as far as I know, that's never been done before in a movie.


finally a positive attitude. as a paraplegic myself, that's one of the things i'm excited for about the movie as well. it gives me hope that i can one day find love, because right now i can tell you, the way my health is going, i constantly ask myself 'who's ever going to love me enough to want to deal with all my crap?'. it's a real insecurity of mine.

furthermore, not to spoil the subject matter too much, but knowing how the film turns out, i don't see how in any way, shape or form this film can be romanticized. for lou not to be enough for will to not want to die is just about the least romantic thing i can think of! it'd be romantic if she changes his mind, but she doesn't. and honestly, i find that refreshing because if i was in his position, i would do the same thing. I'm not suicidal but I sure as hell am not looking forward to the next 80 years in this lousy body. if anything, i'm excited for this film to open up a good dialogue of quality vs quantity of life.

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There is 'Coming Home' 1978 which starred Jon Voight and Jane Fonda, 'The Other Side of the Mountain' 1975 and Marlon Brando's 'The Men' 1950. These films are old but they all feature paraplegics in romantic roles.

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Grow up. Seriously.

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um I guess you can say the same about people who play slaves, or concentration camp victims, aids sufferers, the list goes on

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If the actors were playing this as broad comedy, perhaps, but I don't think that's the case. No one is being insulted. It is not like hiring white actors to play other races (Mickey Rooney, Breakfast at Tiffany's) *brrrrrrrr* or hearing actors to play Deaf roles (Johnny Belinda).

As many have pointed out, it is highly likely the male lead makes a miraculous recovery and walks at the end. No para- or quadriplegic can actually play that role, sadly. Neither can they play a person without spinal cord damage who then becomes paralysed. Or suffers a motor neurone disease, which is how Eddie Redmayne stole the Oscar from the Cucumber himself, Sir Benedict. (Come on, you say The Imitation Game! Talk about making you cry...)

We all have limitations. *I am Emily Blunt's identical twin! I am Emily Blunt's identical twin!* Nope. Neither English, young enough, nor beautiful. See? Can't reverse that.

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I agree. How DARE people who are paid to pretend, pretend to be something they're not. George Clooney NEVER went to med school but they let him be a doctor for like 7 years. Absolute nonsense. Oh, remember that movie where Stallone was an INDY car driver? He wasn't REALLY an INDY car driver. How dare he. It's disrespectful.


See how stupid I sound? That's how stupid you sound.

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So actors shouldn't act nowadays? Every role should be tailor-made for a human being who falls under the exact circumstances in said role? Cry me a river kid.

"Wahhh my dad is crippled so this movie is offensive to me! My dad should be in this movie instead! Wahhh"

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Worthless actors will always profit off of low IQ idiots like yourself. Here's the RT analysis.


Me Before You benefits from Emilia Clarke and Sam Claflin's alluring chemistry, although it isn't enough to compensate for its clumsy treatment of a sensitive subject.

Read it and weep as you realise that you are completely retarded.

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Idgaf. I'm not even going to see this movie. You know what's retarded? B-tching about the fact that actors are in fact, acting. It's their job to pretend to be something they're not. Just like it's your job to be a walking waste of oxygen.

Now run along kid. Go make some more indignant posts while you cry yourself to sleep in your mother's basement.

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Your lack of self awareness is just adorable.

I don't give a sh!t about money.

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I was thinking the same about your lack of common sense, touch with reality, and a job.

You're the same kind of idiot that preaches about atheism all day while talking sh-t about evangelical religious folk.

Your mother is starting to resent you. Move out.

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And your mother thinks you're a waste of human life, and that you deserve to die! Look, I can make completely over the top insinuations, too! You utter idiot.

I don't give a sh!t about money.

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On a serious note, end your life. Donate your body to a medical science morgue. Maybe one day it'll be able to help your father walk again. I bet he doesn't spend his life complaining about actor's finances or the fact that they're, you know... acting.

It's the only way your life will ever have any meaning. You're welcome in advance for the advice.

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On a serious note, you're hilarious and I enjoy your trolling! 

I don't give a sh!t about money.

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So actors shouldn't be allowed to act? Or I guess they are only allowed to play parts for things they have actually done in real life. So basically 99% of the movies out there shouldn't exist. Since pretty every movie contains actors portraying situations that they themselves have not been in.

If this is idiocracy you are exhibit A.

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Dude just cause your dad is a handi no need to be so angry. Look at the bright side you must be able to get kick ass parking spots.

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Anonymity is perfect for you trolls. But seriously. I hope one day you finally have the balls to take the overdose.

I don't give a sh!t about money.

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So now you're telling people to commit suicide because they oppose your point of view? Really dude?

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Do you only read what you want to read? The guys a troll. There is no reasoning with the unreasonable.

I don't give a sh!t about money.

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I know, I've read your posts.

I love your signature, it contrasts so well with your anger that actors make a lot of money due to the fact their projects make even more money.

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You're boring.

I don't give a sh!t about money. - Quote from Mr Robot.

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Well we all have problems in life. Your problem is not really your father's disability, it's your feelings about it.

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